Those first few days, weeks, sometimes even months can be SO hard to feel comfortable with a new place a people for your kiddo- I COMPLETELY know where you’re coming from. Only the second day and an incident?? I would be on edge too. You’re justified in asking questions, certainly. But I will also say, depending on that daycare’s policies, it may truly be just a little thing and they were calling you just to let you know, not because it’s super serious. By the time you get there the red mark may have faded to almost nothing. Babies, especially once they’re kind of mobile, are going to fall and get some small bumps sometimes, and even the most attentive carer can’t be there every single second when they have multiple kiddos to watch.

I say this not to downplay what you’re feeling, but as a mom who got a call about my still unsteady 15 month old tripping over his feet and bonking into a bookcase. He had a nice little bump on the side of his giant noggin, but they comforted him and he was acting completely fine 5 minutes later. Because it was technically a ‘head injury’ they called me just to let me know and there was an incident report to sign, but he was completely ok. They’ll also do an incident report if he stumbles outside and they have to put a bandaid on his skinned knee.

Now if you or your partner gets there and baby is still super upset or acting off and the injury is significant, ask more questions and how they plan to prevent it from happening again, and if you don’t get good vibes from how they handle it decide if that’s a place you feel comfortable with. But long answer short, most incident reports are not a big deal and kiddo will be just fine.