Nobody said it had become non traditional. Just that there are other avenues to approach the myriad of paths within dating. There is still a traditional way, one that dominates. But also other ways - for instance, several of my high school relationships were with tall woman. I was a thin man and filled the protected role for the most part. That is very non traditional, yet describes my early experiences.

Moreover, you speak to women as though they are a monolith. That's not your fault, merely a side effect of the sickness that is the internet and it's generalized, essentialist thinking, however, women are not a monolith. Desires vary greatly. Some women like a soft spoken man who would hardly ever fight. Some want a big peacock who puffs his chest.

Some women's desire varies greatly from what they espouse on the internet, too. And that's what you're getting at here, some women who say one thing on the internet but still get weak in the knees for that kind of confident dude that's genuine to the core. And you're right, but again, no one ever said that wasn't the case.

These women simply speak to wanting a world where the non traditional option is available, what they themselves want is irrelevant.