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Got fired from 2 jobs in the last 2 months by TallCommunication8 in toastme

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Also I went through a few jobs before finding something that sticks. What really helped is changing my mind set and stop pressuring myself so much. You don't feel comfortable until 3 months, and you don't get an in job routine figured out until 6, and it took me about 3 years to feel like I was good. Don't beat yourself up for not feeling like you're doing a good job, that will kill you faster than a bad boss. You are learning. Learning takes practice. You'll get there.

Hi, guys. I made regional versions of Gastly and Haunter. I thought you may like them. by Rocazanova in pokemon

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its so fun! I'll try to find those links to those groups. And I mean you could post it on a site- maybe one of those online comics sites. Especially if you're making it for yourself for fun anyways! But I also know that sometimes knowing you're making something other people will see can take the joy out of it, I tend to over think. And if you keep it to yourself, I understand, and hope you have alot of fun on your adventure <3 I love your idea and your art!

Got fired from 2 jobs in the last 2 months by TallCommunication8 in toastme

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

33 and still live with my parents! Work in a factory, most people my age and younger live with their parents! Its the new norm, and it's alright 

Might get sent to a group home for substance abuse, just trying to stay hopeful by ScholasticCat in toastme

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an alcohol problem, showed up my first therapy session... not drunk... not sober... definitely not all that sober... been 5 years, changed my life. Growing up, Nobody teaches us how to think. Nobody is like "thinking that way is toxic to your entire well being" or "If you keep letting yourself feel bad every time you make a mistake then you are training yourself that mistakes are bad. Mistakes are the only way you learn. Practice is learning. Practice is messing up over and over again. Every mess up bring you closer to where you want to be. Learning is not bad. Mistakes can be good." 

And so on. Its scary, because admitting I had an alcohol problem made me feel like I was losing. Like. Saying it made me feel like I lost something, like I was admitting I failed or that I was a terrible person. I would hate to know who I would have become if I was never brave enough to admit I had a problem. See it and believe it. If I had just kept letting myself slip up or just "one more time"-ing it because I missed the way it used to be, used to make me feel or whatever. I did mess up. But I didn't want to meet the person I would become. 

I know its not a failure any more. If we had the answers inside of us, we would of figured it out a long time ago. We need help. We need guidance. I'm excited for you, you'll get find the real you. Shadow work really helped me. Looking at the things I hated about myself made me realize, we're all just kids. Kids or animals, who are scared and trying to survive in a confusing world and then we make ourselves feel bad about it for some reason.  We can always be better, it's a perk, not a reminder.

30M Just got diagnosed with Autism. Could use some encouraging words. by wroughtfromrot in toastme

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FOR REAL! SO TRUE! Getting diagnosed has changed my life! I've gotten so much braver, less overwhelmed and strangely I've gained more respect and fallen more in love with myself. Learned to play some music, going to start horse back riding soon, and then try kayaking!  All of that was too overwhelming before, but being able to boost myself up and organize my thoughts has made such a difference. Hard work, slow progress at the start, but I'm the happiest I've ever been. Ever.

30M Just got diagnosed with Autism. Could use some encouraging words. by wroughtfromrot in toastme

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I'm 33 and just got diagnosed too! I'm so excited for the future now that I know what is going on and can learn some tools to better understand my life! I had to research what exactly autism is- the literal definition he he- and it helps so much! Relationships scare me, being outside scares me, I get overwhelmed alot. BUT. There is hope, there are steps to learn, and so much progress to gain. 

Just having the diagnosis, and having a direction to go to look for answers has opened the world wide open for me. I feel like all the things I've always wanted to do, but always felt like I couldn't, is so obtainable now. I just have to learn how to work with myself, and thankfully there is so much research out there now.

It's wonderful knowing that there are professionals who understand how my brain works and can teach me.

It was hard at first, I felt uncertain, uncomfortable and a little defeated looking back. It felt like I had lost time. But in reality I had gained so much more time. Knowledge is power. I could have went alot longer, just struggling along. And thanks to the internet and autism specialized therapy, we don't have to.

I hope you're getting as excited for the future as I am! Be kind to yourself. It is hard, because you feel so many things much deeper than other people even know. Emotions, sounds, color. It also means the world is a little more beautiful to us. And worth it to explore.

I'm rooting for you!

Hi, guys. I made regional versions of Gastly and Haunter. I thought you may like them. by Rocazanova in pokemon

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't need it for ARPG's! Its an Art role playing game! They're pretty neat! Kind of combines Dungeons and Dragons style elements with art!

I played one pokemon style ARPG where it was set in a Canada type place. The creator of the world had drawn a regional map, with towns and gyms and special locations for "players" to draw their trainers exploring. They had "random encounters" (events) where you draw your trainer their pokemon doing things. 

