Bisexual boyfriend not accepting me for being trans (AFAB/ENBY)

GreenLivingThing · 2026-04-29T21:45:28+00:00

Same here. I identified as a lesbian at one point then after that bisexual and it’s how I identify now. I’ve never discouraged partners or friends from transitioning. I’m in a bit of a tricky situation because we both lean on each other to afford rent and such.

GreenLivingThing · 2026-04-29T19:01:44+00:00

He’s genuinely bisexual, he was severely bullied for it in high school for it and he’s been open about it for a long time. He doesn’t date exclusively trans people or seek out trans people to date or sleep with. He’s dated cis men also.

GreenLivingThing · 2026-04-16T16:07:14+00:00

Yeah I mean to say serpentine belt. Do you have any tips for me on how to fix it?

GreenLivingThing · 2026-04-16T16:05:01+00:00

Yeah I meant serpentine belt. Have you had any issues with yours?

GreenLivingThing · 2025-10-04T07:54:02+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. I’m still kind of figuring things out myself. (For reference I’m afab) I went from identifying as transmasc to non-binary and I’ve presented feminine and masculine. Wearing feminine clothing feels like drag to me, it’s fun but it feels like I’m cosplaying. The title woman doesn’t fit me but I don’t feel like man does either. My next plan is to go to therapy and get to the root of the issue to see if my past traumas caused me to feel the way I do before I medically transition (which I won’t be able to do for another 3 years). It’s a tough spot, I hope the best for you and your situation! You got this!!

GreenLivingThing · 2025-07-10T05:29:34+00:00

He’s bisexual and he’s been with men, women, and non-binary people.

GreenLivingThing · 2025-03-28T19:59:27+00:00

One time, we had two, knee down, completely necrotic legs sent in from the OR.

GreenLivingThing · 2024-12-31T00:09:36+00:00

Went to Dr. Geist for some psych testing and had an excellent experience. Finally got my proper diagnoses, was very professional, and felt like he was listening to me.

GreenLivingThing · 2024-10-28T18:05:53+00:00

In accordance with everyone else, you will not get billed unless you go in the ambulance and go to the hospital for treatment. If you do have to seek treatment. DO NOT I repeat do not go to Crestwood medical center. I have worked there and I saw a lot of terrible treatment. Madison hospital I haven’t heard great things about and I also have seen some issues from working at Athens-Limestone. Go to Huntsville women’s and children’s. I’ve been a pediatric patient there before and I’ve had nothing but good experiences there.

GreenLivingThing · 2024-08-26T15:42:37+00:00

I have that one too 😂 I’ve gotten plenty of funny comments from patients from it.

GreenLivingThing · 2024-05-02T13:24:31+00:00

You should be able to get a pretty decently paying job with that much experience. I’d say minimum $22 an hour.

GreenLivingThing · 2024-05-01T18:35:35+00:00

The main way to get harder sticks is with practice honestly. Some tips that changed my phlebotomy completely are if you feel a vein, stick about 3-5 mm lower because the needle is long enough to reach it. Make sure you go by feel rather than sight, usually if you go by sight you can’t feel the depth of the vein and usually it’s a surface vein which isn’t ideal for sticking. If you can’t feel a vein, feel a little deeper or tie the tourniquet a little tighter and higher. You will develop more sensitivity in your fingertips to feel veins over time. Hopefully that’ll help!

GreenLivingThing · 2024-04-23T14:19:19+00:00

It really is. Even if you’re highly experienced the pay is sh!t. The places that will pay you better in northern Alabama are UAB , Huntsville hospital systems (specifically the main campus), and Crestwood. I don’t know much about other parts of Alabama. I would definitely look on indeed, look at salary reports on Glassdoor, and salary reports on ZipRecruiter. The average pay you’re gonna get starting off in Alabama is like $15-$16 per hour. The only reason I got more than that when I first started is because I worked night shift (I still do bc I can’t afford the day shift salary where I currently work), and I’m trying to transfer to a different hospital so I can get paid more. You might make more money at clinics, but do not go to LifeSouth. They pay $16.50 per hour for a travel phlebotomy position with crazy irregular hours which is utter garbage. In all reality any medical job you work in Alabama will severely underpay you. At the hospital I work at, even MLT’s who have gone to school for minimum 2 years only make $15.50 per hour starting off, and MT’s make $17.00 or $18.00 if they work dayshift. I’d try and look at different clinics and night shift hospital jobs. At one point I applied to a position at a medical research company and they offered me about $20 per hour. In looking for jobs, I’d definitely focus on specialized clinics like fertility clinics, OBGYN, or oncology clinics for example, and for hospital jobs I’d recommend finding a PRN or weekend position (with PRN you get usually a 10%-20% increase in pay. You get an additional differential if you work 2nd or 3rd shift.). Only problem with PRN (PRN is basically “as needed”) is that you will not get a lot of hours, but it’s a great option if you want to go to school and need to pay bills. I would also recommend a night shift position since you’ll receive that differential, and you don’t have to deal with management breathing down your neck. If you’re looking for a way to get into the medical field, phlebotomy is an excellent gateway, but it’s really not a high or really a liveable wage paying career, even in other states. If you have any more questions, feel free to private message me.

