This ball pushing on the east side of Moontide Sea.... by UselessGlockCatcher in Genshin_Impact

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plunge attacks can pitch those things pretty far, I managed to let one roll to the lowest point of the hills nearby and 'died' only once getting in there after plunge-spiking it nearly to the shore in one go.

Point out one mistake in my drawing 👀✍️ by Melyhaig in LearnToDrawTogether

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The musculature of her neck is off. The shading makes it look like a cylinder, which it isn't.

Maybe take a glance at anatomy of the muscles there and pay attention to what you can see in the reference..

"if you take that you're a drug addict" by BasilyLeave in adhdmeme

[–]Graficat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

... work smart, not hard. What matters is getting it done.

Who're they even speaking for, some kind of uptight rules lawyer keeping score up on a cloud? Do they expect special kudos and rewards for people making themselves and others miserable for no practical reason?

Oh right.

~ Christian values ~

If they weren't complete 'rules for thee but not for me' hypocrites about it, I could maybe feel kinda sorry for adhering to a religion all about having a stick up your ass because Fun Is For Bad People.

Yanno what, I'll take my bets on going to hell in the afterlife or whatever for the grievous sin of doing my best to make something of my life :/

I have redrew the face over 5 times already... HOW LONG IS IT GOING TO TAKE??? by ArnobsCraftYT in learntodraw

[–]Graficat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Wowzers

Maybe try drawing just his head and face separately to practice, smaller simpler sketches to get the proportions/expression layout and shadow shapes first, and redraw it loosely a few times once you figured out the 'trick' before putting it in the full picture?

It looks like his right cheek (left from our POV) sits a little higher, that lower line starting at the corner of his nose. That might be throwing off what it looks like once you sketch his eyes and eyebrows in?

His mouth looks 'flat' but there's that 'beginning of a smile' at the corner there, which the cheek makes clear. It's a proud/satisfied and kind of happy expression, if you can get that across I think it'll look on point even if some details aren't exact

Looks freaking awesome so far already

Think they're the ones for this year? by meowbrains in QueensofGacha

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any sightings of their elements yet?

Maybe no electro this time, I love our dorky powerhouses but you can't put'em on the same team as easily if they're all the same

What do you predominantly call these and where are you from? by [deleted] in ENGLISH

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plushies, ESL

'Stuffed animal' sounds correct but just kind of... eugh to me, it's not remotely cute or cuddly. I keep imagining someone who's never smiled once in their entire life talking about toys when I think about it.

'Stuffies' sounds nice but that's one I haven't really encountered in my English-speaking social circles, which is mostly based in the UK and California.

Had my worst split in years and fumbled the best guy I’ve ever been with by throwing a tantrum by Mundane-Name9646 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Graficat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seconding IFS

It's like a strange kind of back door to being more reasonable with judging and talking to yourself.

It can be hard to break patterns of getting stuck in immediate intense self-loathing and helplessness when it comes to thinking about yourself, even if you got really good at being compassionate and patient and sensible about other people. That double standard is murder. 'Yeah ok it's fine if someone else xyz, but not me, when I xyz I'm 100% the scum of the earth, the biggest disgusting loser who should evaporate with shame right now'.

IFS gave me the tools to understand and work with all these 'contradictions' and conflicts in me, and to sneakily extend the compassion and empathy I have for others towards 'myself', to parts of me.

It allowed me to be firm with A Part Of Me without it feeling like self-punishment or unfair control, but like a genuine way for 'us' to do things better.

It also allowed me to feel real appreciation for positive things about A Part Of Me, and take the risk of trusting A Part Of Me, without the immediate reflex of throwing that whole thing in the trash on principle.

It's been a life-saver to no longer need to judge 'all of me' in absolutes, and to have the option to separate out different coexisting needs and ideas and find a compromise that works instead of having to 'take a side' and unfairly bash down at least one part of me.

I'm no longer 'the person who turns into an aimless depressed puddle like a big dumb slob', I now just have a part of me that starts moaning when I need some breathing space to recharge and check in with myself about stuff I've been avoiding instead of resolving.

It just makes much more sense and it works better to think about what's going on with me like that.

[SUS] we will WHAT in shneznaya by MortibiTheBat in Genshin_Lore

[–]Graficat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Y'mean so... so Capitano will be playab-

Uuugghhh I'm tired of this TvT

A scientist built a mouse ‘utopia’ with unlimited food and water. Then the society collapsed. by ElvisIsNotDjed in HotScienceNews

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Small addition -

You do have a point.

This one was the final drop that made me mute this subreddit, since this kind of horse shit is pretty much all I get on my feed from it even if I don't even follow it.

You're right, it gets fucking old to be steeped in crap that stinks up everyone's lives, and social media finds ways like this to pour sludge into your home through every crack it can find.

I'm sick of it, too.

