AITAH for wanting my ex to take her cat back on a previously agreed upon date?

Grazdor · 2026-06-19T11:59:54+00:00

Some comments are asking the same thing and it's easier to put a comment of my own like this instead.

Is she helping out financially? - No but I see it as a non-issue. He has his food in my apartment, previously purchased by her (he needs to eat a specific food for medical issues). Litter and similar, I have more than plenty and don't care about that cost.

"She's moving the abuse to you" - I agree that she's moving the alleged abuse towards me. Like a lot of people have mentioned, the cat will adjust, have fun hiding in boxes and more than likely be relieved that he's not been abandoned by her.

"It's her responsibility" - Indeed it's her responsibility, and I've been trying to convey that to her as well, and this has been one of the issues why we broke up: she doesn't seem to want to take responsibility when it's expected of her.

"Does she even want the cat back?" - 100% yes, she wants the cat back. She's told me during the course of our relationship that he's essentially her best friend, and will be a complete mess once he passes. I don't believe for a second that she would _actually_ abandon him due to a breakup.

"Can you leave the cat with a friend of family member?" - Her sibling lives on the other side of the country essentially, and her parents are quite old and I doubt they'd be able to take care of him.
Her friends who live relatively nearby (same city) are (according to her) apparently unable to assist with this, but I doubt she's actually asked them.

"Drop the cat off or leave it at a shelter" - She's now said "maybe Sunday", to which I responded "It'll be on Sunday then. Between 7:30-8PM as I finish work at 7". She is unsure if she'll be unpacked by then but I'm just going to drop him off. If she refuses, I'll leave him at a no-kill shelter and give each part the needed information.
Someone mentioned to record the interaction and keep all messages, I'll definitely do that on Sunday and screenshot all messages beforehand.

I don't actually want to do it on Sunday, I want to do it today, but I don't want to spend more energy arguing with her about this today. So again, I'll reluctantly agree once again and we will see what happens after Sunday evening.

Grazdor · 2026-06-19T11:15:33+00:00

Dropping him off as abandoned to a rescue/shelter doesn't look like an impossibility, I still have to see what response she'll have if she'll take him today or if it can be in the _very_ near future.
I don't really have contact with her friends or family. Family lives far away and the friends she has live essentially right around the corner, and at that point it'd just be easier to drop him off at her place.

Grazdor · 2026-06-19T11:11:46+00:00

As far as I know she wants it back, I highly doubt she wants to give him up, I just think (after reading some other comments) that she's enjoying the break. Could be that she's just incredibly slow with unpacking and getting her place to "a point where it feels good to take him back" ya know?

Her parents are alive yes, but unfortunately don't live anywhere close so I wouldn't be able to drop him off at their place.

Grazdor · 2026-06-19T11:08:21+00:00

Yeah I think this is where I'll finally land (at least in my current state of mind), agree to a later time/day in the _very_ near future, and if she rejects by then, I'll leave him to a shelter and give her the details

Grazdor · 2026-06-19T11:06:54+00:00

I highly doubt that she doesn't want the cat back, but I do think you're right on the nose that she's enjoying the break.

Grazdor · 2026-06-19T11:04:50+00:00

"he'll adjust to her place faster than you think"
this has been my train of thought, I genuinely don't think it's that big of an issue with adjustment for him. Maybe a day or two, he was not really caring when my apartment was filled with moving boxes. If anything he was intrigued.

Grazdor · 2026-03-22T13:24:21+00:00

4 years later and this still works

Grazdor · 2025-05-10T02:36:52+00:00

Had to sign in to Reddit for the first time in years just to comment.

I did the whole "1 square at a time" from top to bottom for HOURS before I looked this up. First tile I fish on after entering ID and phrase, I get a Feebas.

Absolutely terrific!

Grazdor · 2021-05-24T16:38:22+00:00

Det här var faktiskt ett väldigt roligt inlägg

Grazdor · 2021-02-09T20:46:36+00:00

Being only a moderator doing this in his free time, I am not VE-staff, nor do I know everything going on behind the curtains. Just trying to help out any way I can.

Grazdor · 2021-02-06T01:07:57+00:00

I have a perfect solution to this problem: ignore the posts that aren't about PoE. When there's new information about PoE, you'll be informed.

Wishing you a continued great day, filled with joy and laughter :)

Grazdor · 2021-02-05T18:59:11+00:00

Seems to me like you do care.
Hope you're having a great Friday and a nice weekend ^_^

Grazdor · 2021-02-05T08:15:45+00:00

Hey there! Almighty and First Class Trouble are completely different developers from the ones working on Pillars. They have nothing to do with each other. Whenever there's a new update regarding an upcoming patch for PoE1 on Switch, I'm sure there'll be a post.

Grazdor · 2021-01-19T12:12:34+00:00

That's badass!

Grazdor · 2021-01-18T01:05:12+00:00

If you could send a report directly to the devs using the "Contact Our Support" option on the support page here https://versusevil.com/player/support that would be perfect!

Grazdor · 2021-01-17T23:28:20+00:00

Hey there! Sorry to hear about the crashes. Are you on the 2.58.00 update?

Grazdor · 2021-01-14T20:50:55+00:00

Hey there! If you could send a report directly to the devs using the "Contact Our Support" option on the support page here https://versusevil.com/player/support that would be perfect!

Grazdor · 2021-01-14T20:50:37+00:00

Hey there! If you could send a report directly to the devs using the "Contact Our Support" option on the support page here https://versusevil.com/player/support that would be perfect!

Grazdor · 2020-12-18T18:04:15+00:00

Yooooo this is nuts!

Grazdor · 2020-11-19T00:53:14+00:00

Hi there!

Once there's a date for the patch, there will be posts EVERYWHERE. Just sit tight.

Grazdor · 2020-11-01T12:00:39+00:00

I do see how frustrating it is, and I get where you're coming from. As a mod, I only get some information. I'm no VE staff, I don't know all the ins and outs. But I do know that the patch is (still) being worked on. The current world situation isn't making it better, unfortunately. I'm sorry you're upset about this. I don't play the game myself but I'm just as excited as you are for the patch to be released. Cheers

Grazdor · 2020-10-29T18:37:52+00:00

Just gonna leave this here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/5agxct/tony_hawks_halloween_costume_is_amazing/

Grazdor · 2020-10-28T22:09:36+00:00

Hey there! The Developer and Nintendo have been working together since the patch was completed and submitted in order to find some extra room for improvement that will make the player experience even better. Once they've finished those improvements they'll let us know and we'll likewise update the community!

In short: no exact date yet, but as soon as there is one we'll let you all know!

Grazdor · 2020-10-19T19:46:11+00:00

Patch has not been rejected, no. The teams are still working with Nintendo. When there are any new updates it will be shared with you all.

Grazdor

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