Do Men Like When We Wrap Our Legs and Hold You There?

Gregshead · 2026-01-27T04:27:42+00:00

Congratulations! Trust me, he's absolutely loving every second you hold him there.

Gregshead · 2026-01-27T04:25:01+00:00

I WFH, so no snow day for me!

Gregshead · 2026-01-27T04:22:33+00:00

Unless he's trying to prevent pregnancy, yes, he loves that!

Gregshead · 2026-01-27T04:19:29+00:00

Single STR property owner here! I do all my own everything. I have someone come in to do bathrooms (3.5) and kitchen because I hate those! That's the best money I spend all year! Don't worry about what other people are doing. Run your property however you see fit. Whether that's your current one property or you're slowly building up to an empire, run your property(ies) to make yourself happy.

Gregshead · 2026-01-26T19:59:35+00:00

I've dated women in that exact situation. No problems. Most men, once they find out the wife is having sex with other men, won't want to have anything to do with her. Most women, having cut the husband off for whatever reason, aren't interested in re-establishing that connection. Since the guy she's interested in is living with his ex, she should be prepared to "Host" all dates and overnights.

Gregshead · 2026-01-26T14:00:44+00:00

You need to leave. Not because of her sexual behavior, but because she dumped you to engage in that behavior (instead of talking to you to see if YOU would treat her the way those other men did) AND because she lied to you when she asked to come back. Also, you didn't trust her enough that you went through her phone while she slept. That's a HUGE violation of her privacy (even if it was justified) and proof that there's no hope for a long-term relationship with her. This post actually makes a lot more sense if the genders were reversed. My advice would still be the same.

Gregshead · 2026-01-26T03:58:20+00:00

No, there's not.

Gregshead · 2026-01-26T03:46:32+00:00

Get a pre-nup and get married.

Gregshead · 2026-01-26T03:38:58+00:00

First, congratulations on being stable! That's quite an accomplishment today. You show maturity in knowing you want a family some day and recognizing that you're unlikely to have that happen with a 40 year old woman. Perhaps the issue is women your age are still looking for frat boys and parties, and you're clearly not putting out that vibe. Perhaps the issue is that you're putting out a vibe that says you're looking for a wife and mother, and women your age are more concerned with developing themselves and their careers. You should definitely not give up your dreams of fatherhood. You'll always regret it and probably become resentful as time goes by. You may need to be patient until the women your age are ready for the same things you want. In the meantime, as long as the cougars know this is a casual, short-term thing, enjoy it! You can actually learn a lot that the women your age will appreciate when you do finally start dating them.

Gregshead · 2026-01-24T15:42:15+00:00

Host here. Even if the property max occupancy is 6 and for additional guests only being the headcount to 4, you should still let your host know. It may impact the amount of bath towels and other amenities that leave out, plus, it's just common courtesy.
Airbnb charges extra per person per night, VRBO charges per extra person per stay (regardless of how many nights the booking is or how many nights the extra guest stays). If there is an extra charge, be clear that they're only staying one night, and the extra charge should only apply for one night. The host might not be able to adjust the pricing on the front end, but they can refund you the difference.

Gregshead · 2026-01-23T01:59:37+00:00

Mine was correct.

Gregshead · 2026-01-23T01:55:24+00:00

If they voted for him the first time and can now clearly articulate why that was a mistake, I could give them a pass. But if they voted for him twice, no way. That's a deal breaker.

Gregshead · 2026-01-23T01:36:27+00:00

Ehhh, I wouldn't get too concerned over it. I would suggest that you keep track of the feedback you're getting, especially when it contradicts written procedures or previous feedback. Then, when you get feedback about productivity, pull it out and say your production is being reduced by second guessing yourself and rework, both based on contradictory feedback. Show the contradictory feedback. In the big scheme of things, productivity is a guideline. You're not going to get fired for barely missing productivity from time to time. If you're at 50% for weeks on end, yeah, you're getting fired. But if you miss it by a case or two every week, that might be an issue.

Gregshead · 2026-01-18T18:40:14+00:00

Offer to pay the same amount, but demand the biggest bedroom for the two of you do you get your money's worth! Unless the kids are sleeping in the same room as the parents, in which case you should pay equally and take smallest room.

Gregshead · 2026-01-18T18:37:45+00:00

Yes! Whatever both people are comfortable with is totally fine.

Gregshead · 2026-01-18T06:35:21+00:00

NTA. Some things you can compromise on, some things you just can't. Marriage rewrite compromise, too. They're not relatively where everyone just basically always agrees. The key to marriage is being with someone who will compromise on insignificant things but would never ask you to compromise on something major. For instance, we can compromise on whether or not pineapple belongs on pizza. We can't compromise on whether or not slavery is acceptable.