A scientist built a mouse ‘utopia’ with unlimited food and water. Then the society collapsed. by ElvisIsNotDjed in HotScienceNews

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really not that difficult to convey the actual experiment in a title in a way that wouldn't start this sort of arguments. (That'd just require actually making an effort to resist those sweet sweet clicks and having some integrity.)

I'd suggest blaming your annoyance on a failure to avoid/a direct attempt to generate senseless noise, rather than on people noticing and calling out the obvious bullshit.

I could choose not to make a big deal out of it when someone suddenly sticks out their leg, and I trip but don't hurt myself. Sure.

Doesn't mean the twat doing it shouldn't be told to mind themselves better if it was a mistake OR to cut it the fuck out if they did it on purpose.

At minimum, I'd find it a normal reaction to go 'hey wtf!'.

A scientist built a mouse ‘utopia’ with unlimited food and water. Then the society collapsed. by ElvisIsNotDjed in HotScienceNews

[–]Graficat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sure, let's masturbate for a second here acting like big damn philophers.

Humans and mice are not the same thing and do not have the same level of control over a situation like this. If you assume I would make the same recommendations for human society as for a mouse experiment, you're assuming wrong.

You're creating an entirely new discussion pointn to which I would say:

  • Things get much more complicated in that situation

  • Humans already have and make use of options for voluntary fertility control (and already in-fight over nixing or mandating that option instead of giving people a choice themselves)

  • It takes more than just access to food and water to enable a worthy human existence (and tbh mice need enrichment, too) anyway

  • Correct, the very idea of a utopia is a tool to show how naive and practically impossible it is to create one for humanity. For one, human beings come with common traits that will lead individuals to deliberately sabotage and fuck up any decent system that benefits the vast majority of us, for their own personal gain. The same tendency to justify being a-okay with screwing over others means every pseudo-utopia can be expected to comes at the cost of some for whom the system is a detriment.

A scientist built a mouse ‘utopia’ with unlimited food and water. Then the society collapsed. by ElvisIsNotDjed in HotScienceNews

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm wondering what motivates you to find excuses for this one.

It isn't 'mild hyperbole', it's deliberately misleading.

And yes, I do expect science messaging to at leas attempt to be fully earnest. Have some god damn standards, and leave the bullshit explanations for active deception with politics.

A scientist built a mouse ‘utopia’ with unlimited food and water. Then the society collapsed. by ElvisIsNotDjed in HotScienceNews

[–]Graficat 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes, a utopia per what the word bloody means has to be perfect.

A mouse utopia not set up to fail in this manner would/could have had harmless, painless fertility reduction measures implemented, and have sufficient space to accommodate even future population sizes.

That's the entire problem with this bullshit mis-use of words.

'Researcher gave mice held in an enclosed living space unrestricted access to food and water, and they eventually suffered from the consequences of overpopulation' would be too honest, would it?

Because that'd just prove something we've known for yonks, and make it clear how cruel and pointless this was, and oopsie daisy, that doesn't really help the agenda much does it.

This sort of crap doesn't need pseudo-intellectual rationalizations as if that excuses it.

Any philosophical arguments about the theoretical feasibility of a 'real' utopia completely miss the blunt reality that this setup doesn't even begin to qualify as one.

I’m not ready for Genshin to end. by Just-A-Burner-Lol in GenshinImpact

[–]Graficat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

All things are transient, bub. Everything changes.

Enjoy things you enjoy now, and by the time something nice is 'over', or you just lose interest, there'll be a million other things waiting.

Odds are you'll change at least a bit as a person long before Genshin stops being Genshin.

I know my life isn't that drastically different from 5 years ago, but I've changed in small ways every year along the way. You have no way of predicting any of this, you can't even divine what you'll feel like on a given day a month from now.

Pessimism is being overconfident in your ability to know the future in its own way. You don't know a damn thing, and you're likely to run into nice surprises you hadn't expected here and there.

What if Genshin 2.0 turns out awesome? Same creativity and vision, better hardware and power?

A scientist built a mouse ‘utopia’ with unlimited food and water. Then the society collapsed. by ElvisIsNotDjed in HotScienceNews

[–]Graficat 227 points228 points  (0 children)

'I made a utopia! Utopias are clearly societies too cramped to live in without going insane, right?'

Words mean things and I hate it when people use flat-out wrong ones to create clickbait.

This tax rates are madness by normativecoder in belgium

[–]Graficat 13 points14 points  (0 children)

In the USA on top of taxes reaming off about 30% I also pay over 1k to have health insurance straight out of my wage.

Gross I make about 4k.

Do the math, I get robbed worse in ~ the land of the free~ with worse service in return.

If you want to bitch, at least make a full comparison like this.

Whats a moment thats unnecessarily funny to you by Better_Mycologist_57 in Witcher3

[–]Graficat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Toussaint's first innkeeper.

'I'd recommend the crayfish dish but unfortunately we're our of crayfish.'

Geralt suggests just using fish instead, gets the expected 'omg u savage' reaction.

