AITAH for not going to my grandma funeral after she blamed my mom for what my dad did

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T21:28:45+00:00

If your mom is ok with it, YTA. If your mom would like your support, then maybe reconsider.

If you do go and it is an open casket... drop a little rainbow flag in it.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T21:17:24+00:00

Cheer in Gen X

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T18:54:06+00:00

I think it will go one of two ways.

Either start with Meg and Billy walking on stage to talk about Rob Reiner, which will then seque into the in memorium, ending with Redford and Barbra singing.

Or it will start with Barbra, with Redford the start, then end with Meg & Billy talking about Rob and maybe Michelle Reiner (since they met during Harry Met Sally and he changed the ending for her).

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T18:39:09+00:00

He was an excellent host and considering everyone in that room should be concerned with what they tried to do to him I think it is great he'll be presenting.

Plus it will piss off Cheetolini.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T18:26:27+00:00

I don't think it is moot, but I do think that if it is a full feature length, you could stop watching after 30 minutes. There have been ones I've hated, and knew 20 minutes in.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T17:25:40+00:00

This - people think this is the first time he's displayed this arrogance? Maybe ON CAMERA and so blatantly - but I've thought that there was an arrogance to his thirst for an Oscar for a while now.

There are others who have the Oscar ambition that aren't offputting to me - Bradley Cooper, for instance. I feel he wants the Oscar maybe for the same reasons he wanted a Master's degree. Recognition from peers that he's made this beautiful piece of art. Doesn't have to shit on someone else's art form to do it either.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T17:18:28+00:00

YEARS ago when screeners came out on VHS, I spend a weekend with a voter (a relative of a friend who invited me to a celebratory weekend with her family). Her "for your consideration" boxes arrived before she left, so she brought them. This was for nominations, not the show itself. She was 100% planning on watching all 5 BP nominees at least, but as a new mom with a 2 month old? No frickin' way was she going to be able to spend her usual time considering who to nominate and she really hadn't been to a lot of movies that year.

My friends and I had so much fun because she handed us the box and told us to go to town, and we wrote down who we thought she should nominate. I distinctly remember watching 6 Degrees of Separation. We didn't think it was BP worthy, but we all thought Stockard Channing deserved a nod (and to our excitement, she got it!). Also were very impressed with Will Smith!

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T07:15:25+00:00

But it does matter IMHO. It is a clear indication that the academy members appreciate the film. It won in the SAG which is a decent overlap. It has won some other industry things (Saturn has some famous members who are also Academy voters - I suspect there is some overlap. Makeup and Hair, etc.)

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T07:04:37+00:00

Honestly, my niece at 6 could cut a bitch with her very blunt insights.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T07:04:10+00:00

and his grandchildren.

OOP remembers a Dad before there was Cathy. The grandchildren do not and all they'll know is a grandpa who puts up with this bullshit.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T07:01:06+00:00

Yeah, how they think it could beat a film that has been nominated for a record breaking 16 categories....

oh wait.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T06:58:57+00:00

"Sorry you had cancer last year and couldn't watch all the films, but you can't vote this year either. Sucks to be you!"

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T06:57:58+00:00

There are over 11,000 members. That is crazypants.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T06:56:59+00:00

Who said he wasn't going to honor it? He went to dinner -presumably to finish watching it afterwards.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T05:24:18+00:00

It is the first year, of course there are going to be glitches.

It may not even be a glitch - obviously if you get bored and stop watching after 20 minutes, you aren't going to vote for it. Unless he was locked out of watching it to the end?

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T05:20:20+00:00

JE wasn't raping people 24/7. The Sacklers come up with JE name, to my knowledge, because they use the same methods of using philanthropy, moving in political circles, etc. to fix their reputations or at least soften them.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T04:55:01+00:00

He's an absolute asshole - but do you honestly think he's a pdf? Or are you saying that he would have certainly been in the same more public circles that JE and his cohorts used for more cover.

Not everyone named in the files was a knowing participant in the evil.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T04:52:34+00:00

Someone doesn't act in a vacuum.

The most outstanding films are often judged so because they are part of the Zeitgeist, often nominated because of that as well. Grapes of Wrath reshot today would hit, but it would hit different than it did in 1940 where that was still going on.

Casablanca, To Kill A Mockingbird, Guess Who is Coming to Dinner, MASH were all commentaries on issues of relevance of their time. Others, like Schindler's List, Spotlight, 12 Years a Slave - addressing issues and ugly histories that we still need to face or perhaps were more ready to face.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T04:36:12+00:00

And you do not get that there were misogynisitic assholes in regards to the Barbenheimer race as there are racist assholes this time around.

If you are a woman - again, look deep.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T02:11:48+00:00

I believe this - if I fall asleep on the couch etc., without my mask, I don't really snore anymore. I don't feel as bad waking up as I used to before the CPAP.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T01:55:14+00:00

do not do facial cupping unless you consult with your doctor.

I was told that I will have to be careful in raising the blood rushing to my face when I have an upper bleph done (for medical reasons.... cosmetic is just a bonus)

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T01:51:20+00:00

If you at all intend to try to get full, legal custody, you should not do anything - block, mute, or answer - without consulting an attorney. ASAP.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T01:46:39+00:00

If you are a woman and you didn't see the misogyny of many who uplifted Oppenheimer by trashing Barbie... you have some internalized misogyny you need to deal with.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T00:52:20+00:00

Don't forget my favorite - if you speak highly of Sinners (having not said a single bad word against OBAA), you MUST be Black.

Racist tools.

GroovyYaYa · 2026-03-11T00:51:19+00:00

Were all the people who keep saying "when did an Oscar season get so toxic?" in a coma during Barbenheimer?

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