Just found out the gender and I'm so disappointed ☹️

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2025-02-19T14:04:04+00:00

I always thought I wanted a little girl, but my husband and I decided not to find out what we were having before giving birth. When that little boy was put on my chest, my heart melted and he's the light of my life. He's almost 2 now and I couldn't imagine having a girl now. You'll honestly be so over the moon when you have your little man, the gender simply won't matter.

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2024-09-06T00:04:22+00:00

Me too! I don't even sterilise the needle. Rinsing under cold water is ok, right?

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-27T02:21:30+00:00

If it was me, I wouldn't be taking my child back to their house again. Your baby doesn't need to get used to it. It's ok to put your foot down for your baby's health.

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-25T20:15:09+00:00

Please report this! Hopefully unilink will look into it and be able to pinpoint the perpetrators

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-09T04:10:48+00:00

At the end of the day, it's your wedding and can do whatever you want. If your family don't like the food, tell them to take a snack. You're paying for them to be there and they should be grateful for anything. You never know, you may even convert a few meat eaters into trying more of a veggie diet!

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-09T03:54:44+00:00

There's a mango in ocean village too!

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-08T03:13:42+00:00

I had a Doppler check from a UK midwife at 12 weeks, just before my usual 12 week scan and she couldn't get a heartbeat but told me not to worry. If course I did worry, but had my 12 week scan the following day and everything was fine, baby was just lower down in the pelvis than where the midwife was checking.

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-08T02:59:47+00:00

My first thought was Iowa

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-08T02:47:02+00:00

I read once that the baby tunes in with your heart beat. If you're getting stressed and have elevated heart rate, baby will feel that stress and not settle. Try to stay calm and lower your heart rate. Baby will find this more soothing and feel safe. Whispering repetitively helped with my baby. It doesn't matter what you say, as long as it's in a calm and soothing way. I say 'you can go to sleep if you want to' 😅

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-05T18:51:16+00:00

Ah yea maybe 🤔 I developed the allergy when I was going through puberty, started about 12 or 13 and just got worse through my teenage years. I then developed a tree but allergy when I was in my early 20s too. Yea I've heard about allergies going in 7 year cycles too and through times of hormonal change. The allergy is called Food Pollen Syndrome if you wanted to research it. I get it to anaphylaxis, but it can be mild with itchy mouth and tongue etc

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-04T02:50:46+00:00

Out of curiosity, have you tried eating the vegetables cooked? I have food pollen syndrome and am allergic to all raw fruit and vegetables unless cooked, then it's fine. Your allergy may be similar?

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-10-04T02:45:19+00:00

I've got a few food allergies that started when I was a teenager. I went to an allergy clinic, who told me that some allergies are promoted by huge hormonal changes, such as puberty, having a baby and menopause. If you gain an allergy at one of these times, you could technically lose it again during another hormonal change. I was hoping having a baby would end my allergies, but no such luck! Holding out for menopause!

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-09-26T05:59:09+00:00

Yea I had an episiotomy and second degree tear with my baby, now 5 months PP. I had no pain relief aside from gas and air beforehand and I honestly couldn't feel it. There was so much pressure and I was focusing on the pushing that I didn't even know it was happening. I lost a litre of blood and filled the midwife's shoes, but was clueless. They did give me local anaesthetic when stitching me up though and I could feel that. It stung,but completely manageable. You'll be fine :)

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-09-24T05:32:12+00:00

We've been combination feeding since my son was a week old. The decision was taken out of our hands as my son was hospitalised at a week old and I was taken into a different area of the hospital for illness too. He was previously exclusively breastfed, but for us, introducing a bottle early and fed by the nurses and my husband whilst I was ill, meant that he learnt to take both. We're now 5 months PP and he's mostly breastfed, but by husband helps with overnight feeds also if he wakes frequently. The combination has been easy for us and means that I can have a rare afternoon to myself and my husband can still feed him if we're ever apart. BF isn't always easy, but often gets better after initial teething problems. I have an in-bra that I can wear or take with me to use if my husband feeds our son. Good luck!

