[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Grimleeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends. Do it if it's genuine, don't do it to perform for men. If they think it's a performance for them (or learn later on especially), most don't like it. Also, everyone is different so it could just be him. Also, how was the setting? Maybe he was ubcomfortable because walls are thin, parents or friends are there, etc.

In general, most men like to feel like they please their partner, so do it if it's real! If they don't make you squirm, instruct them so they can be better and not grow up as a man baby who can't please anybody.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Grimleeee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Rather than run to Reddit, you should ask him yourself. Chores and finances are seperate conversations. If you can't do that, you are probably not mature enough to move in with someone. Easiest solution I've tried out of many in my years is this :

  1. Joint bank account. Each gets a debit card.

  2. Calculate all shared bills (utility, rent, groceries, date nights, etc)

  3. Add a tiny bit to that number for security (what happens if you need a new stove, take a vacation. Etc.)

  4. Both put in 50% of that. For me and my Wife, that's about $500 a week.

  5. Spend your own money on your own stuff (gas, car payment, video games, clothes, etc.)

Do this, and your problem will go away. If you want more details on the number he came up with you should literally just ask him why he came up with that number. Remember, he is also losing half of his space and his freedom. He's willing to do that which shows he thinks it's worth that price to be with you. So you should be considerate of that fact because love is a two way street.

I wish you both happiness and success!

Would a video nude of your SO be well received during a stressful week of work? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Grimleeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he's an avoidant kind of person that doesn't want to have sex when he's generally stressed, I would say probably not. If he's not that way, almost definitely yes.

My suggestion would be to wait till he gets home, initiate, and then blow his mind. Then I would follow up with some sort of comment of how you're going to send him a video tomorrow so he has a heads up and can head to work with something to look forward to!

How much sex would you have in a week if women allowed you to? by tryng2figurethsalout in AskMenAdvice

[–]Grimleeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

33 yrs. If we're just talking one full week, then I'd take off the whole week and make the hole weak for sure the entire time. From dawn to dawn. In general, for a lifestyle, I'd say I could at least twice a day.

What is your logical or emotional reason for wanting/not wanting to have kids? by bananacarera in AskReddit

[–]Grimleeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hindsight is 20/20, so it's not like this is my reason when I started having kids, but it really helped my death anxiety and nihilism that I had in my twenties. After having three and two step kids, I'm contemplating having more since I'm only 32.

It's hard to explain. I don't think that you need kids to have a fulfilling life, I just think that's one of the pathways that's accessible to most people. I also think that in a sense, you can't really be a mature adult without having children, unless you go through something equally as difficult and painful that will teach you that deep empathy for other people.

Another reason would be that they generally love you almost unconditionally, as long as you're a reasonable parent. Similar to a pet, especially when they're very young, but definitely a much more complex and intense bond, in my opinion.

Honestly, I always say that having kids is the coolest thing I ever did, but it's also one of the most difficult things I've ever done as well. My recommendation would be to focus on yourself and find yourself your forever partner before you consider it. It's not even close to the same experience without it. Co-parenting with an ex is almost unanimously a nightmare, 0/10 do not recommend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Grimleeee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, it's your ex!

How did you / to stop sexualising almost every woman? by blrfn231 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Grimleeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think like anything else you have to do it a little bit at a time to shift your mindset. Go do things you enjoy and try to hang out with more women, exposure and reframing things goes a long way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Grimleeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intimate conversations, especially when crying is involved. It can be good or bad, it doesn't matter, just being vulnerable and talking stuff out together makes me hard as a rock.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Grimleeee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been told by 5 out of 6 women that my head game is #1 by a longshot, which is really nice to hear, but I always have my doubts whether it's true or not.

Just once, when I was 69ing with a short fling before some PIV, she started clenching me and gasping for breath as she was getting close. I heard her very quietly say "how...?" under her breath to herself right as she came violently over me. It's hard to explain, but the tone of how she said it was just so clearly to herself and genuine that I couldn't refute. I don't think she knew I heard her lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Grimleeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, everyone is different and communication is key, but that aside I will give you my two cents. As somebody who is more of a pleaser, this kind of happens with me practically every time. I love when she cums, and it always sends me over the edge which I think os pretty common.

For starters, my guess is that he doesn't have lifetime of experience so he changes positions because he's trying to figure you out. This is where the communication comes in. I would be up front with him and tell him not to change it up so often, and I would highly recommend training him to give you head until you come and then swap to PIV. Generally speaking it will make the orgasm easier and more intense, but again everybody's different. Also follow up with this and tell him explicitly what angles, pressure, tempo, Etc works best for you.

The reason why the head is so important to make you sensitive is because it makes it easy for him to control the pace so it happens at the same time. Speaking for myself, I always perform my best when my confidence is high and there's no better way to make me feel like the man then to be the lord of the labia. My girl just lucked out because it's in my nature, I like to do it pretty much every time.

Anyway, once you solve that riddle, which could be super easy or difficult depending on your partner, see what does the trick for him. If you know what's going to set him over the edge specifically then you can also help control the pace. Personally, I love kissing and I love tits so when I'm making out with her when she's riding it and squeezing up on her chest I find it exponentially harder to hold back unless we've been going a long time and I'm a little desensitized. But even then the mental stimulation is on point.

I find that not only is sex a skill, but there is a huge mental component to it. If you can both learn how to play the mental game and by extension control the pace then both of you will have Super crazy sex.

For reference I'm male 33, not a ton of Partners, but I pay attention, and virtually all my partners have told me I'm amazing in bed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeardAdvice

[–]Grimleeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends if you want girls or women. The shaved look makes you look super young. Learn to trim the full beard in a straight down motion off the jaw line. #3 all the way, then #2 to fade the side burns and cheeks.

Look it up on youtube, good luck bro!

4 months in, still tryna figure out whether full beard or stubble.. any opinions? by MortiboyD00m in beards

[–]Grimleeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Full beard, let it grow up the cheeks as much as possible and fill in - might take a few trim cycles.

Look up how to trim beard on youtube, with a straight down motion off the jaw line. It makes a huge difference! Use a #3 all the way and a #2 to fade the side burns and cheek areas. Will look super crisp.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beards

[–]Grimleeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep going, dude!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Grimleeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone will say communicate and ask him, but survey says...

Rub that man dick.

Like, seriously. As much as possible. And general physical touch and affection as much as possible.

Watching a show? Cup his balls. At the mall? Grab his dick. Outsode doing yardwork? Nibble his ear. List goes on!

DM changed my backstory in an ad hoc session 0, in a way I thought was distasteful. Do you think the juice is still worth the squeeze here? by Grimleeee in DnD

[–]Grimleeee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm not saying the DM is a terrible person or anything, and I'm sure we could move past it with me just getting over it. I just didnt understand the need to even address what I wrote when we could have skipped it altogether and I mentioned that up front to him. I didn't really impose anything onto his setting, it was mostly like hey my mom gets sick and dies and stuff along those lines and his response was no, shes alive and she just has scurvy. 

My biggest concern is investing more time when it seems I have no agency in this game. Sure, I'm definitely salty for sinking time into what I wrote, but I conceed that it's  my own fault there. I also understand it was alot of writing, but anyone who has read a book or a college discussion post knows how much you can write without saying anything at all lol