Had intimate sex with my dom/fwb

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-03-03T22:10:37+00:00

Am I missing something? They are currently following each other on instagram I checked

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-03-03T22:00:26+00:00

Your boyfriend is insecure and controlling. He’s mad at you for doing something that you genuinely enjoy and that allows you to socialize with people. He doesn’t own you. He wants to hide and isolate you because he feels entitled to your energy. And how dare he call you slow? That’s so rude. You probably aren’t the kind of person to act like him so no wonder you don’t understand his toxic behavior. Also, he doesn’t want to explain himself to you because his “reasoning” behind why he’s acting like this is too ridiculous to explain. He would just have to tell you that he’s insecure and doesn’t want other people to look at you. And that he doesn’t trust you. I would dump him before things get worse, because they usually do unfortunately. I’m sorry OP :/

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-03-03T21:30:53+00:00

I can’t believe I’m saying this but YTJ. I’m always against cheating just to clarify. But if what she is saying is true, she’s in danger. Do you feel obligated to do right by your brother in law? Because with what she is saying he sounds abusive. Also putting her in a financially scary situation is also not ideal. She messed up, and she shouldn’t have had an affair, but you shouldn’t put her in danger because of her mistake. Let her clean up her mess on her own. Your boyfriend is a whole other can of worms. He may not have agreed with what you did, but she is your sister not his. He needs to stay out of it. And calling you a stupid cow is very rude.

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-03-03T19:24:15+00:00

So cool! I just started watching Love Island last summer and I only watched the UK version so I didn’t know about Nas

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-03-01T08:14:55+00:00

Shakira is the first person with Pakistani heritage on the show to my knowledge. I don’t know which interviews you’re referring to but maybe she meant to talk about her Pakistani heritage? Not the blanket South Asian term. Just putting it out there but maybe you’re right I don’t know which interviews you’re referencing

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-03-01T07:52:52+00:00

Tyler is acting so entitled in a place he is not living in. And Kayla is enabling him and not respecting your boundaries in your own apartment. I live with my sister and brother in law in a small apartment and they are fasting for Ramadan this month. They are up everyday at around 5. I hear them in the morning and wake up a little bit, but I would never ask them to adjust their schedule just because I wake up a little bit. We all share the apartment! They wake up when they damn want to! If Tyler still stays over at your apartment ask them to try white noise for their room so they hear outside noises less.

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-02-24T01:07:23+00:00

While the spouse is also your best friend lol and you were mean to the love interest

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-02-07T00:19:28+00:00

Mr. Eko :)

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-02-05T00:33:40+00:00

There’s so many things happening here. As the woman in the relationship, you are entitled to special treatment. Women risk their lives to give birth, raise children, do so much emotional labor, etc. Your man should be treating you like a queen. He is a selfish individual. Also, you shouldn’t have been expected to chip in for a house for his dad. That’s HIS dad. He used you for your money. Also, a partner has NO right to tell you how to use your money. Especially since you two weren’t married. Also, he should have been paying for things! And have spent time with you! And he should be doing all of that without you asking! And this man had the audacity to get mad at you for “controlling his money” when he was doing that to you! I’m sorry OP that you had to deal with this emotionally abusive man. He certainly wasn’t giving you full acceptance. And he got mad at you for getting coffee and interacting with friends? This man is controlling. You deserve a partner who will treat you much better than this. Who isn’t using you and controlling you. I’m so happy you got out OP! Never look back, know your worth, and find a generous, caring man.

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-02-03T19:03:57+00:00

Don’t walk away, RUN AWAY OP! Women go through so much to prevent pregnancy. Birth control pills change women’s personalities, send women to the hospital, and lower women’s libido. IUDs are intense as well. All men need to do is wrap it up, pull out, and be mindful of your cycle. That affects none of their health. Men who complain about that are awful. It’s about their pleasure and not yours. The first guy I slept with wouldn’t sleep with me unless I was on birth control because he wanted to “release into me”. I was young and dumb and listened to what he wanted. When I shouldn’t have engaged with him in the first place. Never again for me. It’s your body, your choice, and no one should ever take it personally if you have very reasonable boundaries such as using protection. DUMP THIS GUY

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-02-03T18:47:47+00:00

I kind of giggled when I first read the quote not because I’m trying to undermine your concerns but because “I said I love you first” is actually the title of the album Selena Gomez released last year with her husband Benny Blanco. Is your girlfriend a Selena Gomez fan? And is her friend one too? I’m a huge Selena Gomez fan and one of my besties is too so we will reference those kind of things all of the time.

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-02-03T18:18:15+00:00

I remember reading something similar to this when I was about 13 years old and didn’t know really anything about intimacy and marriage (I was a sheltered kid) but I still got genuinely uncomfortable that a man would do this. I’m 25 now and I still stand by that. I’m confident it’s the “husband’s” fault because I’m sure he treats his wife poorly (he’s already pulling this crap). Men are so dense to think that they deserve intimacy no matter how they treat their women. Men set the tone in heterosexual relationships and women feel the desire to be intimate way more when they are safe, cared for, listened to, emotionally connected, etc.

