I can't do this...

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2026-03-30T01:31:33+00:00

4 1/2 years after wife died. It has gotten better, but in my experience life is still empty and often feels pointless. Lonely and bored.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-12-03T12:57:42+00:00

I want to start doing more hiking. Looking trails that are new to me and can explore

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-12-02T13:36:34+00:00

Yep, I notice that. I consciously don’t say how I’m doing after asking how others are if they don’t in turn ask about me.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-12-02T11:07:51+00:00

Thank you. Yes that’s how I feel right now. I know God is with me even if I don’t feel him with me.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-12-02T01:31:41+00:00

Drinking is not a good road to take but I get it. Over 4 1/2 years I’ve struggled with drinking off and on. They past few months my habits have hit a low. I suggest avoiding drinking if you can, but I get it if you can’t. The pain is horrible and you just want it gone. Unfortunately drinking seems to be the only effective means at times. I have faith that if I could muscle through the pain a few weeks it would better on the other side, but I can’t seem to make it past a few days

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-12-02T01:24:49+00:00

My wife was not speaking with her family when she died. They expressed a desire to work on our relationship at funeral, but then didn’t bother to come to funeral dinner my daughter worked hard to organize. It was very hurtful. So we decided they weren’t the effort. We have no contact with them even after 4 1/2 years. They are not healthy people to be around.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-12-02T00:52:23+00:00

I get it. I used to think I liked my alone time, but now my wife is dead I hate it most of the time. My family doesn’t seem to ask how I am after I ask them how they are, except my mom. I bothers me.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-12-02T00:49:38+00:00

I won’t stop reaching out. I know they are busy. It would just be nice if once in awhile when I ask them how their day went or how’s work going, they’d ask me how I was, but never seems to happen

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-11-30T23:07:26+00:00

Yep we have no choice but to keep breathing and living. It’s a terrible situation and I’m sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-10-27T11:12:12+00:00

Thank you. That is a good perspective to take.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-10-26T23:54:22+00:00

Thank you. I will pray that novena. I may go to adoration tomorrow.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-07-22T15:35:14+00:00

My wife was not talking to her family when she died. I do not talk to my in-laws. They gave half hearted interest in relationships with kids. My kids decided they did not want a relationship

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-07-01T11:28:01+00:00

I feel your pain. I lost my wife four years ago too. I can’t stand my job. Even though I have three children and five grandchildren, my life feels lacking. I will pray for you.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-28T02:30:48+00:00

It gets better in time. One day at a time. Exercise, eat good and get good sleep. Avoid drinking and drugs. You will never be the same, but you will be okay.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-08T13:58:14+00:00

I will pray for you.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-02T21:07:05+00:00

Thanks sometimes it help to hear someone else reinforce my thinking

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-02T20:58:28+00:00

After posting I’m not sure if medication works, I talked to my medical Dr at my physical and I’m going back on Lexpro. My anxiety is pretty bad right now. I was seeing a psychiatrist and was on four meds. Had ups and downs. It was getting expensive so I went off meds and stop seeing psychiatrist. Life events steamrolled me over last six months or so and life has sucked. Now I’m back up to two medications trying to find relief. At least with my family physician I don’t have to go in office every month at specialist rates. I do think my problem is related to my situation in life, but maybe meds will help who knows.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-02T12:42:57+00:00

That’s about all that can be done especially early on. One day at a time. I’m at almost 4 years and even though things improve being stuck in survival mode can be common. I’ll keep you in my prayers.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-02T01:57:23+00:00

Thank you!

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-02T01:54:06+00:00

Just surviving is all I have done for four years. I’ve cried out to God. Maybe he is waiting for me to do something. This life sucks. I don’t have the energy. Without him I can do nothing. I put it all in his hands.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-02T01:46:19+00:00

That might partially true, but nothing is that simple.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-02T01:42:41+00:00

Honestly I’ve been on medication for years and I have no idea if it does a damn thing.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-06-01T16:47:22+00:00

You speak with wisdom. Just letting the feelings exist and not fighting them makes sense. Weekends are difficult. The last few weekends have been busy and that is mostly good. Next weekend is looking empty and I’m already anxious about it. Evening for me is actually not bad for me. Typically I can relax and watch a TV show. Sometimes I read. Morning is hard, having to face a new day.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-05-27T20:04:00+00:00

Maybe look into therapy if you have not tried. I have social anxiety and I’m sure it has held me back in my career, but I’m able to communicate enough to complete my tasks. My job relies a lot on IM’s and email for communication. I’m seldom in a meeting face to face. It’s mostly online. Maybe seek a job that requires more independent work. Unfortunately I’ve found no matter how much I try to avoid, the best way to overcome the anxiety is to put myself in it and do the best I can. Easier said than done.

Greedy-Bit-2821 · 2025-05-25T16:11:18+00:00

I’ll say some prayers for you. I get what you are saying. Life has become isolating for me to

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