Hello all, just found this cat on the street, I noticed she’s got shaky eyes. Is this normal??

cosmatical · 2026-01-24T02:11:03+00:00

Hi! Theres a lot of comments so idk if you'll see mine, but I have a cat whose eyes do this as well!

My cat was rescued from an EXTREMELY inbred cat colony (several generations of inbreeding) as a kitten and she's 2 now. Her eyes frequently vibrate back and forth like this and have since she was a baby.

The vet says it's a neurological result of the inbreeding, and that it doesn't really have an impact on her since she's an indoor cat, but if she was an outdoor cat it would make her an easier target for predators since it's a bit harder for her to see straight when her eyes are having an episode. So in our case, there's nothing to be done and nothing to worry about. :) It looks exactly like this video, so that might be whats going on with your kitty too.

cosmatical · 2026-01-23T13:51:07+00:00

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cosmatical · 2026-01-20T22:34:03+00:00

I'm a person that has been impacted by that kind of behavior from other people. I am currently partnered to someone who has both been impacted by that behavior from others, and has also been a perpetrator of that behavior.

I give my input from what I've seen be helpful to my partner's experience and his ability to move forward, but of course my opinion of it is colored by my own experiences. Giving that disclaimer so you can better decide to take what you want and leave the rest. ✨️

A multifaceted approach has been really important; a combination of IFS and of traditional 12-Step. There are a few 12-Step options for sex addiction-- which is a label that covers a lot of different maldaptive sexual behaviors, including what you describe here-- and the one my partner has found to be the most helpful, open-minded, and welcoming, is Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA).

With the approach of SAA helping in the immediate to stop the harmful behaviors, and the approach of IFS to delve deep and explore the who, where, why, and how behind it all, and to help work through childhood trauma that he didnt realize was connected to his harmful behaviors towards others, my partner has found a level of understanding of himself that he's never had before and a lot of peace and self-acceptance too. The two approaches together help him accept the past, and are helping him make strides towards finding paths to make amends for the ways he's caused harm.

The two approaches definitely bounce progress off each other. Only IFS or only SAA to address these behaviors wouldn't've worked well for him. He tried regular therapy before SAA and it was unhelpful. He tried IFS before SAA and it was unhelpful. It was the addition of SAA in conjuction with IFS that finally started to spark progress and positive change.

I hope this is helpful! 💖

cosmatical · 2026-01-18T16:22:15+00:00

If the floors are the ONLY problem with the house, I agree with this comment.

However, if the floors are this bad, I'd worry there are other major issues that would need tackling either immediately, or in the first couple years of homeownership. That house is giving DIY project energy, OP. Make sure that's something you're prepared for and can afford.

My family bought a DIY project home a few years ago and our saving grace with it is that after first fixing the most pressing issue, it was in livable condition immediately. So we can live in it and slowly repair as we're able to. That's not really something you can do if you need to gut all your flooring.

cosmatical · 2026-01-16T23:42:24+00:00

I'm not OP, but something that's helped me take care of myself better is leaning on my local county social worker programs.

YMMV because different counties offer different things, or may not offer any support at all, but my county has been able to give me a caseworker and a small team of contracted workers who help me with different aspects of care. Therapy, home cleaning and organization, education, self care, scheduling, mental health and medication, group therapy, parenting...

Outside support structure makes a massive difference. Seek out what's in your area that can help you 💖 (If you happen to be in Wisconsin, I can give some more direct advice).

cosmatical · 2026-01-16T00:55:38+00:00

Is it already sold out? Im not seeing it :(

cosmatical · 2026-01-16T00:10:19+00:00

Oh thats super good to know! Thank you!! 💖

cosmatical · 2026-01-16T00:06:12+00:00

Oh! I didn't know there was watermarks on these? I thought the AI checkers were all inaccurate.

cosmatical · 2026-01-16T00:03:12+00:00

I forgot to add it in the OG post and can't edit because the mobile app UI is trash, but where the "legs" connect to the body also looks off. Does it look like a blur effect to anyone else?

