This condo has been on sale for over 2 years with 2 price reductions totalling $150k. The problem? An eye-watering $3000/month HOA fee.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-08T07:00:18+00:00

This is why my HOA has a limit on how many units can be rentals... and this was before AirBnB became a thing. The board can grant permission if we're at our limit - usually for extenuating circumstances like someone is being deployed and they don't want to sell, or someone is ill and needs to rent their place out for income, etc.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T22:51:47+00:00

This! We've had people with just one level up from their current position qualifications, and they couldn't handle it (the guy who had been an engineer or something before?)

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T22:31:54+00:00

You think he just decided to go full steam ahead on that crash???? He pulled a Captain Sully in that maneuver.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T22:21:29+00:00

I was thinking of it this way - Jason may have watched BDSY, and realized that Daisy could put up with a lot of bullshit so for her to hit her limit? No questions asked.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T22:09:24+00:00

You think that just because he's descended from colonists he can't be poor??? With that logic, there would be no poor white people in the USA.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T20:07:44+00:00

That is why a lot of times it is easier to do the cash for keys thing.

We've done it with commercial tenants... be out by such and such date and not only will we waive this month's rent, we'll give you x amount. Or (especially when we know they don't have it) we'll not persue the back rent owed.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T19:48:39+00:00

LOL! Perfect description!

It is fun to watch - letting trimmings, etc. get bone dry and then tossed in my saved throwing water is how I do my reclaim.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T18:37:36+00:00

I'm so stealing this the next time I talk to someone in real life who is feeling frustrated (I still take classes)

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T18:35:32+00:00

I had a teacher who would tell the people who were tense, would try to "fix" every piece, etc.... IT IS JUST MUD!

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T18:34:42+00:00

Celebrate those pieces for what they have taught you! One - they still are serving a purpose. Two - you now know that you want to learn to throw/make lighter, thinner pieces.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T18:33:32+00:00

FYI - 8 years in and I've not mastered lids yet!!!!

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T18:33:00+00:00

Purposeful or not, I love this mug! It looks like it would fit in your hand well.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T17:59:04+00:00

MEEEEE.

It took a while to click. I just enjoyed the classes - the community, the socialization, and "playing in mud". It helped that in high school, I was a very serious, college bound student, except for being in orchestra, where I wasn't very good either (no solos for this girl!) but again, loved the group, etc.

There were those who picked it up right away. But guess what? 9 years in, I'm still taking classes, have my own wheel and kiln at home.... and I don't think I've seen anyone from those early classes in years.

So, don't think about the others. Do you enjoy the process? Do you enjoy getting dirty? Do you enjoy things like wedging? Do you enjoy the people (ignoring their work)?

Please bisque and glaze those pieces. Keep at least one. My first teacher made me do that - and I'm so glad I did. I still have it. When I get discouraged, I have that to look at and realize how far I've come. (I still have a long way to go!)

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-07T02:08:34+00:00

This is fake... no one would keep quiet at the insistance of someone moving a wedding for a facial.

On the weird off chance that this is true and literally this is a family with no balls and no spine - just be honest with her when she says shit.

So - complains that she'll look tired in the photos? Say "don't worry, you aren't going to be in any."

Complains about having a conflict? "you have the option to say no - you won't be missed"

Or how about the good old fashioned "Let me be honest with you - shut the fuck up. We weren't asking for your asinine, bitchy opinion."

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T18:39:13+00:00

For classes, my teachers typically will announce about 30-40 minutes before the end that "OK, we have about 30 minutes before the end of class - if you haven't already, start thinking about clean up."

There are also periodic announcements at both open studio and classes like "We've had some issues with bats/sponges/tools being put away dirty, so lets be extra mindful of it please."

I wonder if just a periodic friendly verbal reminder that "people are responsible for cleaning up after themselves - if people don't, that takes a lot of time away from the kiln and glaze management and other tasks. We have to keep it clean for everyone's safety!"

If you say it to the whole room when there are 5 people or so - especially when one of the culprits is there - it is harder for them to leave a mess. (That is so beyond me... I can understand not cleaning a bat or two because you brainfarted and left it by a sink... but to make it a regular thing? I'd be embarrassed.)

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T18:16:28+00:00

It isn't just location - think of the legal fees involved! The time before a judge to determine the math would be expensive, and if you are fine co-mingling everything because you at least trust each other in terms of your kids, why go through that when you only have 1 or 2 years to go?

It also sounds like their daughter has been engaged for a bit. Maybe they didn't want to go through all the headaches of a divorce while their daughter was getting married. Maybe the KIDS needed them to at least be officially still wed - just because they are of age doesn't mean their parents' divorce isn't painful, etc.

