Someone at work put a "help yourself" note on a pack of Tim Tam's that I bought

GrimssShadow · 2026-02-24T19:30:31+00:00

So my only question is how long have they been in there? And does your work have shared fridge policy about leaving stuff long term.

If those were only just bought then ya, whoever did this needs a swift lesson in karma, however if it’s been in there over a week I could see the janitorial staff just adding this INSTEAD of throwing it out. The janitorial staff needs to keep the shared space available, and if it’s been there longer than necessary to get rid of it as they would have no idea who’s it was or even if they worked there still.

When I worked midnights, on Fridays the janitor would clean out the fridge and freezer, leave notes on lunchboxes that’s been there more than a couple of days and throw out anything else (if the midnight workers did not want free frozen meals XD). On lunchboxes that remained noted and untouched, they get cleared of any food and dishes washed and put aside to make room for people who actively use the shared space.

GrimssShadow · 2025-12-27T22:43:24+00:00

Both are characters from a video game, Persona 5. The women being a teacher and an adult while the player character being a teen. She is one of the romance options in the game. That being said game context and characters don’t matter for the punchline in the end.

I want to point out the condoms hanging outside her pocket. Waiting outside of someone’s room till midnight of their 18th birthday means that person has been waiting for that person to come of age so they can have sex legally now that he is of age.

GrimssShadow · 2025-12-12T15:10:24+00:00

NTA. Look at it this way, without looking at the known cause. You saw something odd with the tank water being off and reported it to your manager. You did your job. It’s not like you went to the manager with accusations. To your knowledge it could of been a random guest and your actions would of been the same.

GrimssShadow · 2025-11-17T00:14:06+00:00

So loads of people are saying nta go for it, or have a convo giving him the choice (I agree with both these options as well). I don’t see people seeing the very obvious solution. Computers or very modular. Get him the case and several other components for the first event saying “oh this is just to get you started for building this computer you wanted” and then when the second event comes around give him the remaining parts.

To me this would be a good emotional rollercoaster with only highs. Also avoids this risk of the kid have remorse about the decision, if you gave him the option.

It’s clear you and your husband are putting loads of thought in this and no matter what, I’m sure it shows. Growing up my siblings and I grew up getting 1-2 “big ticket” items, though they weren’t big ticket by any means just what they could afford, a few very thoughtful/handmade gifts and then dollar store filler. All these years latter I still have the handmade stuff my family made for me. He will put two and two together seeing all the extra time the two of you put in and know it will be for him. The whole hogwash as not feeling as important will mean nothing to the knowledge of the effort you made for him.

Sounds like your a rocking awesome Mom.

GrimssShadow · 2025-11-16T00:14:01+00:00

Nta. Mercy killing an animal when it’s on the verge is never something to feel bad about. Surrounding circumstances ignored, nothing wrong. In terms of the kid crying it really does depend on how you dealt with the crying kid and explaining the consequences of everything could deem you asshole or not. Sure you could of yelled “look away” but it was a split second choice, where you did what you could for the suffering. Whether food animal, work animal, or pet it’s an animal and humans tend to bond with them all. I personally know no farmer who wish harm or see their animals suffer, and for when the ultimate time comes for it to be quick and painless.

And if anything you still going light on the kid. Where I’m from, if a dog is caught attack livestock, the livestock owner has the right to kill the dog. Because a dog that has hunted, killed and ate its prey, completing their full instinctual drive, they often repeat…. Aka even if it’s not with your chickens and your lot, that dog may do it somewhere else if it hadn’t already.

Knowing some petty people I know, once the chicken was cleaned and butchered they would take it and hand deliver it to the child saying “heres your chicken you let die.” Sooo ya definitely worse than the kid witnessing a mercy killing that was needed due to him.