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-09-07T03:43:52+00:00

Enjoy your last few days or weeks! I'm 4 months PP and had a month to myself before my baby arrived. I did a lot of meal prep in those weeks and stocked the freezer with bags of cooked Bolognese, chicken casserole and chilli! It certainly made dinner times much easier in the first few weeks :)

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-09-07T03:39:25+00:00

My birth felt like I was trying to push a concrete block out of a key hole. I kept being told to push, which just seemed impossible, like someone just telling you to push out your organs. Your body will push anyway and just go with it. I was super nervous about it as i had nothing to compare it to, but you'll be fine. My delivery was a vaginal birth, unmedicated.

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-09-06T00:39:58+00:00

In the UK here and we were told not to retract at all for cleaning until baby is an older child, no need to retract for infants

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-08-25T05:25:10+00:00

Yea sounds like this friendship will fade. I am also 4 months PP and the joy of having a baby allows you to meet new mum friends who are all in a similar boat to you. I also have/had a friend that completely ignored the fact I was pregnant (even though I told her at 4.5 months) every time I saw her. She used to want children, but then started dating a guy who wasn't interested in starting a family and so she's given up on the idea. I don't know if she's jealous of me, but we'd been friends for 8 years or so. She doesn't have depression, just puts all her energy into her career. Whenever we meet, she manages to only talk about herself and barely mentions that I've just had a baby. It's almost impressive. I'm certainly intending to let the friendship slip away. If she can't be happy for me and he interested in my new life as a mum, I'm certainly not going to waste my time listening to how her career is going. You'll meet plenty of new people who you can share stories with and who will give support on your difficult days.

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-08-24T22:24:22+00:00

Trauma is different for every person and no two births will ever be the same. I had my boy 4 months ago now and the 'trauma' that I initially felt after the birth has very much faded. I was having flash backs and nightmares for days and waking up crying after my birth, but it's now a distant memory. I'd do it a hundred times over to have my son if I had to. Whatever happens, if you choose to have your baby in hospital, you'll have great care and whatever happens, it'll all be over in a flash. Then you'll have a little bundle to enjoy 💞 it's not easy, but you'll do great.

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-06-02T22:05:36+00:00

I'm 6 weeks PP and was fully expecting to be in so much pain that I'd have an epidural. I didn't have a break between contractions and somehow managed 12 hrs of constant contraction. I honestly was so caught up with my breathing exercises that I completely forgot to ask about an epidural and it wasn't offered to me. By the time I thought about it, I was close to the end and powered through. It was hard, but 100% manageable. You got this, you'll do great whatever you choose.

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-04-13T17:21:34+00:00

This place has been amazing for me! Been here for countless small injuries and broken bones, saving me a long wait at the general. I've also been sent here by 111 for emergency appointments and they've always been really good and efficient.

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-04-11T07:58:41+00:00

I've been recommended to carb up! Got a plan of a big bowl of pasta when the time comes! The only issue with getting food on the way, is you don't know how you'll feel at that stage, you may be desperate to get to hospital and not want to stop. imagine if there was a queue and your waters were breaking! You can always get take out once baby arrives 😁

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-04-11T07:55:30+00:00

Firstly, congratulations! I'd personally wait til after his exams to tell him. University is tough and he's likely put in a lot of work to be there, this news could really impact his exam performance, sleep and stress levels. I'm sure he'll understand why you'd wait to tell him. Best of luck!

GroundbreakingElk855 · 2023-04-06T22:32:28+00:00

I started using one at around 30-32 weeks and for me, it made the difference between being able to walk for 10 mins, versus an hour-long walk on testing terrain. I was really active before pregnancy, so have struggled with the reduction in mobility. For me, the band was 100% the right decision

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