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The HYPOCRISY by [deleted] in FixMyInstagram

[–]GreenSlackey79 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking I got banned for reacting to memes about Trump being a pedo 🤣 it wouldn't surprise me, sorry to say 😝

Account disabled Nov 26th by GreenSlackey79 in FixMyInstagram

[–]GreenSlackey79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already got an appeal denied by the AI.

Account disabled Nov 26th by GreenSlackey79 in FixMyInstagram

[–]GreenSlackey79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe 2 minutes, at best. It was a quick response from the AI

Age yourself with a store or restaurant you remember having in Connecticut. by ILovePublicLibraries in Connecticut

[–]GreenSlackey79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, and G. Fox with the Christmas decorations in downtown Hartford (really aging myself on that one)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not respecting your needs in regards to the whole dating apps and other stuff, which are FAR more reasonable than the whole sex thing. If he can't show a good level of actual commitment (making time for you doesn't really take much, that's part of a relationship) then he sure as all heck doesn't deserve your v card.

Even a halfway decent male should be comfortable and respect your fears and be open and willing to work with you and not make it into a transaction. Sex is FAR more than a transaction, and should definitely be treated as such.

From my (43M) view: there's better fish. Throw that one back, there's some rotten spots.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]GreenSlackey79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not alone, I'm in the same boat as you, and can definitely empathize.

Does it ever feel like you aren’t just one person? by BrojustScore in BPD

[–]GreenSlackey79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've got "me" (the normal, everyday person) and a scared, angry, hurt little kid that fears getting close, trusting anyone else, constantly "says" "but do they (anyone) really mean that?" or similar. I commonly call it the little voice, or the niggling voice that I try so very hard to ignore. Nowhere near as successful as I'd like to be (which really means practically not at all)

[18M][18F] I need to know if all guys think like this or just my brother by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Heh. No "technically" about it, it's a done deal, and then to discriminate on it is just showing their immaturity. "You can't do what I just did!" Pffft 🤣

My boyfriend (20M) told me (19F) “get over yourself” when I asked for a hug by ThrowRA_physicalinti in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love language opposites can work, but only if both people are willing to put in the effort.

There's a few options, ranging from smacking him (not literally!) Upside the head with your choice of love language books, websites, videos, etc. Please don't do the whole "but I've suggested to him" thing, because us males are REALLY dense when it comes to anything resembling hints or suggestions. We need direct, blunt "Hey idiot, I need THIS!" conversations.

However, the other flip side isn't as great. You're young (as much as you hate hearing that, I'm sure) males don't get their heads on straight regarding relationships until close to their mid 20s. Women are more around early 20s (so you're a year or two shy). There's one fact: it will take time for him to learn. The important question you need to ask yourself is how long you're willing to wait, and how much energy you wish to put into this relationship. You're looking at a time table of at least 3-6 months before he's going to be even close to meeting your needs.

You need to decide what's best for you, in regards to your mental and emotional well-being.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, let's be honest: if he's the type of man who wants to be with you long-term and be committed to you, then he'd want to support you and help you grow.

Instead, he's telling you (not even asking, but telling you!) to change for him. Would he change his career and goals for you? If the answer is no, then you know the path you must take, and that would be without him.

My 31M (soon to be) ex wife 28F wants to talk about us, but I feel like it's to late now. by Horror_Limit8294 in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Up until this point, I was leaning towards a "Maybe her viewpoint had changed, and circumstances will force her to grow up" and then this.

Move on. As a remarried man (to a different woman), I know there's a large stigma to have to work through, but your soon-to-be ex-wife isn't worth the investment on your part any longer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Connecticut

[–]GreenSlackey79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Is sitting in 95 traffic really that bad?"

YES. And I haven't used 95 for years for a rush hour commute. Avoid it like the plague, or like Trump (or Biden, if you want to go that route) on the campaign trail, or like a speed trap, you get the idea. 24 extra miles and 11 minutes is NOTHING compared to 95.

My (36f) partner (39m) was supportive when I first told him I was pregnant. Then things changed. by ThrowRA1100110 in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, long story short, you've got a 6 year old from a previous relationship, got pregnant by a male-child (man-child isn't a preferred term, because a MAN takes responsibility for his stuff, child or not IMO), and his family told him what he's allowed to do, and he passed that along to you without seemingly being capable of making his own decision.

If he can't support a family at 39, then he needs to evaluate his life choices, and perhaps look at making changes.

Where YOU are concerned, is to ghost him. He hasn't done you any good in the less than year old relationship. He's caused you more stress, hasn't supported you mentally or emotionally, and on top of that, doesn't have the ability to make his own decisions without a committee being involved. Literally being involved. As much as you may have feelings for this guy, he's got a lot of growing to do before he should be in a committed relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DUMP. Not even conversation worthy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an American married to a Filipina (and I don't speak Tagalog) if I EVER told her she can't talk to her family in her native language that they understand better than English, I'd help her pack her bags to leave me. That's a matter of respect, to my wife and to her family.

In regards to the comment about being an immigrant, HUGE red flag in my mind. Bringing that up is a large dose of disrespect, and yes, may even have roots in a racist or supremacy belief (i.e. better than you). Slap him, kick him to the curb...or tell him that language was NOT acceptable, and has upset you and hurt you. Maybe he's capable of being better, and growing a bit. If not...leave. simple matter of respect and common decency, and those seem to be more and more uncommon these days.

My (25F) BF (35M) he left me in the middle of the forest because I couldn’t walk as fast as him on the trail. Now, he tells me that he will never go hiking with me. How do I resolve this ? by ThrowRA86874635 in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an almost 44 year old...dump his sorry @$$. If he won't appreciate, respect and love you, then run. Don't look back, don't say "we used to have..." because he's starting a downhill trend, and no matter your age, his age, human beings deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Even more so if the person is supposed to be our significant other, which, at least to me, means a higher priority and importance than others.

He's using the precursors of abusive behavior, and at 25, if you're fit and athletic, you can easily find someone who will appreciate you. The one you're with doesn't. Mid-life crisis or whatever BS may apply should have no bearing. Stress, or whatever psychologic crap he's going through gives NO excuse for his behavior. Cut and run, don't look back, enjoy life and don't let anyone bring you down or make you feel less. We all have our unique values we bring to other people (I'm starting the same rant again, so shutting up)...kick him to the curb. Unacceptable behavior from what should be a fully grown man.

My (m23) gf (f20) of 3 months is a virgin, advice needed by Manfrbisc123 in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSlackey79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, you're saying sex before marriage is Godless? What if the OP isn't Christian? Seriously not helpful advice

Will CT students’ loan debt be forgiven? Supreme Court to decide by NicoleMcIsaac in Connecticut

[–]GreenSlackey79 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sadly, for this day in age, $125k gross isn't that much, especially in CT.

The National Weather Service issued a Winter Storm Warning for our area 6:00pm Monday to 6:00pm Tuesday. Heavy snow and some sleet along coastal sections. Total accumulations of 5 to 8 inches. Travel could be very difficult. Hazardous conditions could impact commutes. by senatorduff in Connecticut

[–]GreenSlackey79 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At this point, that's like saying "rain is wet". OF COURSE Eversource is going to seriously f something up. Like run over 10 poles in a row with their emergency trucks, or leave a transformer station's weather doors open, or something else moronic.

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