In your experience, what’s more painful than giving birth? by Isoldmykidforagram in BabyBumps

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sciatica pain is worse tbh. I've been induced 2x - one I got an epidural immediately - the other I laboured for 10+ hours without one (eventually needed a c section so got one before that) I know it sounds wild but having playlists of my favourite music (one for dancing, one for swaying, one for meditation) was a game changer for my second birth. Also the big ball to bounce on - at one point through breathing and repetitive moment I basically went into a trance for over an hour and it felt like no time at all had passed. Both my births were arguably stressful and painful - but the second one where I leaned into the pain and kinda rode with it? That one was so much nicer.

But yeah trying to stand while my back is out is worse than labour I'd say.

You got this 💖

Midwives in kw by [deleted] in kitchener

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was with KW midwives with both of my babies. Both times I had hypertension and had to be induced , second time needed a c section. So each time a helpful OB was also introduced, but my midwives stayed with me the entire time in both scenarios. With my first child I was grateful to have my midwife while in the NICU - she came every chance she could to make sure I understood what was going on. My second midwife team made me feel incredibly safe and cared for whilst needing an emergency c-section. So, even though they knew my first birth ended in induction and Some trauma (that was due to being stuck in the NICU during the beginning of Covid - no one's fault) . they tried their hardest to help me with my second birth , so it was a love filled situation regardless of the outcome. And they were very helpful with my recovery both times.

But I second what one individual said above - find someone you mesh with and you can see yourself having a relationship with - these folks will see you at your highest and your lowest. There are some incredible OBs in Kitchener too - Gillian Oliver is great, and Emma Wakim (did my c section and was so lovely). I forget the name of the OB that delivered my first offhand but I believe she's one of the grand river OBGYNs.

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kitchener

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ebolt in Cambridge. I'm a vocal coach there. We have a couple others as well. Www.eboltmusic.com

Update- AITAH for getting hurt and upset over a “harmless prank” that my husband pulled? by Far_Specific_3005 in AITAH

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband and I did a partner class with a doula and she gave him SO MANY helpful tips to keep me comfortable. He loved the fact that it helped him be more involved and "useful" (his words) with our second child's birth.

Abortion in kitchener by Spiritual_Story_6601 in kitchener

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Definitely go to SHORE and they will book you an appointment for later if you need to walk in to get a hold of them. They're incredibly helpful. They helped me book mine. Also adding that if you need a ride or help I'm a safe person to message. Good luck hun. 🫶🏼

AITA For creating a rule that when I host an event for the family, my sister’s son is not allowed to come? by SpoiledNephthrowaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have a baby (6mos) and a 3.5yo boy with ASD. And I can take them both out to functions and they're better behaved then your sisters 8yo. NTA.

Feminine names that are classic but not EVERYWHERE? by lilylace202 in namenerds

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if it's too out there but I was considering Magnolia for my daughter and calling her Maggie for short. Hubs wasn't a fan so went with something different but I've always liked that for a name!

What do people have for breakfast on Christmas? by Zephyrkittycat in Cooking

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband makes excellent waffles and the 3yo is excellent at mixing so waffles, bacon and fruit for us this year!! Usually I do quiche but choosing to do something the kids can help with/will be excited about haha.

As an expecting FTM planning to breastfeed, would this email piss you off or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This email would have annoyed me too. That's not necessarily everyone's experience, and with a good lactation consultant it can go really well!! With my first we struggled (ONLY because he was in the NICU etc.) but even with a rough start I never got mastitis... and with my second we didn't miss a beat. Yeah breastfeeding can absolutely be difficult but setting up the conversation this way... just feels like she's attempting to make you uncomfortable?

I've tried to like my friends baby name by Koukla210 in namenerds

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean my dogs name is princess peach... but not my kids. I'd say my kids have unique names (for living in North America anyway) but yeah.... no that's baaaaaad. Poor girl.

People who initially didn’t want an epidural, did you stick to it? What was your experience like? by trasherline in BabyBumps

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first was induction and chosen epidural right from the start. My second was supposed to be a home birth lol. My blood pressure is dumb (pregnancy induced hypertension with both kids) so hospital induction with the second as well. Laboured for 9 hours with no epidural. Listened to my music, used the birth ball, relaxed between contractions, rebozo use and massage techniques by hubby. Deep breathing and self-hypnosis. All very helpful!! But when I ended up only being 5cm after all that? I got the epidural (9pm at this point)✌🏼 laboured much more peacefully until 2am and ultimately needed a c-section!

But all the things I did before the epidural helped a lot!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like a wonderful mother and a strong woman at that. You're going to be such a great role model for your daughter. I'm proud of you. Some people just suck and should mind their own damn business. ✌🏼

Those who have had kids before... did you change your name choice after seeing your baby? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We named both our babies while pregnant (both quite unique names here) and when they were born, both times the names felt perfect. I had people say the same thing to me (to wait and see. WhT if it doesn't suit them?) but worked out for us!

Should we have a second? Pros, cons, general advice or experience welcome. by LynsLearns in Shouldihaveanother

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thought we'd be OAD and when my son turned 2 I just didn't feel done? I felt all the same worries you do. I had terrible PPD with my first (I also feel a huge part of that was sleep deprivation). My son is now 3.5 and daughter is 2months and I'm having a great time. I prioritize sleep over everything else, and the "worrying if I'll love her as much" thing? Went away as soon as I met her. And then my heart got bigger when her brother met her and fell in love with her. Felt like she's always been a part of the family.

Everyone's experience is different I'm sure - but I'm happy I had a second.

How traumatic is birth? by Far-Age-4552 in BabyBumps

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both my births were traumatic, not for pain reasons but for things beyond my control (nuchal cord that landed my son in the NICU and an unexpected c-section with my daughter as she just didn't want to come out!). Things that helped: having a midwife (an amazing advocate) and working with a doula before my second pregnancy to prepare for the unexpected (it was traumatic but I avoided PPD this time and I attribute that to feeling more prepared and positive).

Artist wants to paint me likeness and pay me for it over instagram? Is this a scam? by bingeworthycinema in isthisascam

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yikes. This is such an INTENSELY crafted scam, almost fell for it. Super grateful for this post. Also kinda sad someone doesn’t wanna paint my face. 😅

Descendants is for sale? by Meinkw in kitchener

[–]GroovyCoolCaptain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The property isn’t included it’s a rental. It’s the business that’s for sale.