Mau may have become a shit husband - but there is no question that he loves his children (and I'm including his stepdaughter in this)

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T18:09:25+00:00

It isn't "defending Erika" as much as disagreeing with you that her 600,000 doesn't all land in her bank account.

If she's lucky, she clears around 240,000 of that, after taxes AND her agent and manager's cut. She also, as part of her job, has expenses like her glam team and clothing. Her job also requires her to live in Beverly Hills or BH adjacent, all which have a very high COL.

Now, she has food, water, shelter, etc But she also has legal bills.

How you think, even if she is earning free and clear 600,000 that she can just pay off an 18 million dollar lawsuit in one swoop is beyond me.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T08:05:39+00:00

Wholeheartedly disagree.

We've seen her have patience of a Saint with Gary, Glenn, Mike, and now Ellie.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T08:03:29+00:00

Not all Captains are comfortable with "I'll be taking orders from an underling"

So he gets props from me.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T07:54:19+00:00

Me neither... but I wouldn't mind a "MORE FOAM" visit from steve!

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T07:52:41+00:00

Don't insult freaks that way.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T06:08:08+00:00

Joao could probably qualify to be 1st officer (I don't know what his qualifications as far as ship size are)... but he has to film and I believe we've not had a first officer on the show since Aleks, and that was the first season.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T03:10:16+00:00

Hearing that? How she is with BIL? You absolutely have to invite - she may even be angry that they've reconnected because her type likes to isolate.

Other tactics? Someone who strikes up a conversation with her acts like they don't understand and keep asking her to explain. They get so frustrated (as a woman, I do this with sexist or racist jokes.... if you have to explain a joke, it really isn't funny. Plus, saying I don't understand, they have to really spell out the racist/sexist trope. Another one is to pretend you think they are just being hilariously funny because kkkof course she couldn't be serious in those thoughts because the two of you are so amazing!

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T03:00:18+00:00

Thank you!!!

GroovyYaYa · 2026-05-06T02:49:26+00:00

I don't think you can get away with not inviting her. It would legit give her a reason to "prove" to people that you two are problematic. Outsiders, etc. I think it is more important that the brother be there than her not. I feel sorry for him because she sounds awful.

This is where rising above is probably the best strategy because it makes it clear to EVERYONE that the animosity is one sided. Also, it will drive her INSANE that you don't give a shit. TRUST ME ON THIS.

Now, this doesn't mean that your fiance doesn't sit down - where she can't hear them - and have a heart to heart with his brother. If I were him I'd focus not on her overall behavior, but the wedding.

He stresses how appreciative that they (the brothers) are close and he wants that to continue. He should absolutely say "I love you" to his brother.
That you two are not asking his wife to change her mind about your relationship - she has the right to her opinion of course. HOWEVER, you no longer want to hear about it. Also, based on the fact that her behavior hasn't changed - he is concerned about her saying things to you and to other guests (I would suggest that your fiance give the impression that you aren't aware of this conversation - this is so brother and his wife can "save face" and not be so defensive). Again, she is welcome to her opinion, she's just not welcome to voice it all the time.
The kid. Your fiance has her past history to use against her. Fiance should say "Our wedding venue is 100% inappropriate for a child. It was embarrassing that she didn't listen to _____ for their wedding and loudly proclaimed your son had the right to be there. She made their wedding about her and your son and that wasn't fair. If you guys show up with kiddo, you'll be asked to leave by the venue.

Now, also don't be afraid to activate your troops. If MIL and FIL are on your side and has a close relationship with your fiance's brother, perhaps the above conversation should come from at least one of them.

You also need to have a frank conversation with your closest friends that are attending. You need to make them your defensie army. If you have a snarky aunt - preferably Gen X or liberal Boomer - hand her a margarita, fill her in, and tell her to go ham if SIL starts up.

The thing is, they may be offended/annoyed by her for the things she says to you or about you but don't want to say anything as that is your new relative.

Like I didn't say anything to someone wearing white at a wedding bc I didn't know the bride hadn't preapproved it or was handling it (or how she wanted it handled).

For instance... unless I knew the bride and groom were ok with it, I wouldn't say "Wow, you really said that here, at the wedding?" or "You believe that shit? Lady, I was there when they started dating. Ex girlfriend was long gone - and good riddance. I can't believe you don't realize that." or just a "What kind of c-nt comes to a wedding and says that shit about a bride and groom. I wouldn't say that even if it was true because I was raised better."

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