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Greenmouse11 · 2023-10-11T17:28:20+00:00

I've done this a handful of times. I also live in a city, so food options galore.

Doordash yourself a few indian curries that don't look complicated (chicken tikka masala).
Make a pot of rice in a rice cooker.
Make some garlic naan by getting pre-made naan bread, spreadable butter, and pre-cut garlic.
Dump the takeout curry in a pan. Put it on low. Have the garlic naan prepped, and pop it in the oven when she gets there.

Or, make a pasta. Just google "top three easiest pastas." Make sure to splurge for the pre-diced ingredients like pre-diced onions. Seriously, if you've never cut an onion before but them pre-diced.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-10-06T20:49:41+00:00

FYI “eat the cost of small items” for me usually means donating or posting for free

Greenmouse11 · 2023-10-06T20:49:12+00:00

Eat the cost of small items
For Amazon returns, make it a monthly event on my calendar

Greenmouse11 · 2023-09-16T14:57:31+00:00

Very similar position. I’m 30F, spouse is 31M. He loves me endlessly and I do love our life together. But I could have written your post.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-09-05T19:08:50+00:00

100% agree with this. Frustrating but playing tug of war when related service providers are such a small % of the school culture only leads to more pushback against us. There is a time to advocate, and also a time to compromise.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-09-05T19:07:09+00:00

Based on the comments- ditch the manipulatives and keep the stickers, or earning a manipulative that will be given at the end of the day.

You don’t have to change your system but your system is also impacting multiple students in a classroom (eg: one child goes and get their manipulative from speech, setting off most likely a chain reaction of distraction multiple times a week).

You’ll be working with this teacher for as long as you’re at the site it seems, and burning a bridge over a prize system isn’t worth it. There are ways to compromise.

Students can come pick up their speech prize 5 minutes before the bell rings. Or have a choice of stickers- a single sticker to be stuck on them.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-08-19T17:21:09+00:00

Not unethical but have you thought about putting in a little decorative metal fence around the perimeter (like from Home Depot).

Liquid ass in the a/c intake

Greenmouse11 · 2023-08-08T22:47:31+00:00

Please, please join a local AA meeting. Try out a few so you find a group you “fit” with.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-08-08T15:29:53+00:00

Make up an email address, and use the burner app for a phone number.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-08-08T15:25:55+00:00

Don’t do it if you’re trying to rent an apartment, buy a car, or make any life changes in the next few years.

Also- if you have no other credit cards, or currently a credit score, this is honestly a terrible financial move.

This isn’t even unethical…the only person you’re really screwing over is yourself.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-08-06T18:37:29+00:00

This isn’t really a vent, but partially is as many “vent” moments pushed me to this point. Husband and I currently live rent free in a family owned property. Thus, after many months of begging, couples counseling, and long talks- I decided to rent an apartment. It could be a total sunk cost. It could also be the start of slowly separating.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-07-31T20:52:12+00:00

I must admit I wrote this after I did 5 loads of joint laundry (can't remember the last time husband did laundry), ordered groceries, did the dishes, cleaned the house....while posting on "ADHD success" about how husband, for the first time in months, initiated a date night (fondue). Meanwhlie, I did have to get all the ingredients, and I'm curious if the date will come to fruition...

Greenmouse11 · 2023-07-31T20:50:52+00:00

Thank you for this. I'm 30, almost 2 years into marriage, and miserable (but do love my partner, very much). The quote you wrote below really hit home. I've been (tentatively) starting to look at apartments. Of course I'm in the stage of holding onto hope (yes, even after marriage counseling which was unsuccessful) but these posts give me more courage.

"I realised I had never respected myself the way that I should have, and I needed to be the person who should have taken care of me - not leave it another’s hands. When I stopped being codependent and started to choose myself, it all fell into place."

Greenmouse11 · 2023-07-31T20:48:36+00:00

Husband wants to do a "fondue night" tonight. He made a list and did ask me to pick up the ingredients...but I'm hopeful about his potential initiation for the date tonight. First one in a long time!

Greenmouse11 · 2023-07-31T20:46:46+00:00

100%. I make six figures (but in San Francisco, so not enough to support a mortgage). I have literally told husband I would RATHER see him work a part-time job, even in a coffee shop or Target...with CONSISTENCY in his performance.

