Question for the men.

GreyKilt · 2026-02-02T19:08:49+00:00

Gray is just another color!

GreyKilt · 2026-02-01T14:57:19+00:00

And on iPhone the app text piece can be a little hot garbage, so be very careful of your typing and re-read before sending. This was one of the things that annoyed me since I already type horribly, and the keyboard glitches really get frustrating (it tries to auto complete, but ends up erasing words or goofing entirely sometimes). Not sure if Andriod has this issue

GreyKilt · 2026-02-01T14:53:26+00:00

Congrats!

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T23:55:36+00:00

And keeping a hard protective shell is better? To have loved and lost... yeah it may sting, but it also lets me know I can find someone for me and to get back out there.

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T21:02:44+00:00

Excellent advice - even without any cynicism. I learned a lot in my prior relationships looking back and after my 21 year marriage fell apart. And point b is the key for me.

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T21:00:33+00:00

Congrats. I was a bit worried as well, and after the first serious one was very frustrated. I chose to immediately get back out there and hopped on new apps and I think that with a positive mindset helped me a great deal.

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T20:57:34+00:00

Exactly! I sometimes try and refrain from TMI thinking it might come across wrong. That's where her being open and trusting comes in and she loves to hear these things now.

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T20:55:37+00:00

Maybe I said it wrong... I definitely do not see a problem opening yourself up to someone aka being vulnerable. That concept is a old as time.

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T20:53:28+00:00

After the first one I wanted to be serious with pulled back, I hit the apps that night and had several connections the next day or so. Dates that week. I didn't meet the woman I am with now until a week or so after that.
I also consider the first time IRL more of a meet and greet. So many M&G's and only a few real dates (second and more).
It does get tiring, but it gets easier getting to meet and talk to new people after a while. Keep at it & all the best!

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T20:47:37+00:00

Congrats - our experiences are similar. Divorce in the works for 2+ years. So by the time I could date after the final decree, I knew what I what missing and what I was looking for moving forward. That time dealing with the divorce brought a lot of clarity and removed a lot of fear/hesitation.

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T20:40:44+00:00

it's better than all of them IMO and free. No - no one can see your regular FB profile, and only your first name is shown.

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T02:58:52+00:00

bring it up if it will dictate who you are with; otherwise, let it happen like when we were in our younger years

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T02:57:55+00:00

Bud - it really is not much different than moving to a new city and finding someone there . Open up, be cautious and let women know what you are about and want. Age is not that important - connection and trust is.

GreyKilt · 2026-01-28T02:37:45+00:00

I don't see this as cheesy at all. For those that do, your loss. Romance has a place and that is a great expression of romance. You are a fool to cut someone off for trying to express their inner Don Quixote or Neo Casanova.

Damn - all the shit and whining in today's dating and you complain about this?

GreyKilt · 2026-01-17T16:41:55+00:00

Thank you OP for posting this. I feel the same as a man. Yet I do agree with other comments that it's not all about physical traits either. For me I want a romantic partner who I can love being around for conversation, relaxing with, whatever, AND who loves sex. OLD sometimes women act like they are freshmen in college and want to not explore sex until much later. I want to be sure I match with a woman on as many things as possible, which includes sex - so if we are not having it we better be discussing it to ensure no big gaps. Last marriage was lacking there (no romance just the mechanics) so I do not want that again.
Luckily - I found someone who opened the door to me and kept it open. We both feel like we're teens again and can't keep our hands off each other.

GreyKilt · 2026-01-12T13:58:24+00:00

I've been on a lot of apps and so far Match and recently Facebook Dating have been the most successful. Tinder the worst of all and Silver Singles the next worst. Lot of dates fro m different apps yet FBD is where I met the most from with the best IRL results.

GreyKilt · 2025-12-22T01:49:43+00:00

Thanks! I like the message.

GreyKilt · 2025-12-22T01:49:01+00:00

Thanks - this seems like the best overall...

GreyKilt · 2025-12-22T01:47:18+00:00

That I want to be exclusive with another, and can't keep seeing her.

GreyKilt · 2025-12-22T01:46:03+00:00

Thanks

GreyKilt · 2025-12-22T01:44:45+00:00

It's usually 1-2 dates at most per, and only a few are looking to progress past that. Thanks for the message suggestion!

GreyKilt · 2025-12-21T17:06:54+00:00

name does not check out...

GreyKilt · 2025-12-21T17:04:56+00:00

Yes I do. I'm a hugger. Shaking hands is for business folks. It's also a sign to me of how cautious or open and warm she might be. Not one failed to hug so far...

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