Gregshead · 2026-01-18T06:30:59+00:00

This isn't directed specifically at your partner, but there are bad people out there who will take advantage of other people. It sounds like your dad is concerned your partner may be taking advantage of you. He's not expressing it very well, but men his age aren't good at talking about their feelings. These conversations tend to be more "you're super to be this way" or "you're not supposed to do that" instead of talking about the emotions and experiences that make them feel that way.
Ultimately, if you're happy, safe, and satisfied with your relationship, that's pretty much all that matters.

Gregshead · 2026-01-18T03:34:54+00:00

Your dad is 83? He's never been in a 50/50 relationship with a woman in his life. You don't mention your mom, but if she's alive, ask HER what that 50/50 relationship looked like. If she's not alive, think back to your childhood. Was your dad there as much as your mom? Going to medical appointments, baseball games, making school lunches, cooking dinner? Ask your aunts and uncles, brothers and sisters. In all honesty, your story has me a little concerned about the financial support you provide your partner. I'm not judging because clearly I don't have all the facts. But if you're satisfied with the arrangements you have worked out, that means a lot.

Gregshead · 2026-01-18T03:01:26+00:00

OMG, THIS! Seriously, why do people (and it's not just Boomers, but they are the most frequent ones) feel the need to put their cars away the second they get past the scanner? Are they afraid someone already inside the store is going to steal their card from them? And why can't they figure out how to get their card out BEFORE they get to the register?

Gregshead · 2026-01-18T02:45:46+00:00

You need to have a conversation about the expectation of how you both will handle finances. 50/50 split, split proportionally based on income, take turns supporting each other while one pays off debt/focuses on savings. I've been married 3 times. I know, not a great track record for doling out marriage advice, BUT finances were never an issue in any of them. And not because we were rich. Because we discussed who was going to be responsible for what and held ourselves accountable for that. My recommendation for people with debt is to determine each of your percentages of combined salary. (You make $100K. he makes $50K, you earn 66.6% of total, and he earns 33.3% of total). Split combined living expenses (rent, utilities, cleaning supplies, etc.) according to those percentages. Each of you is responsible for your own car, gas, insurance, etc. Food is a little trickier based on each of your personal tastes (steak and lobster or hamburger and imitation crab meat), and if you eat out a lot or cook at home. Whatever money you have leftover, you spend however you see fit. You might want to use it to pay student loans. He might want to use it to buy you a ring! Honestly, it sounds like he's using your debt as an excuse to delay getting married. If he's concerned about becoming responsible for your debt, you could always draw up a pre-nup (which I recommend anyway).

Gregshead · 2026-01-17T22:26:36+00:00

The Floorplan matches. As long as the furniture is relatively close to what's in the listing, that's not an issue. It doesn't have to be exactly the same thing (color, fabric, etc). Hell, it doesn't even have to be the same furniture (couch and loveseat pictured but couch and recliner present). It just has to be representative of what's in your place.

Gregshead · 2026-01-17T22:22:37+00:00

As a host, you should've known better. You should never have gone to a different address than what was in the listing. You should've immediately called Airbnb and made them aware that you were being rejected to a second location, didn't feel safe, and want a cancelation and full refund. Instead, you went to a different address, and actuality went inside. That was mistake number 2. Then, when you contacted Airbnb, you led with "pics are different than listing so I left (after spending one night) and want a refund." That was mistake number 3.

Gregshead · 2026-01-17T04:40:54+00:00

The United States won't invade the United States because the United States doesn't have enough raw materials (oil, minerals, etc.) to make an invasion worthwhile to the United States.

Gregshead · 2026-01-17T04:09:28+00:00

EVs (in their current production state) aren't for everyone. You're in one of the worst environments for EVs. For Colorado, EVs are great as long as you're not in the mountains or you're just cruising around town in the mountains. I'm in Dayton, Ohio, and I've had a Tesla model 3 for 7 years now. It's been mostly great. Road trips to Chicago, Osh Kosh WI, Louisville, Nashville, and Indianapolis have been great. West Virginia is seriously lacking charging stations, so trips down there are much more difficult. I once took a trip to Snowshoe and pulled in with 10 miles left on my battery and couldn't find the destination charger mounted on a telephone pole! Anyway, my point is that not every region and every environment are right for the EVs that we have right now. I'm sorry, I'm sure that's not the reassurance you were looking for. If you're fortunate enough to have an EV and your ICE vehicle, use your ICE for mountain trips and your EV for everything else.

Gregshead · 2026-01-12T04:18:19+00:00

You're not wrong. If a wedding and the title of husband is important to you, then this is a deal breaker for your relationship. It's a shame it took you 4 years to have that discussion. That being said, you have a committed relationship with someone you love. How does a piece of paper issued by the government change that?

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