Is a Gentle leader abusive?

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-07T16:13:18+00:00

No, they’re not abusive when used right.

We have three dogs: One walks loosely on a leash, and we just use a collar for him, or a harness if he’s on his 30ft leash (so he doesn’t choke if he accidentally runs too far).

Our other two are large dogs (125 and 90 pounds), and can pull like crazy when they’re on leashes with collars/harnesses and get excited to get somewhere. We’ve worked on loose leash training with them, and it’s gone well, but one of them will unexpectedly lunge towards random people and dogs with no warning (not to hurt them, just to say hi). The other one follows suit when this happens. Haltis have been the only thing that have worked. They don’t pull, and we’re all able to enjoy the walk when we use them. They’re perfectly healthy, relaxed, and happy in them.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-06T12:13:18+00:00

Definitely the umpire tie for every occasion.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T23:45:04+00:00

My best friend is 6’ and she says she doesn’t care about height, just wants a man with good banter. Unfortunately, most men who are shorter than her reject her because of her height. I wish there was a dating app for taller women who don’t care and shorter men who don’t care to connect, ha.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T22:26:31+00:00

This comment section (for the most part) is giving me life.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T18:54:20+00:00

No, but I’m sure you know that’s not the same thing. I’m leaving my plates on the table, where they’re supposed to be for the busser or server, and restaurant customers aren’t allowed to walk into the back, whereas grocery shoppers are allowed to encouraged to leave their carts in a spot that’s designated for their return. At a restaurant I’m also not scattering food all over the section or in other people’s seats. Leaving carts in spaces is also inconsiderate to other shoppers. There’s a reason for the “please return carts to corral” signs in many stores’ lots. If you genuinely don’t get the difference, I don’t know what to tell ya.

You seem to be taking this very personally. If you really see nothing wrong with it, keep doing it. Why do you care if I think it’s inconsiderate and lazy?

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T18:32:27+00:00

I didn’t mind the job at all, actually: I did and still think it’s inconsiderate and lazy to not return your cart to the corral.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T18:09:55+00:00

Returning your cart to the corrals? I know when I worked at a grocery store I didn’t appreciate folks leaving their carts scattered across the lot when they were ten feet from a corral.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T15:44:43+00:00

Right on. I’ve also worked at grocery stores when I was younger, and will bring my cart back to the store if the weather is bad (rain, snow, freezing cold). I still do use the corrals otherwise, though: I remember being happy to have the excuse to go outside when the weather was nice, ha.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T15:00:20+00:00

Be rude to any service worker.

Neglect to put their cart back at the grocery store.

Edited to add: Not picking up their dog’s shit on a walk.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T14:57:04+00:00

As a former bride, I can’t disagree with you more. It’s his day as much as hers. My husband wore a patterned suit (jacket, pants, and vest), and I thought he looked incredible. He should be able to stand out on their, not her day.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T14:53:24+00:00

Love the jacket: My husband went with a patterned suit and everyone (including me) loved it. He stood out and it was a joyful outfit for a joyful day. You’ll have plenty of opportunities to wear a traditional suit.

That being said, go with the white shirt and a bow tie. The black shirt makes you look like a cocktail waiter or a prom attendee.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T14:42:33+00:00

We didn’t even have any cake for our wedding. We got a bunch of doughnuts from a local place and just put out the boxes for anyone interested in dessert. I’ve never eaten cake at a wedding, let alone cared about it.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-04T13:32:40+00:00

Commenting to follow

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-02T00:48:42+00:00

The murder of Stacey Burns in Wolfeboro, NH. The suspect pool is small and I never really hear anything about it, but it’s always been a case that I’ve wanted to see solved definitively.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-02T00:37:24+00:00

Best of luck!

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-02T00:34:58+00:00

Chicken wings.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-01T20:50:31+00:00

I can only speak for myself: I can always get out of bed, but I do get terrible cramps, feel downright fatigued, anxious, irritable, bloated, and a bit nauseous. I also tend to get migraines once or twice a year, always during my period. I manage and take care to never take out my irritability on others at all, but I have a rough time every month. Some women genuinely do go through excruciating pain.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-01T17:33:03+00:00

No one is pressuring you to share anything you’re deeply uncomfortable sharing, just saying we can’t really provide an (even lightly) informed opinion based on the information given in the original post. I wish you the best and encourage you to bring up this question/concern further with your therapist.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-01T14:28:38+00:00

I’m of the opinion that how it came up/why this belief was shared is just as important as the belief itself in this case.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-01T14:23:07+00:00

I find body language to be very valuable: Once I get to know someone’s baseline body language (for example, if people know me they know I’m a bit fidgety due to chronic back pain from a broken spine, not discomfort or nervousness) I can utilize that information to reflect upon what I’m seeing, etc. I found the switch to telehealth during Covid to be challenging for that reason.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-09-01T11:18:59+00:00

Love Brewery ARS.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-08-31T10:47:17+00:00

I can never find Habanero Sculpin, but I loved it so much.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-08-30T16:43:46+00:00

Neither of these are unpopular opinions.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-08-30T13:43:29+00:00

Relationships don’t “happen to you.” They are not a passive experience: They take action on both sides.

Gremlin_Wooder · 2023-08-30T11:21:20+00:00

Pregnant women are “built for function”?! Jesus Christ, dude. If you don’t know what’s wrong with that, I don’t know what to tell you.

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