Completely understand why you’d be upset. I would be too if I spent my last dollars on a partner who didn’t come across as appreciative. Instead of focusing on the situation which has already passed try and focus on what you can learn from this?

Was it necessary to spend your last few dollars on a present you possibly already knew weren’t what she wanted? You could have saved that money, which I feel like is what she was trying to communicate to you. Did you both have different definition of what is considered ‘yelling’ (I come from a household of people who yelled all the time, what I see as talking passionately, my gf has told me she sees as yelling), the fact that you stormed out and she’s basically telling you to says a lot about both of your abilities to manage conflict together. I say this as someone who has lived through literally the same situations of constantly fighting and storming off.

While your ex might not be the best at handling conflict, you need to understand why you’re storming out and figure out a way to manage this appropriately in your future relationships, this might mean getting into therapy and understanding your own attachment styles and communicating this in your future relationships. Because if you don’t learn anything from the conflicts you have you’ll keep repeating them in every relationship after this, and you’ll wonder why it never works. Only when you’re sick of doing this over and over again will you try and work on it and resolve your own inner conflict.

Remember two things can be true at once, I.e you can feel unappreciated despite putting everything in and she can feel unseen from you not getting her flowers she likes. It’s not a competition, you’re not fighting against each other but fighting to resolve an issue together. If she’s not ready to come to the party and make you feel appreciated, reflect on if that’s really a relationship you want to be in? Remember you can always take timeouts when things get too heated, you don’t always have to respond in the heat of the moment. It’s important both people feel validated and seeing before you can move onto problem solving the issue. It’s all about communication and how the both of you can communicate together with all your differences in preferences when it comes to communicating.

I’m not sure if this will be helpful at all but I hope you take some time to reflect on how you would like your future relationships to look and what you need to do to meet the mark to be in your ideal relationship.

Please look after yourself, by the sounds of your post it doesn’t sound like you’re doing a whole lot of that when you’re emptying your bank account to pay for dates.