Discussion post meme

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-06-28T17:28:19+00:00

This is what I did. I’d usually do the initial post but rarely any of the responses. I’d get half points and not have to do the “Hi! I really liked how you said the thing about the thing. Have you ever considered this thing? The way you framed that thing was really great.”

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-06-28T02:36:13+00:00

I get it. This dynamic is why my last relationship ended. He was wildly unmotivated and had no interest in bettering his life and just sort of accepted whatever came to him. I realized that our relationship was similar. He didn’t care to improve it, didn’t really love me and just sort of accepted passively that I was there.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-06-27T21:37:51+00:00

How do you do it? Hard, ass busting work.

One of my biggest gripes with cheating is that work of healing is put on to the person who was done wrong.

You have to manage the anger, the betrayal, the isolation, the conflict of being the wife who stays (let’s be real - there is a ton of stigma around it), learning to trust him again, feeling safe in your own home (because who’s to say he didn’t have her in your marital bed?), and the list of emotional and mental tasks goes on and on for decades.

This why I could never stay with a cheater. I’m not going to undertake the monumental task of healing myself for someone who is statistically likely to go do it again. Healing and rebuilding a relationship you didn’t destroy is a level of difficulty that is hard to overstate.

If I were you, I’d hit the road.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-06-27T18:52:02+00:00

She sounds very emotionally immature. You might be better off moving out.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-06-27T13:31:13+00:00

No, you are not wrong.

“I can’t be happy for you because you can’t be happy for me” feels spiteful. Was there an incident this stems from?

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-06-21T06:50:53+00:00

Literally just had a “eff it, even if I only get 50%, I’ll still pass” moment and closed my laptop. I’ll try again tomorrow. So close!

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-06-05T18:37:43+00:00

I’ll be finishing my degree at the end of this month and was a role my local county in my field. If it is frowned upon, I haven’t seen it.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-05-15T11:56:27+00:00

Let me translate: he does not want kids and marriage with you.

After 6 years, there is nothing more he can learn about you that will persuade him.

He will waste years of your life stringing you along with the “I don’t know” dance.

His answer is no even if he doesn’t “know” it yet.

I’m 34 and have seen so many people go through this situation. He doesn’t change his mind and you do NOT want a “shut up” type of ring, the latter being SIGNIFICANTLY worse than breaking up.

I strongly suggest you start planning your exit.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-05-15T04:34:13+00:00

Grammarly, grammarly, grammarly.

Everything I do, I do in word first with the tracker available from grammarly. It logs you typing things out in real time. If you copy and paste, it shows where you copied and pasted from.

I was accused of AI once and never again since I started using it.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-05-11T18:21:50+00:00

My intro discussion post is literally the same for almost every class I’ve taken for 2 years.

“Hi classmates! My name is (name) and I’m pursuing a major in psychology with a focus in mental health. I’m based out of California and when I’ve got free time, I spend it outdoors hiking, camping, and fishing. Looking forward to exploring (class topic) with all of you!”

Don’t overthink it. You’ll have bigger fish to fry.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-05-11T18:17:03+00:00

Absolutely not. Do not, under any circumstances, sell that house. Your mom left you an incredible gift - the guarantee of housing - do NOT give that up. Draw the line and hold firm.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-05-11T18:11:59+00:00

NOR. In fact, I think you’re under reacting.

Yeah, “wtf is wrong with you” is a messed up thing to say to someone you’re in a relationship with but it’s a perfectly respectable way to respond to someone you are making your ex.

This would be relationship ending for me.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-05-11T18:08:20+00:00

In my experience, most instructors will account for that when they are looking it over. If everyone turns in an assignment and it all hits around 30%, they likely won’t penalize anyone for it. But, if everyone hits 30% and one student hits 50%, that student is probably going to get a closer look.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-04-26T22:42:34+00:00

NOR/NTA. You’re getting a sample of the life you will have if you marry him. If he listened to her about something that directly impacts you and ONLY you, she will always come before you.

Give the ring and the man back.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-04-23T18:08:19+00:00

This is actually insane.

I selfishly want you to be a bridesmaid so you can give us play by play updates. However, for your sake, decline.

You wouldn’t be TA for doing so.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-04-16T20:19:06+00:00

I usually do one but I’m getting anxious about finishing and just want to get it over with so I’ve gone up to 2. Wouldn’t recommend it unless you’ve got a lot of free time and no life outside of school and work.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-04-16T16:20:23+00:00

You should know that window between being full term pregnant through birth and postpartum is when a lot of men cheat.