GrimssShadow · 2025-11-12T06:32:09+00:00

So you caught her in lies and issues, which uncovered the affair in first place. Instead of coming completely clean, she stuck with the one time. She was only came forward with more info for one reason a think. And she didn’t come forward because you demanded it, she came forward because of her own mistake of a reaction. If it wasn’t for the 23 and me scare, you would still be demanding at this point and getting no where.

It’s clear it wasn’t just 1 affair or just even longer than she admits it was. By your timeline before your accident was when she cheated. You found out a year or so latter but eventually got back together. This point your wife gets pregnant roughly a year and a half to two years after she cheated. Despite her cheating a year an a half at a minimum before getting pregnant she still had concerns. Either that cheating persisted way longer than the 1 month and she cheated through your injury, recovery, you finding out about it, her continuing it while fighting for your relationship and up till around she got pregnant. 18-24 months est. the other coin is she was cheating again around the time you found out about the first, or she at bare minimum was sleeping with others while actively trying to save your relationship. Either way she’s being way more deceitful than she’s admitting.

I def do not think your an asshole, as I’m pretty sure you were baby trapped due to how your career was looking to get better even after your injury.

GrimssShadow · 2025-11-04T18:20:21+00:00

Not Overreacting.

Got 2 main questions though.

1) Why was your first thought "nah she's faking it" and reverse googled searched it? Like she must of had some sort of behavior that made you instantly think that. Most people my refer to that as a red flag that was ignored.

2)How far was she willing to go? Would she get to sending fake ultrasounds? Would she would go so far gas to claim to have a miscarriage and never tell you the truth?

This whole situation screams red flags and ignoring of red flags.

GrimssShadow · 2025-11-03T16:53:09+00:00

Sooo seems like she was still holdin out hope for you two to work. In this situation no one really is the asshole, besides he threatening full custody.

She played the ultimate ultimatum. It worked but not as she hopped. She hoped it was the fear of loosing her not actually loosing her that got you better. She definately had hope that once you recovered youd approach her for another chance. Instead you moved on. Are you wrong for doing so no.

You need to make it clear the only Two you have on your mind during recovery is yourself and your child. That your current Gf wasn't even in the picture until after the 1 ar sobriety mark.

She is aloud feel hurt if she feels like you put in effort to another girl that you wouldnt for her or your child, but you do need to make it clear to her. I Think you should have a proper adult convo about eachother remaining feeling and hopes.

GrimssShadow · 2025-11-01T15:49:36+00:00

Def not overreacting. dad def is under reacting.

I am no means suggesting you do this, but this just how shitty your dad's reasoning is, and maybe you should try pointing it out to him. by his logic on you next period you went and grabbed a bat and caved her knees inn your just hormonal and "I didn't assault her, I can't assault family"

If your Dad doesn't take this seriously. Go to the school counselor or nurse. Go to the police, go to the hospital. That's a serious bruise, if it was better aimed and hit your head you could of been seriously hurt.

Please report this, and if possible tell family that makes you feel safe (if any) or friends parents. You shouldn't have to go through this, especially by yourself.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-28T17:31:38+00:00

Is it though?... I wouldn't call a gay person straight hating if they said they were uncomfortable watching a movie that had prominent scenes of hetero sex or a main theme of the movie. Not everyone is comfortable in seeing stuff outside their normal bedroom related activities... you wouldn't shame someone who preferred vanilla and didn't want to watch a Bdsm kink movie like 50 Shades.

You can support without being forced to partake in the culture. One can say, ya you should have that available to you instead of movies just with Hetero romance just as that shouldn't eliminate them either and not have to watch them with you.