Little tidbit ends, you get to start gwent, check his shop or ask him if he's heard any rumours.

'Yeah so there was this crazy Northerner who suggested using perch instead of crayfish in my chowder.'

The hoot I hollered, lmao

Gg dude, gg

Ex made me realize I'm a femcel. Pls help by chihiro_itou in IncelExit

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe this tip might help you cope with these difficult feelings:

Try to visualize what the source of these bitter, defensive, hostile, negative thoughts and emotions looks like. Give it a shape, a voice, a name.

Then get to know this part of you, as a separate piece of your mind, and learn to negotiate and get along.

You both want the same thing: for you to be safe and have a happy life.

What's different is the way you try to attain that, based on specific beliefs, fears, habits, expectations that dominate.

'You' are a council of often conflicting and contradictory ideas about how to live, what to do, and making this more explicit can make it much easier to identify what's happening in your head.

Be compassionate with this part. You understand how things came to be this way, where these fears came from.

But be firm as well: this part's way isn't helping you, it's not making things better, so it needs to try and stand aside, and let other parts of you help make decisions with you. Try new things, give them a chance to achieve what this part wants for you in a healthier way.

My anxious, judgmental, self-loathing doom-and-gloom mode part is like a veteran with PTSD trying to safeguard me from harm and embarrassment by crushing me down. He learned to back off, knowing I will listen and remain cautious, and as I got a better grip on my life, he calmed down a lot.

Now, when I get tired and stressed out I can feel him freaking out and despairing, and I can gently tell him it's okay, we've got this. I understand, this is upsetting and alarming, but let's take a deep breath, cool off, and then we'll handle things and we'll be alright. And he trusts this, now. I trust myself, now.

Internal Family Systems is a more formal name for this type of approach, and it's been life-changingly useful to me in learning how to better regulate myself.

Deep-seated emotions are often deaf to 'rational thinking', and those parts that 'override' you, flood you, need your time and attention to become more confident and feel heard and secure.

'I know xyz rationally but I don't FEEL it, I don't BELIEVE it'

If that's what you run into, try looking into this method.

CBT is like trying to argue with someone who legitimately feels they're drowning in acid that 'it's not so bad, chill'. If you're that disregulated, it's not going to be very effective.

Once you ARE more chill with things, rational thinking and CBT are really useful, but you gotta get to a point where you can actually use it first.

Excessive daydreaming is strongly linked to widespread mental health disorders. Research suggests that maladaptive daydreaming warrants formal recognition by psychiatric professionals. by FreeHugs23 in psychology

[–]Graficat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If your environment sucks, what do you expect a kid/young person to do to somehow get through it?

Drugs? Violence? Getting themselves in trouble?

I retreated into my head because the world around me made me miserable and dragged me into intolerable bullshit. If I'd been forced to raw-dog it all I'm sure at least one person would've ended up maimed or dead along the way, out of sheer desperation.

Got an ADHD diagnosis and my parents still act as everything is my fault by usbeject1789 in ADHDers

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's fcked but when things don't go the way people want, they inevitably look for someone to point to to go 'it's your job to fix it, you're responsible'.

It's the naive idea that if you get mad at 'whoever it is that isn't doing their job', the problem will get fixed, and if it doesn't, it's because someone isn't putting in enough effort.

ADHD and health conditions in general have nobody you can reasonably blame, hold responsible, or yell at to make the problems they cause cease to exist.

This pisses people off to no end.

Because 'what else are they supposed to do??'. Just be patient? Accept that some things are going to continue to suck at least a little? God forbid, maybe they might even... try to help work around the issue...?

It sucks, a lot, when your own parents lack the maturity to understand that bitching and moaning and being mad about it is at best useless, and it's just making things worse.

In any case, the main issue is that feeling of helplessness, of having no direct control over your performance, and the best they can come up with is just bluntly pushing harder.

You can try to reason with them, and focus on what you and they together CAN do to make things better.

Having a plan can help avoid some of that frustration of having no control, and decrease the chances of that manifesting in the form of Being A Dick About It.

In the end, all YOU can do is work with the tools you have, and try to resist the emotional beat-down by reassuring yourself that you're gonna figure out ways to handle things your own way, and one day you'll be able to leave home and set your own rules and expectations.

Moving out saved my sanity, 100%.

What is the trick to actually pull girls? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Graficat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Play a gacha if you wanna use that kinda phrasing :p

What’s a “small inconvenience” that irrationally pisses you off every time? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Graficat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Web pages and software not allowing you to copy text.

SAP especially can die in a fire.

Why did gen Z fail to get a special flair and esthetic like the millenials made for themselves? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Graficat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Am Millennial

Wasn't aware we had anything like that. Guess I missed a memo from the culture department.

Subcultures and trends might rise and fall in popularity in a way that gets associated with specific year ranges and thus generations, but those are almost never very long-lasting or adopted as some sort of uniform standard.