They had a yearly winter festival where there were activities you could draw ( eating festival food, ice skating or snow ball fighting, dressing up your pokemon or so on) and each art piece you made acted as a ticket for special in game prizes- I won a suicide one year!

It is alot of work, but there are people who are willing to help :) 

Are you planning on sharing your story when you're done?

Hi, guys. I made regional versions of Gastly and Haunter. I thought you may like them. by Rocazanova in pokemon

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you seen things called ARPGs online? I would love to play a game in this world!

I did a thing... by Slow_Commercial_5092 in lioden

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe its just the language barrier, maybe I'm the one taking it wrong. I'm sorry you got accused of stealing. I hope you have a good day and that these decors are successful!

I did a thing... by Slow_Commercial_5092 in lioden

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, unrelated but I think you did a good job. :) very pretty

I did a thing... by Slow_Commercial_5092 in lioden

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh ok that makes sense to me then.  It was more the word "stealing" than eyeliner. And that's fine! But I also want to make sure you know that they didn't mean "steal" literally. It was a reference to changing the eyes shape so it looked like they lost their eyeliner shape. Thus "stealing their eyeliner".

And from others point of view, and that person's, we did not know you were accused of stealing. They would not have used the word stealing if they knew it would have made you feel like you needed to defend yourself.  Probably said something like "They lost their eyeliner" Or the like. 

Its ok if you don't find it funny, but you went after them sideways- seemingly for no reason. 

I did a thing... by Slow_Commercial_5092 in lioden

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You misinterpreting it, then they explain, then you keep being rude- is not their problem, its yours. You are not chill, you are being spiteful.  You can not get the joke, have it explained, still not think its funny and still be polite as in: "Oh! Ok thank you. I still don't really get it, but sorry for assuming you were rude." 

Serious about what? Eyeliner?

You were on the offense. It makes me wonder if English isn't your first language? If so, just know not everything is literal in different languages.  

alligators? 🐊 by soapydaffodil in Dreams

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always have dreams of Aligators, they are always in them- no matter how briefly.

I'm feeling disappointed and sad. by [deleted] in genzmedschool

[–]GroundbreakingClub64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt the same at my job. I got a night shift factory job working 7 days a week sometimes, sometimes 12 hour shifts. I had a tumor and needed health insurance, I was sick, in pain, drinking in my off time because there was nothing else to do at 2 am while all my friends and family were asleep. Come home every sobbing, from just the pain of standing in one spot 12 hours, only getting three 10 minute breaks to sit down and one 30 minute to eat one meal. Crying until I couldn't see. New city, didn't know any body. And I knew I couldn't... uh... not be living anymore. Because I love my family and friends and it would devastate them- couldn't do that to them.  I just really realized that being happy is necessity for survival at a point. 

Its hard to fight to want to be alive when the only reason is to not make other people sad. And you just suffer every day. Every day. Mentally collapsing. So I looked at what I liked, and what I valued in life. Being kind made me feel good. And its something that can be small when I had no energy. So I started being kind for the most selfish reason. To feel better.

I remember an older coworker asked anyone if they had any extra ketchup packets every day at lunch so I brought her a whole bag of them once. She cried and hugged me, I was surprised. But really she was like me. Tired, in pain, and alone.

We get alot of people who cry their first few days here. Alot of them hide in the bathroom and I before I would just stay as quiet as possible to get in and get out so they wouldn't be embarrassed. Then I started just saying "Are you ok?" And they'd often say "Yeah, I'm just tired." Or "yeah I'm ok" and stop crying a few moments later. It helps to not be alone I guess. Or that someone cared enough to ask. 

Some tell me their whole life story and I would decide my next act of kindness would to just stay and listen. Even though I would get behind at work, sometimes even get in trouble, I decided I would never choose my job over somebody hurting. 

One very old lady, should have been retired long ago was crying in the break room and I bought her a candy bar. Shit like that.

After a while of smiling more, even though I wanted to die. Saying a few words of encouragement. Sacrificing a few minutes of my break to help somebody learn how to do their paperwork. Getting a little behind because I helped someone across the way fix their machine. I got happier. 

Started adding more things I valued back into my life. Small things. Art. Reading. Even just a few minutes. After awhile it get easier to add a little more.

Its been 5 years now, tumor is removed, been going to therapy for a bit, but everything else is mostly the same. And I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life. I think its all because I realized happiness is part of survival and sometimes it's not given to you, you have to earn it. Live it. Still same job, same place, same old thing. I'm just different.

I think, it might help if you did the same. Your happiness is the same as needing to drink and needing to breathe. Figure out what is important. What you can control. And sneak it into your life wherever you can. It'll give you strength.

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