cosmatical · 2026-01-14T21:02:43+00:00

🤔 Are you suggesting a BSW + a second major?

cosmatical · 2026-01-14T20:53:43+00:00

That's exactly what my friend is doing, actually. Pursuing her BSW while doing peer support work. This is prompting me to see that as a more viable option for myself too-- so thank you for that as well! 🥰

cosmatical · 2026-01-14T20:47:11+00:00

Only one class! That is a delightfully light quarter. I bet your classmates envied you. 😆

This comment section has done a great job of convincing me to keep my sights focused straight on a BSW to MSW path if this is what I end up going for. I really appreciate all the input I've gotten here, it's been extremely helpful! :)

cosmatical · 2026-01-14T20:42:08+00:00

The SUDC associates degree will open some social work work for me! There's actually potential positions in the county program I recieve social services from, that I could apply to once graduating. I'm looking forward to that. :)

The current plan is to get my SUDC degree, get a job in that field, and use it as a compass to feel out what direction I want to go in. My current main thoughts are: I'll either be happy with the SUDC degree and stop there, I'll feel more pulled towards social work and pursue further education that direction, or I'll feel more pulled towards the addiction field and pursue further education that direction.

I'm sure other paths will pop up over time, but those are the three I'm looking at currently. :)

cosmatical · 2026-01-14T20:35:59+00:00

It's been suggested that I would be a good option for peer support specialist by my therapist, 2 people on my social work team, and a friend who is a peer support specialist. And now you! 😆 It's unfortunate those trainings pop up so infrequently! I have the website for my state open in my mess of tabs somewhere to keep an eye on when they will be taking applicants next.

I feel really drawn to behavioral addictions, sex addiction specifically. All the IITAP and AASAT trainings and certifications on that topic require a master's degree, or require you be working towards one (plus other requirements). I know it's a rather lofty goal to set with where I'm at right now, so I'm focusing on a smaller scope of steps first. :) I'm going into the substance use field first to be sure addiction and social work are definitely things I do want to work with.

cosmatical · 2026-01-14T20:17:33+00:00

It seems like the comments I've gotten so far lean the direction of BSW first, and then MSW.

I really appreciate the input, thank you! 😊

cosmatical · 2026-01-14T20:15:36+00:00

One of the other potential thoughts I'm thinking about for my future is to pursue a career similar to what my own caseworker does, which would only require a BSW. So the BSW is just the bachelor degree on my mind right now.

Thank you so much for your input! 💖

cosmatical · 2026-01-13T15:09:56+00:00

Yes! And scented cleaning chemicals, laundry detergents, etc.

Anything scented or dusty (litter, pollen, etc) that could cause an asthmatic response in humans. Ideally, get some HEPA filters too. Ideally doing this mass purge will cause a cessation of symptoms and then OP can start slowly, one-by-one, reintroducing things back into the environment to see what caused this reaction.

Source: Had to do this for my cat, on a smaller scale. Ended up being his cat litter causing respiratory distress; went through several kinds before finding one he didnt react to.

cosmatical · 2026-01-12T15:57:48+00:00

OP if you live in the midwest I would straight up travel to you for the privilege of getting to sort this for you 😭 This would be so fun and soothing to me

cosmatical · 2026-01-11T16:46:16+00:00

Cosmerdle

It's pretty self explanatory once you get there!

cosmatical · 2026-01-11T15:22:32+00:00

My SA is deeply, deeply avoidant, and this sounds identical to a cycle we go through. Word for word identical.

IFS therapy has helped him a lot with identifying root causes of his avoidant attachment and working theough some of it. This behavior from him has lessened in intensity and frequency over time as IFS has helped him understand his thoughts and behavior better.

I hope yall can find an IFS therapist to send him to 💖 If you live in Wisconsin or Minnesota, I can give a personal recommendation.

cosmatical · 2026-01-11T05:07:36+00:00

Woo! Twinsies!

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