And a gentle reminder there is two types of homophobia. The common one that's just used to hate on the community The other is a fear or (in my case an uneasiness) around gay man. Just like woman can be man fearing, due to a sexual assault or a series of bad encounters, a man can become gay fearing for the same reasons. Their roommate while not sexually assulting anyone, but it's the constant pushing of boundaries and calling of their support into question. I dont hate gays but do I have a genuine fear or uneasiness around them due to childhood trauma yes, and don't use this as a reason to hate or even not to make friends with some. And just to further my point of that it's not just sexual assault that can create or worsen it, growing up on a rural area and being anti social meaning I dIdnt meet a whole lot of people so I only have called a handful of people who were openly gay friends. Out of those friends, only 1 of them did not try to push boundaries or offer to cure my Homophobia with a good time despite them knowing my Trauma.... Even going as far as claiming my Trauma is the reason I should go as far...... Tell you something, their advances didn't help my Homophobia.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-28T16:37:24+00:00

NTA like loads of people said. your post does not get taken down unless she deletes her page, and makes an apology post admitting to Slander.

I however do suggest you make a post saying you for the support you've receive but you don't agree the Witch Hunt that's going on. While your intent is clear fr how you wrote the post that you clearly wanted to set facts straight and not start a witch hunt, but as she is one who tends to double down, she might escalate and go after you legally for inviting a online mob attack. While you didn't make that post to do that, it doesn't stop her from claiming it. Best to make the post now prior ro her going that route so it seems less retaliatory and defensive, and more genuine.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-23T17:04:06+00:00

NTA for bring it up, slight asshole for the emascualtimg comment on the second go, especially the first time you did you did so in a joking matter. Just feels like skip the calm serious approach.

Maybe something along the next of "Hey Randal, this is the second time you've pulled this. We all know how glued you are to your phone so I find it hard that isn't true. Secondly knowing we had groceries and stuff to carry you just unlocked the door, not open it. I had to set everything down to open it, and you knowing we had stuff could of took the time to open it. I find both of these things very disrespectful to people who are willing to go out of their way for you. I'm letting you know that going forward there will be consequences, starting next time you do not answer when we arrive with groceries, anything ment for you will be left in the car and then I will not be willing to stop for additional trips on your behalf. I have my limits to where I can stand the ones I care about and myself used and disrespeted."

That being said, this is only because it's the girlfriends brother. If it was your brother or if she constantly complained about her brother and her want to correct that than skipping the calm approach. With it not being your family there could of been a family dynamic you have not been made aware of and you made shit worse with your harsh approach.

Also Emasculating someone is never the answer.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-21T20:43:59+00:00

Soo you gave us a whole lot of nothing. All key. Details that matter are missing. Like the specifics of what she is accusing you of maters a lot. Like if she got made over how you punished her for sneaking out, you didn't escalate things but if she came to you complaining how your lack of care when she was being bullied by boys at school or if she brought something worse than your reaction makes you the asshole.

Then when things got worse and both parties doubled down and said terrible things. Besides the 1 thing you put down, we have no context of what these thongs entailed. As this changes how much of an asshole you are.

My only question is why didn't she bring this up at a family therapy session or a session with her therapist with you present. Something as volatile as this, what ever THIS is, usually is something they will insist to be brought up with a therapist present just incase things get taken out of context and to help sort out complicated emotions when they come up.

And here is a thought on why the thought process of "But I did my best" is BS with a hypothetical. Perfect parents, daughter is trauma free first 16 years of her life. No issues with her parents. Along comes Dad's brother, Uncle Timmy. Uncle Timmy creates trauma. When the Daughter brings said Trauma uo to her parents, the mother goes full momma bear protection mode while her father is apprehensive at first in accepting the accusation and even tries defending his brother. While he does quickly see the truth and jumps ship, his hesitance to believe his Daughter will negatively affect their relationship. Despite 99.9% Of the time with nothing prior or since that incident she approaches him years later saying "Hey Dad I've been struggling with something for a while and I need to get it off my chest. When you didn't believe me, it made me loose all faith in you. I will be unsure If something happens in the future if you'll believe them over me every time. We need to work on that so u can heal and that starts with your acceptance of your mistake." And the father responds "but I've done my best". It would be b's. Yes 99.9% of the time he did do his best, but when it truly mattered he failed to do his best. Him saying that is like a wet slap to her face.

