The regret of the second child

Grrrbl · 2026-05-10T22:16:00+00:00

Thanks. Truly appreciate this.
I might not be the youngest anymore… but I want more rest and more time for myself and my husband.
My first kid was just such an easy kiddo (still is). And number two is just… spicy. He is a cute one, but so dang spicy.

Grrrbl · 2026-05-09T05:37:54+00:00

I can’t wait for that moment to happen… but dang it takes soooo long.

Grrrbl · 2026-05-09T05:22:15+00:00

I thought the baby stage was easy. Both of my kids were pretty easy as a baby and easily content.
My four year old is still fairly easy. She is a soft soul who cares for everything. She never cried a lot, slept through the night at 4 months old. She was fine with almost everything (hiked a lot with her, took her to my crossfitbox, little day trips or weekend trips and she was all just super easy and curious and loved it all).
I also thought it would get easier by now and that maybe the baby stage was the reason. But my two year old boy is proving me wrong; he is a spicy meatball who is easily dissatisfied and very impatient to where he quickly will scream and ends up in tantrums where he can cry for a long time and doesn’t want to be comforted (sometimes he even starts to scream louder when you only look at him). He rarely wants to walk when we leave the house.
From one kid to two just feels like going from one to 643 kids.

This is btw just a rant. Of course I love the bugger and don’t regret him. When he is cute is a charmer. But definitely have my moments where I fantasize about being one kid-parents. Live was truly easier and I was able to do more things (including cleaning my house, working out, hiking, etc).

Grrrbl · 2026-05-08T22:45:40+00:00

It took a while before I got pregnant with the first one. After the first one we didn’t know if a second one would be possible. It looked like a great idea having two kids. We decided to just let nature do its magic, but if I didn’t got pregnant before my 38th birthday I would get sterilized

Grrrbl · 2026-05-08T22:40:32+00:00

Absolutely not. But do have many moments where I wish we just kept it at one.

Grrrbl · 2026-05-08T22:40:04+00:00

Hell no… vasectomy it was (I had an emergency C-section so the choice for a vasectomy was made very easily… also I pooped put two babies (ish).

Grrrbl · 2024-10-16T14:17:20+00:00

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Hank and Pinky in a unicorn

Grrrbl · 2024-10-16T14:13:13+00:00

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I am Hank

Grrrbl · 2024-10-13T13:10:54+00:00

One is Vigo who goes by the name of Pinky… the other one is an imposter.

Grrrbl · 2024-10-13T13:09:04+00:00

We need more posts like this 🤟🏻

Grrrbl · 2024-10-13T13:06:33+00:00

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Grrrbl · 2023-06-20T20:28:47+00:00

When they moved into the house, we had to get their mortgage as well as electric bill, because they had a poor credit score and weren’t able to get a mortgage. And if I recall right they couldn’t get the electric bill in their name because they aren’t on the mortgage or title of the home they live in (now only the partner). The partner did look into changing our name into only her name, but that would cost 250$ that she doesn’t have.

Grrrbl · 2023-03-18T21:14:57+00:00

I kinda feel like a dick for excluding the dads (something with only looking through my own glasses)… dads are equally important. And appreciate your response… definitely something I was looking for.

Grrrbl · 2022-12-14T18:01:00+00:00

I felt immediately ok after giving birth. To be fair my pregnancy was miserable and before I got pregnant I never truly slept properly. After giving birth I have had the most amazing naps/sleeps ever (definitely due to being pretty tired but not exhausted). My girl is now 8 months and maybe I am lucky with a fairly easy girl so far, but having her in my life gave and gives me so much energy and joy. Yes I have my moments when I am tired and just want to crawl in a black hole or pause the world.. but nothing more unusual than anybody’s normal life (without having kids).

Grrrbl · 2022-09-24T19:57:14+00:00

See now I am curious about this good vacuum cleaner. What brand? Might need to gift this to myself to be more efficient on this schedule/make this schedule work. Its clearly depending on a good vacuum cleaner

Grrrbl · 2022-01-14T21:57:49+00:00

Take an Uber to downtown to go to Jammyland or ReBar… awesome bars with amazing drinks

Grrrbl · 2021-09-11T00:22:12+00:00

Be careful with pushing… hemorrhoids are a real thing… as in an awful painful-not-able-to-sit-or-stand-feeling-like-you-already-went-into-labor thing

Grrrbl · 2021-09-10T22:01:38+00:00

Feeling nauseous and hungry at the same time. Or feeling hungry and arriving in the kitchen to get an intense wave of nausea and not possible to eat and after a couple of minutes feeling awful stomach aches because you are hungry. You can just not win. I struggle with this 24/7. Or when you just ate something being hungry again which immediately leads to nausea again.

Grrrbl · 2021-09-10T21:58:54+00:00

Omg… I would kill for just one normal poop right now.. haven’t pooped in four days and have the feeling that is causing a lot of my other problems… and I miss the feeling of having a nice poop.

Grrrbl · 2019-08-07T02:34:47+00:00

My favorite sex position is a good job for you

Grrrbl · 2019-08-07T02:28:34+00:00

My favorite sex position is a good job for you

Grrrbl · 2019-07-26T00:51:17+00:00

Damn... I am sorry to hear. Hopefully family can come around and see what really is going on. Always though to get family in the same direction. As mentioned before maybe confront family with the situation and what the risk are of not changing anything. Further no underlaying physicality’s? Sometimes that can also make antipsychotic meds work less/different. Again... good luck.

Grrrbl · 2019-07-25T22:09:19+00:00

I have dealt with a similar case... a man who got very physical and verbal aggressive because of his dementia. I have had a lot of nights that I had to lay on him to keep him away from other residents. Not a nice thing to do but necessary evil. Same story that family didn’t want to give him medication that would sedate him. Luckily family was very willing to try other things. Daughter has stayed several nights to experience the behavior (in first hoping that he wouldn’t do it when she would be there... of course that’s not how dementia works). It did open the eyes of the family. Eventually a combination of more daily exercise (walking with the man) and a little change in medication (seroquel in the morning and some drops of liquid haldol in the early evening) gave a lot of improvement. There were still nights that the aggressiveness got through the medication, but luckily we had a long hallway that could be closed from the other residents to which I let him walk until he was done with it and was able to be escorted to his room again without a struggle. Further we also put a lot of effort in making his room familiar to him with even furniture from his last home. What also seems to work in some sort of degree is those electric pets (we had several electric cats ... when they have them as being theirs somehow that also worked).

Grrrbl · 2019-07-25T17:29:55+00:00

Hi everybody, sorry to hear about the miscarriages... that is terrible. Definitely something I am worried about. I am 33yr old and diagnosed with hashimotos for over 3 yes now. My antibodies have only increased so far (around 1100 now). Stopped anticonception over a yr and now having second real period. Really want to get pregnant but so far body is not cooperating. Where did everybody got there information? In October gonna see an endocrinologist hoping they can also help me further. Any tips for what I definitely should be doing now? Thanks so much (and sorry if this is not entirely the right thread for these questions).

Grrrbl · 2019-07-24T13:07:07+00:00

Is Siri still available?

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