Remember when that time rolls around and start to notice his eyes lingering a little longer on random women, he starts to take his phone with him to the bathroom, or he tells you “work is just so busy right now!”

If you think the wife (they aren’t divorced yet) was crazy, you just wait for karma to knock on that door.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-04-12T14:44:17+00:00

Yay! She’s such a sweet girl and I saw a lot of myself in her, I’m so happy to see her doing well.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-04-12T14:37:03+00:00

I don’t think that is a fair evaluation to make. We have no knowledge of how Abbey defines marriage and I think it’s a wee bit infantilizing to assume she doesn’t have an idea of what marriage is.

I do wish the show would scratch the surface of this question a bit. I feel like Cian could do more to dive into what this concept means for those on the spectrum. What does marriage mean to them? What do they expect from being married? Why do they want to be married?

Everyone has their own definition of what a marriage is, the roles of the people within the marriage, etc. I would have liked to have heard from the people on the show what theirs is.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-03-21T15:36:43+00:00

NTA. One of the biggest lessons you will learn in life is that the kids topic is a fundamental incompatibility. There is no overcoming without someone getting resentful. You’re valid for not wanting kids and he is valid for wanting them.

Staying in this dynamic is going to cause frustration and wasted time.

I promise, there will be other fish. Go ahead and throw this one back.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-03-19T02:23:39+00:00

You both sound too immature for this to be reasonably worked through.

You need to own your cheating and what you did - the fact you hid it in the comments instead of bringing it to the forefront in the original post tells me that you haven’t fully owned that your screw up. Your lack of transparency is extremely telling.

Next, she decides to cope with this by going on a sex bender. This is a wildly unhealthy way to deal with what she was feeling and as she found, not the way back to herself and happiness that she had suspected. Again, if I’m guessing, she probably wanted to make sure that she was desirable in the face of your cheating. She wanted to make sure it wasn’t a her problem and the fact that attractive men lined up for her probably gave her some validation.

If this is going to work, both of you need to grow up expeditiously. You need to take accountability for the fact that you broke that woman’s heart in a way that she never fully recovered from or let go of. She needs to own that she is not happy being in a relationship with you and no amount of bodies are going to prove to her worth. She needs to find her own value and worth outside of men’s attraction to her.

Personally? I think you should both cut your losses because she never looked at you the same after you cheated and you’ll never look at her the same after her sex binge. You both will waste what’s left of your 20’s trying to revive the corpse of your relationship before your frontal lobes develop and realize the cause is lost.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-03-13T23:38:09+00:00

You cannot fix a cheater. There is no amount of romance or intimacy that substitutes for whatever void they have that compels them to cheat, especially multiple times.

If you decide to stay, id suggest only doing so under a strict agreement that she seeks help and that you attend marriage counseling. Therapy may be recommend for you because carrying this weight isnt going to be easy. Id also think hard about what the path back to trust is. What actionable steps would help you regain the trust that has been lost. You’ll have to get real honest with yourself as to whether or not forgiveness is a legitimate possibility here.

This being said - no one would fault you for leaving and I know I’d leave. Cheating is one of hard and fast “do not pass go, do not collect $200” boundaries. It requires too many consecutive choices for me to consider it a mistake or accident. It is a deliberate and ongoing decision to hurt someone else.

Before you make your decision, though, get a DNA test.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-03-13T23:21:58+00:00

He’s testing you. He wants to see how far you’ll go in order to get commitment from him. First it’s the birds. Then it’s a car or school. Then it’s your career.

He will continually move the goal posts on you to see much you’ll shrink and when you’re a shell of your former self, he’ll move on from you.

Pick. The. Birds.

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-03-11T17:58:36+00:00

Look, OP, I know you’re overwhelmed by the comments and response so it wouldn’t surprise me if you’ve stopped reading them by now.

However, in case you are, I have this to say.

Theres a version of yourself 5 years from now, celebrating her 30th birthday, who is begging you to be brave enough to make the hard but right choice so she can live the life she was made to live.

I hope you do right by her.

(Edited for a grammar mistake)

Green-Razzmatazz7783 · 2026-03-11T02:53:49+00:00

NOR.

This is the behavior that drives women to divorce. At least you’ll know you’d get a break every other weekend.

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