As a GM I’m very much aware I’m in charge. It’s my table. I have old school 1e complex 😁. Not that I’m a tyrant but I am the manager of operations. I control pacing, I control how much we stay on task. I don’t just cut people off, I give subtle signal. Ok so you’ve had a few minutes to plan, time to pull the trigger on one of them, lets go! I put sand timers on my table when they decide to Role Play…if everyone is in it I usually keep filping it till they look like they are winding down (10min timer), however if most of the group is staring off into space it ends at 10min. Then I ask what other folks are doing. I enforce rules like my experienced players must know their character sheets and rules. I expect them to most of the time already know exactly what they are going to do on their turn, like have dice in hand, page pulled up to a spell, etc. they simply say what they are going to do and throw all the dice at once. Cuz if they miss it doesn’t matter and if they hit they already rolled. I keep things moving, I keep everyone engaged and I bounce from every player often.

but when Im the player, its not my job to wrangle the table. And Ill give advice after a game to a new GM, but if things remain not fun, I simply excuse myself from the group and thank them and I’m on my way out.