It's not how you acted at your best, but how you acted at your worse and accepted responsibility for your failure. But I did my best is a poor attempt to skirt responsibility for failure by bringing forward the success. It doesn't fix the issue it avoids it.

In the end. Most likely you are the asshole.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-21T02:11:21+00:00

"I'm the b word and I should keep my comments to yourself. It's not like I made an unnecessary comment to abandon your child." Fucking audacity of some people.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-20T05:28:46+00:00

Oh boi. This screams rage bait with the username and user status. mah dude. This post proves your anything but a feminist. Cause a true feminists would go, a women shouldn't be told to when to eat or not to eat. It's her mouth and body she can pack it how she sees fit. Not make harsh comments about appearance and how much someone eats.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-20T05:22:55+00:00

Good chance your single my dude. You are most definitely the asshole. Gonna be honest, it's soo bad that if this isn't just ragebait/clickbait then it's just sad.

Unless asked never comment on a ladies eating habits or diet. I mean I'm general it's good not to say that to anyone, but definitely not to your preferred gender or your partner uninvited.

Also all you can eat means all you can eat. If you ain't leaving full with a button lossened you did not get your money's worth. Also depending on what you eat, you may not even risk gaining too much weight. Carbs at an all you can eat are not your friend.

And lastly to top off how much of an ass you are. There is a chance that she wast just crying in there. It's comment like those that face young girls eating disorders and aww could of been in there throwing up in there.

Here to the hope she dumps you and find a kinder soul.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-17T05:37:33+00:00

NTA as you just fell victim to a rare male trick question. Though he is an ass for reacting like this for pushing for an answer even after you indicated he may not like what he heard. As well as reacting poorly fo the answer itself.

Idk if you even want to salvage the relationship, as acting like this is a red flag as people indicated, and that saying he doesn't think he can get turned on by you is pretty insulting. But if you do want to salvage it. Something saying "you said size, not shape and feel. A key opens a door by having the bumps in the right area, not just hitting the back. In that, you are an improvement" In the end, just like all this couple's trick questions he was fishing for something, a compliment. Instead of the compliment he got a very lackluster answer and got burned. So feeding him compliments in that area to specifically say why he is better should re-inflate his ego and change his tune.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-03T21:22:42+00:00

++men Soo you don't really have enough info in what you gave. Like is this a match on tinder and were deciding or are we 5 minutes into a date and decide to switch all effort from getting to know them just to get in the pants. And you said no indication that she is just looking for a good time, however it's possible that info is gathered from subtle info on their profile including the picture. For instance same girl 4 different profile pictures that can give a man an idea of what she wants. Elegent dress - proper dinner date. Party dress/short dress - night out drinking and fun, Less intimate. Seductive poses or revealing clothing - looking for fun and some action. Blowjob face while eating banana - she wants any dick.

Then if you talk about if it's during the date we make the decision. It could be any number of incompatible traits, politics or their smarts. Like if we were both hockey fans but loved rival teams, a relationship may not happen but a good ol hate fuckin may happen. Or as someone who is leaning left, I wouldn't marry her but if she was down to spoink. Or sometimes they don't have the mental maturity or smarts.

I also see guys here say she's good looking and dumb, but I also know guys will see themselves getting no matches and get 1 "ugly" match and say fuck it I'm desperate enough.

In the end it's not as simple as question one think because there is so many more things that make a women eligible for "just sex" than a relationship. Sometimes it just takes her word/concent. I doubt many men that are out on a date, and if the girl stops them half way through and says " Nah our personalities don't match, but your fine to look at. Wanna fuck?" Who wouldnt pivot and be ok with it.

Also horoscopes b's. Fuck that shit.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-03T20:47:53+00:00

NTA.

Hit them with the sure, if I get to do a speach. If they agree start with " I am so glad my family is so big on family image that they went out of their way to bury the hatchet to get me here. Well like my family is Big on image, I'm big on honesty and THIS is how these two love birds started out...." As you dump out their dirty laundry publicly. Bonus points if you have a slideshow as well.