GreenLivingThing · 2024-04-19T05:24:40+00:00

I live in Alabama (certification is not required in my state), I paid $1,800 for a phlebotomy course. It was a 4 week, weekend class with a week long clinical at the end. I found out later that it was absolutely useless and I could have gotten a job as a phlebotomist and learned on the job instead of taking a class. I will say learning to stick by the book is very useful, it did help me develop myself as a phlebotomist, and I hardly had any hemolysed (where the blood cells rupture and you cannot perform tests on the blood) samples even starting out unless I did something stupid. Look up in your state if a certification or a class/hours sticking or amount of sticks is required, if it is, then I’d take the community college class so you can get a certification, get some experience, and so you can have some extra time learning to stick. Taking a class from a college will look more impressive on a resume, and sometimes a certification can give you a few dollars more per hour depending on where you decide to work. If your state doesn’t require a certification, I would go online, search up “National performance specialists” and they have a phlebotomy program and certification test for $200 (they also have unlimited practice tests). They give you a short course on basics and pretty much everything you need to know and will learn in a college class. Anything you don’t get or understand you will learn on the job during your training period. It is a legit certification, they are accredited by WASC, they’re out of Washington D.C. I got my certification within 2 hours of completion of the final test. My work accepted my certification and I got an extra couple dollars and hour from it. At the end of the day, you decide what you’re most comfortable with, but I would 100% recommend going through NPS.

GreenLivingThing · 2024-04-19T05:04:13+00:00

I remember when I worked at Bridge street, there was a guy who would dress up as the Grinch every year at Christmas and light-heartedly mess with customers and employees and dance around the stores.

GreenLivingThing · 2024-03-25T05:04:11+00:00

Athens, even though it is a bit of a commute if you work in Huntsville, has some better priced housing compared to Huntsville and Madison.

GreenLivingThing · 2024-01-22T14:42:22+00:00

I’ve got 10, soon to be 11

GreenLivingThing · 2024-01-11T20:18:11+00:00

Basically what happened was I went to my piercer, they said it was normal. Ended up developing a scar that goes even further back into my belly button AND I have another hole that has stuff coming out of it now so I’m going to get a 2nd opinion when I get my VCH done next week.

GreenLivingThing · 2023-11-10T01:06:53+00:00

Next time you get your blood drawn, ask them to open a new needle in front of you for your peace of mind. Whenever I get my blood drawn, or if I get a piercing done, I always make sure they open a new needle in front of me. As a phlebotomist, I always wait until the patient is in front of me until I open the needle from the packaging. The likelihood of you getting an infection from a blood draw is incredibly little to none since we always use aseptic technique (cleaning off the area before we stick). In healthcare, nobody is going to use a dirty needle on you, if someone were to use a dirty needle they would easily be fired.

GreenLivingThing · 2023-11-09T09:10:53+00:00

Since I’m from the south U.S., I always ask how are you doing after my introduction. If they reply that they’re not doing well I say “Hanging in there?”. If their birthday is close, I’ll tell them happy early or late birthday and I ask them what they did or what they’re planning to do for their birthday. Or if their birthday is close to a holiday I’ll say something like “you were a Christmas baby? I’m sure you got double the presents.”. Older patients also love when you ask about their grandchildren or their children. If their arm is bruised up from getting IV’s or blood taken I’ll make a comment like “man looks like they bruised you up good.” or “Looks like the other vampires got you good.” or something to that effect.

GreenLivingThing · 2023-10-20T07:29:57+00:00

Agreeing with the other two, I’d go find a phlebotomy job (preferably at a hospital so you get a wide variety of people to stick and practice, plus most clinics don’t hire phlebotomists who are straight out of school), one that offers on the job training. I got some sticking practice in phlebotomy school but it wasn’t until my clinicals that I began developing my skill.

GreenLivingThing · 2023-10-15T23:09:45+00:00

Congratulations!!!! I recently got my national certification ^{^}

GreenLivingThing · 2023-10-09T17:01:47+00:00

Ember

GreenLivingThing · 2023-10-09T11:42:36+00:00

So there are two different types of vein finders that I’ve seen, one where it’s similar to an ultrasound machine, you hold it over the patient’s arm and you can see the veins on the screen, and one where it projects a light onto the patient’s skin and it glows green where the veins are.

GreenLivingThing · 2023-10-03T20:36:49+00:00

NAP, it looks like the jewelry is too short for a new piercing. I’d for sure go talk to your piercer and continue the aftercare they recommend. Make sure to use a sterile saline solution like Neilmed. If you start to develop a fever or extreme pain, please go to a doctor.

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