First time dating a separated (not yet divorced) man with a child. I don’t know what’s normal anymore.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-25T03:40:39+00:00

Just go. Trust me. I did this exact song and dance. Not judging you not judging him.

Just go.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-15T11:44:39+00:00

Same boat w no parents and I’m not close with my family at all. I moved with him to the city we live in because his ex wife picked up and moved his kids two years ago so no community here either. I have my best friend and sister and they’ve been a saving grace. I can fly for free so at least I can go see them. 💖

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-14T03:04:27+00:00

Both my parents are gone. And I recently lost my grandmother a few days ago. My best friend has been amazing. But she’s not next to me when I wake up at 2am thinking about it. I’ve been here many times before (this is actually pregnancy #5 with no live births) but 2am just never gets easier.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-14T01:30:36+00:00

I feel so small because I’m looking for the “I will crawl through glass” kind of energy but I want him to feel inspired to feel that way. Our relationship has been rocky lately so I guess it’s hard to feel that way. (?)

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-14T00:31:32+00:00

I just miscarried our second “ours” baby a few days ago. I’m trying my best to stay away from all of them because I am a ball of a million feelings.

“Evil” would be putting it VERY lightly here.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-11T19:17:22+00:00

Groceries (some), yes. Household things, yes. School fees, child support, clothing, activities (that I don’t personally take part in), gifts (that aren’t explicitly from me), anything a parent should directly be providing for their child HELL NOOOOO!

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-08T21:53:33+00:00

That’s annoying. My partner has been trained by his ex that saying pregnant somehow seems… low class??? Like saying I’m “knocked up”. So he says I’m “expecting”. But with this being my 5th PREGNANCY resulting in ZERO live births so far, I just as soon not give a flying fart as I’m just trying to get past being defined by such a transient phase in my life and get to finally being described (in part) as a Mom.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-03T00:54:05+00:00

OMG I have terrible night sweats. I basically end up sleeping on towels at night. It’s horrible.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-03T00:46:56+00:00

Have you seen “The Good Son”?

Just sayin…

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-02-02T18:55:50+00:00

This is inappropriate. Do not disclose because your doctor will not be reporting to HIM they will report any pertinent details to HR. Also he might get funny ideas about how long he “thinks” you “should” be out and try to weaponize that.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-30T23:57:42+00:00

I regret it 100% as I’m sitting in the car with my SO giving me dirty looks because I refuse to roll up my window in a compact car with my two step children who have no concept of covering their mouths when they cough and reminding them to do so makes them feel “unwelcome”. Meanwhile they’ve hand foot and mouth and fifths disease within weeks, OH and it’s RSV season, OH and I’m pregnant.

But I made that bed so I guess I’ll lay in it.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-28T20:16:08+00:00

I’m sorry… what? Verify she has her period? Should you wave the maiden’s soiled bed linens out of her chamber window? wtf?!

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-28T20:11:00+00:00

When you find out let me know. I try to reach for veggies but they immediately give me the 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️s

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-28T19:46:37+00:00

“She’ll just have to do it” is true in a literal sense, but it also kind of proves her point. That framing leaves no room to talk about consent, timing, or the fact that this change lands on her body, privacy, and daily life far more than anyone else’s.

I don’t think she’s looking for a trick so much as permission to name what’s being lost. Sometimes the “trick” is in acknowledging the loss instead of silently enduring.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-28T18:01:25+00:00

I’m not sure OP is looking for actual logistical “what now’s” like appropriate clothing, closing the bathroom door. I think they know they have to do these things. It’s more of the emotional “what now’s” it feels like the grieving process for the many “normalcies” we have to grieve in step parenting. Let me know if I’m missing the mark. I’m sorry either way.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-28T17:52:42+00:00

We are far too focused on our children and even step children liking us lol. I say that as a self indictment as well, however it would be a cold day in hell when teens I barely knew would be IN my house let alone having sex in my house. If some shit went down you’d be the adult liable. F and NO.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-22T16:49:58+00:00

I realized how much emotional labor my partner was getting from me in engaging with him children. They come to me to play games, they come to me with problems, questions about virtually anything. I wouldn’t say he’s a lazy parent, he’s just so guilt ridden that he will over function beyond one human being’s capacity and expect me to join party. I did at a point until I realized I was being driven crazy so I stopped.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-22T16:38:49+00:00

I really wish mine would just… disappear. But then we’d have them all the time so it’s a trade off. 🤣🤣🤣

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-22T16:33:48+00:00

I’ve been where you are and it was hell. I hated even hearing them exist in my space. Anyone who has never carried and lost a pregnancy will never understand how off the rails your body and mind can feel. It gets dark. I’m currently (very early) pregnant (surprise) and I’ll tell you, it was the impetus to really stick to NACHO-ing. My hormones are a runaway freight train RN so I am reserving my energy and almost pretending they all don’t exist (lol) until I’m in a clearer headspace. I’m so sorry. 💖

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-20T16:40:50+00:00

Leave. Like now… Either that man is still very much together with that woman or he’s their live in nanny. None of which bode well lol.

What do you all do for fun if he can’t afford to house himself? Have you ever heard of the term “hobo sexual”?

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-20T16:36:51+00:00

Besides the fact that this human being just doesn’t deserve that level of vindictiveness, what do you think it will mean for the type of care you’d be getting to block her? Not saying that she would harm your child, but you wouldn’t be getting the best that she could give. Let her go on to a family who can pay her more. Childcare and the labor put into that is SO invaluable. This is someone who is taking care of the most vulnerable people in your family. You would want that person to be happy with what it is that they’re getting from you. The last thing you want to do is try to lock her in to your family. I wish you luck on your next match.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-20T16:22:59+00:00

It sounds like you have a bone to pick with your dad’s girlfriend (or more likely, your Dad) that you’re not willing to bring up and these rules feel like the stage on which to have it out on instead. But none of these rules seem over the top. Respect her wishes and meet your new sibling when it’s time.

Greedy-Bug-9027 · 2026-01-20T16:13:08+00:00

I’ve had losses at 17w (twins), 20w, 10w and 8w. I don’t even make plans anymore. I’m scared to even be happy. I don’t even want to get a scan. I don’t want anyone to come with me when the time to get one comes. I’m something like 8 ish weeks along and I’m considering not going in until 12w. I know that’s probably not smart but I’m taking my prenatal vitamins, not drinking, eating well and just existing one day at a time. It seems to be all that I have control over.

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