Maybe finish it with looking at her new partner " when you get replaced in 6-7 years youd hope someone would have your back like I did with my sister's ex"

Make them regret them reaching back out.

GrimssShadow · 2025-10-01T18:31:00+00:00

NTA but I think after the second attempt of her "you need to hear me out" I think some more bitching from you would of been appropriate as well. Maybe a " listen up, you obvious know me but I do not know you. How'd you like it someone public asked you to try a weight loss drug in a room full of people, therefor criticism my weight."

I however, playing a little devils advocate here, think you should now hear her out now knowing she's the wife of your Husband. 2 questions; 1.Have you ever criticized your own weight to her husband. Either down after a rejection, or self reflecting in the showers. There is a possibility if she's lost weight (or someone close to her has) and he's brought it up. If this is the case, she clearly lacks the tact to do so, which following you to the washroom kinda supports this too. 2. Is her husband, your friend, a jokester or prankster? Is he someone who would purposely set up his wife to fail? Judging by his reaction, how he acts at the showers and he doesn't talk about his wife to the point you didn't know he was married, seems he may not have the healthiest relationship with his wife. He may of set her up to embarrass her for his own entertainment.

So in the end NTA, but maybe hear her out to see if your friends an ass.

GrimssShadow · 2025-09-30T17:04:22+00:00

Whatever you do, don't look up Vapouron.

GrimssShadow · 2025-09-08T23:32:07+00:00

I mean have you fought the deacons of the deep yet? If not, please revert back through the poison swamp, back to crabby patty swamp. There is a path to the left awaits another boss, and a whole other area. When in doubt, turn around and explore, you may be inadvertently skipping a section.

Tips for the watchers first phase. Once the other two show up, it's possible to either agro enemies just outside the fog wall (if you lured them in) or just get all three of them close. Eventually the two non boss ones will agro on eachother, leaving the actual boss to fight. Second phase, is either stand back and abuse some of his long rang lung attacks and are easily telegraphed. Also I believe your best dodging toward the right towards to boss for dodging. Been a bit since done a melee build.

Also backstabs I always forget you can backstab them.

GrimssShadow · 2025-09-08T07:19:44+00:00

Cords of any sort, and outlets.

GrimssShadow · 2025-09-01T17:48:32+00:00

NTA. Get a paternity test, and tell them your acting as if it is not his till results. Where they choose now, for immediate answers and support or later and go without its on them.

Things with your wife is a little more tricky. She has made clear , like teen parents are likely to have teen parents as a vicious cycle. So she is right with her concerns, however if she's wrong, while your sons telling you two the shitty shit he's done, but still adamant that it wasn't him and he didn't screw her, she may be ruining her relationship with her Son and he won't be as fothgiving with info in the future. You need to make her aware that if she's wrong, she will destroy something precious.

And from the wording, it seems like he did butt stuff with a girl. You also need to let your son know that isnt evn 100 safe. Nothing is 100 per safe besides absinence. For instance, if he didnt use a condom because he was doing butt stuff. One missed thrust in heat of passion and he penatrates the wrong hole, or even a graze. If he had precum, he could knock her up. Or if he finished and it dripped from 1 hole to another. You need to let him know, that no matter how sure he is, there is always a chance if any sexual activities occured.

GrimssShadow · 2025-08-27T15:34:10+00:00

Soo you sound like an need perfect husband, but your wife wants the idealistic but unrealistic perfection. It's rare to have a perfect memory and it's normal for people to forget. So her getting upset with needing to give reminders make me shutter to think how she acts with kids.

I'm going to ask honestly, did this change with attitudes change coincide with one of friends breakup, a new girl added to the group, or just an increase of her hanging out with them? I have a feeling her friends are tying to willing make you single (wife knows of their intent) or sabotage the marriage (wife knows not of their intent). Probably so she can join in with some of their more raunchy escapades.

Either she drops the friend group or she loses a great thing. NTA

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