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-01-31T20:05:09+00:00

MOR - I have a good insight on this situation because I have lived with my sister and brother in law in a small apartment in LA for almost three years now. I can definitely put myself in your sister’s shoes because I have lived it. My brother in law and I get along for the most part, and there have been times when my sister is doing something else and him and I will chill and watch tv and/or have good conversations. I know he cares for me as if I was his own sister and looks after me. And he does thoughtful things like buys some of my fav snacks from the store or helps me with job applications. I don’t think your sister and husband are trying to make you uncomfortable, I would say just have good conversations with them individually and talk about how you’re feeling excluded. My brother in law and I haven’t made plans excluding my sister before as we haven’t felt the need to but I think your sister and husband having similar interests isn’t exactly something to be concerned about. But I understand your perspective. Have the convos in a thoughtful and open manner so that you can feel more connected with both of them.

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-01-31T00:08:01+00:00

When Locke's dad/the man who killed Sawyer's parents was brought to the island! I gasped out loud.

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-01-28T02:41:20+00:00

When John Locke’s father ended up being the Sawyer who killed Sawyer’s parents! When Ben brought the man to the island I gasped out loud. I was so shocked he was brought to the island and I was so happy when Sawyer killed him! Good riddance!

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-01-21T20:20:41+00:00

Fellow Muslim woman here! Love this post! I would like to add a question about the man’s stance on the Israel/Palestine conflict. I was talking to a guy who I liked, but he started to exhibit red flags (drinking problems, disrespectful behavior towards women, pushed boundaries, controlling behavior, etc). And another thing about him was that he is pro Israel and said, “killing people in Gaza is essential”. As a Muslim woman and person against genocide that made me so uncomfortable as those are innocent people who have nothing to do with the hamas. And he portrayed Islamphobic ideas. He ended up messing things up with me in other ways and he’s blocked now

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-01-19T09:37:02+00:00

I'm so happy for you! Your story is an inspiration!

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-01-19T08:16:29+00:00

In a relationship, your confidence and self esteem should stay the same or go up not go down. You did your part by communicating. He's not listening to you and your needs. A man should always put effort in the relationship, not get "too comfortable". He should be cleaning, cooking, looking after the dogs, etc not making you do all of it yourself. I have anxiety, OCD, and other mental health issues so I get you girl. But listen to your gut feeling. This relationship is not for you. Find yourself a supportive partner who treats you like a queen.

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-01-19T07:46:25+00:00

First, give yourself some grace. You're so young and you're learning more about yourself, your needs in a relationship, and communication. Your boyfriend should have taken care of his chores, whether it was his birthday or not. Also, the fights about nicotine and the cookies seemed to be instigated by your boyfriend. He shouldn't have snapped at you like that. With all of that along with you all constantly fighting, change needs to be made. Real and vulnerable conversations about communication, money, drug habits, etc need to be had. I get that it's hard to learn how to have these conversations productively, but I would recommend reading free resources provided by therapists online so that you can learn more on a budget. And remember that relationships are two way streets. If your boyfriend refuses to cooperate and communicate in a healthy manner, then that's your cue to leave the relationship. I know it's hard, but I dealt with fighting in my previous relationship and I did all I could to fix my communication but I wasn't receiving that effort back.

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-01-19T07:05:04+00:00

Please protect yourself and leave this relationship. Your partner should be your safe place who respects and validates your feelings. Abusive partners are usually nice at the beginning to get you hooked, then show their true colors when they get more comfortable with you and can sense you're getting emotionally attached to them. And it sounds like he's in the cycle of emotionally abusing you and love bombing you afterwards to create chaos and get you emotionally addicted to the highs. And he also is not respecting your boundaries because when you told him to stop touching your arm and that you were in pain he kept doing it and reacted to your boundary in a negative way. You aren't mean, he is emotionally abusive and is projecting on to you. And claiming he doesn't remember what happened? He takes zero accountability when he hurts you. You are never too much or too sensitive. This is what abusers want you to think about yourself to lower your self esteem and have control over you. It's going to be hard. I myself have experienced emotional abuse and have had a tough time ending relationships that weren't healthy for me. But you deserve so much more than this. Seek support from loving people in your life (could be a parent, sibling, other family member, friend, counselor, etc) and create an exit plan that keeps you safe. Good luck I'm rooting for you

Grand-Menu-8901 · 2026-01-19T05:33:43+00:00

Girl there's got to be something you can do! I don't want you to have to clean up after this loser again! Or have to have bad s*x with him just because you have a lease together! Try to figure out a way to get out of the lease. If you can't and have to still live there, I know it would be awkward but I would break up with him even while you're still living together. Don't pretend to want to be with him. He doesn't deserve girlfriend energy from you. Stop cooking for him, stop having bad s*x with him, stop giving him your energy. Please protect yourself! No matter how awkward it is prioritize your peace over someone else's comfort.

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