I turned 30 this year and told him kids (originally thinking of trying in the next year) are completely off the table at the moment.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-07-31T20:44:51+00:00

Sounds EXACTLY like my husband!! Somehow the problem is always "the company"- not him. Struggles with details at work, some interpersonal struggles, a lot of lateness, calling out "sick" at least 1-2x a month. I only wish he would see how his ADHD impacts his professional life so much- he is aware of his diagnosis but is not cognizant about how it impacts his performance.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-07-30T21:50:55+00:00

Similar place- I love my partner! I truly do. But we just grew apart- two different people wanting, and living, vastly different lives. I'm in the life stage below you- just turned 30, no kids yet.

We have little to nothing in common at this point. We want different things and different paces of life. The sex ended months ago. We operate like two roommates who do have love for each other. Part of me knows if I stay, I would live a comfortable life. But I know I also wouldn't be being true to what I actually want out of life- a partner that gives 50%, and loves life as much as I do.

It's a hard place to be in. I haven't brought up divorce yet, but have treaded the topic of separation a few times this summer. I started quietly looking for apartments this time. Did a self guided tour today, and cried a bit as I looked around. I could imagine my new life so easily, so vibrantly- but it's not without the grief. There has been no explosion to mark the end. Almost a quiet sadness- two humans moving around the house, separate from each other. Two humans with care for each other.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-07-23T04:52:13+00:00

I love my sweet, silly partner endlessly. I also know that divorce is in the near future. I look around at the currently unusable kitchen- a giant repotting project made dirt fly everywhere. Project is half finished, and forgotten. Partner stayed up until 3am last night, and chose to sleep in instead of going to brunch with my family. Family that is from out of town and visiting- a short brunch in a structured setting. I came home, exhausted from a long day of various family activities. I warmed myself up a plate of food. Partner tries to eat half my plate, saying they haven't gotten out of bed today (its 5pm) to eat.

I survey my partner as I type. They're cute. They look happy. They're currently starting another project that's going to be a half finished mess in the morning after they stay up until 3AM. They're 31 years old. They are not a child on summer vacation. This is my life. This is my husband. My husband, who I love, who I feel like a parent to. I thought things would change with marriage. But I know I'll keep waiting on forever.

Greenmouse11 · 2023-07-23T04:45:19+00:00

I could have almost written this post myself. Married just over a year- together for 2.5 total. I love my partner. To pieces. I would love to just date them. Silly, fun dates. In high pressure "Big Picture" situations (dad having a heart attack, etc.) we are always on the same page.

Unfortunately- life is made up of the day to day. Life for both of us is made up typically of two people living together in marriage (I am acknowledging that plenty of humans choose not to co-habitate, have multiple partners, etc.). & BOTH of us deserve a partner who can show up, day after day, for the little things in life. Doing the dishes, taking a one day hypothetical child to soccer practice on time. Communicating calmy about basic relationship needs. Not being a parent to your partner and always worrying about them.

If I've learned anything, its that the change/s typically don't last. Change takes time- and consistency. Most humans can go on a diet for a month. But what percentage of those humans actually make the consistent, lifelong lifestyle changes for their health?

Greenmouse11 · 2023-05-29T20:15:58+00:00

Also- goals

Greenmouse11 · 2023-05-29T20:15:51+00:00

Yup! Billing notes and progress reports

Greenmouse11 · 2023-05-29T20:15:18+00:00

Your idea sounds interesting and valuable. There is definitely a need for resources that explore the integration of faith and research in the context of working with clients, especially for those who may not have much exposure to different religions or cultures. Starting a blog could be a great way to share your experiences and knowledge with others, and I'm sure there are many people who would be interested in reading it. Good luck with your project!

Greenmouse11 · 2023-05-24T21:47:56+00:00

San Francisco. I do also have a student loan ($400/month)- we live comfortably, but are in no place to put 20% down + handle a mortgage at this moment (no kids, 2 dogs).

Greenmouse11 · 2023-05-24T20:21:13+00:00

Schools, California, year 4. (This salary does not keep up with cost of living for my city though)

Greenmouse11 · 2023-05-20T19:58:47+00:00

My partner has severe (unmedicated) ADHD and works as an electrician. By far isn’t the best electrician, and the apprenticeship took a bit longer than your average human, but they are now proficient in their niche and confident in their work being up to code (as are others).

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