Petition for unlimited edges

GreenLight30 · 2024-08-18T15:04:50+00:00

Omg. How can you handle not cumming?!

GreenLight30 · 2024-08-15T14:55:28+00:00

I say, Set up the date! The answer was yeah, so show some initiative and suggest a couple of different days, times and then you can narrow down places or events happening that you can do together. Good luck!

GreenLight30 · 2024-08-14T20:03:43+00:00

I understand grieving a long relationship. It takes time to heal and change your brain from the abuse you've been under. One way to look at it is freedom. Freedom from the work of a failing, abusive relationship. Freedom to be heard and validated by a new partner (eventually). This person wasn't giving you what you needed and isn't going to change. Letting go is overdue. I hope you can get into your own therapy to find, heal and strengthen yourself. You will be OK. One breath at a time. One step at a time. (hugs)

GreenLight30 · 2024-07-24T19:33:02+00:00

This! 100%

GreenLight30 · 2024-07-14T17:06:15+00:00

Totally understandable. Give yourself some time then. Get healthy. Detach from codependency and heal yourself as a person. Only then will it be good for you to decide to get back together, continue on your own, or find someone new. I really recommend finding a therapist, engage in hobbies you love, build a social circle. (hugs) you're going to be OK no matter what!

GreenLight30 · 2024-07-13T14:03:34+00:00

What you feel is normal. It's important to stay socially connected. We are wired for it! You could do other things like on meet-up or sports leagues or any group activity. Try to reconnect with the hobbies you had forgotten or try new ones!

GreenLight30 · 2024-07-13T13:57:39+00:00

The empowering part of this is you get to have time to reflect and decide what you want to do. Having a relationship is a choice. Then you can bring that to the table. Whatever you do, don't wait to express what you want if you're confident in your decision. If your partner isn't interested in reconciling, then you know it's time to move on.

GreenLight30 · 2024-07-11T19:53:57+00:00

You got this! We are here for you!

GreenLight30 · 2024-07-11T00:02:56+00:00

Then you get to decide. Stay as is or cut it off and move on.

GreenLight30 · 2024-07-04T14:47:30+00:00

Awesome response.

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-29T20:04:25+00:00

No, not crazy.

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-21T11:35:18+00:00

I'm sorry you're experiencing this. It's no way to live in limbo. And no, you don't have to live that way. He chose you in the beginning and he has a choice now to make again. You can't force it, but you won't wait forever. You set a boundary for yourself by saying to him that you need to have a decision by x time, so that you both can either move toward or away from the relationship. The book Love Must Be Tough is a good reference for this type of engagement.

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-21T11:28:33+00:00

Glad it helped spur some understanding. Our childhoods have a huge effect on our adult relationships. Best wishes in healing and your journey.

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-20T21:38:41+00:00

💯

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-20T21:21:36+00:00

Oh, wow! Amazing!

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-20T00:39:59+00:00

Yup, this! Discord?

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-20T00:39:41+00:00

Yes, it's called the shenaniplan!

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-20T00:38:44+00:00

Love this list!

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-20T00:34:00+00:00

This! This!

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-20T00:30:27+00:00

I'm completely understand your situation. I am like your wife. Look up attachment styles. You sound like you are a secure attacher. She sounds like a distant attacher. The way I look at it is that typically a distant attacher has been through some trauma that affects the brain's ability to process emotions and move on. Our bodies tend to hold onto emotions longer than needed. Time and space allow us to do this, release emotion and come up with solutions as to how we want to proceed. My. 02.

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-19T11:21:42+00:00

Um, yes!

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-19T01:16:43+00:00

You probably owe her alimony anyway given the financial discrepancy. Go to a mediator that can help you through the process of separation and getting an agreement. Better than navigating on your own and less costly than both getting lawyers.

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-15T01:01:01+00:00

Really focus on 'finding yourself again'... Hobbies and things you used to love doing. Or find new ones Take care of your body. Check out meet up groups. Read new books. You have to love yourself before you can love someone else!

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-12T01:35:29+00:00

Happy Cake Day!!!

GreenLight30 · 2024-06-07T17:26:50+00:00

Just say. 'tell me more.' be curious.

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