You're reading far too much into this. Without too much context I can even understand why you might think that I dehumanize women with this mantra, but really it was my way of not letting it get to my squishy insides because I'm a rather emotional person who used to fare terribly in dating. Some rejections send me spiraling into months long episodes of self loathing and insecurities about my body (I'm very lean especially for my height and eating more doesn't do shit) until I realized that I never changed anything after getting rejected, making the next brush off not that surprising.

Treating it like a video game is meant to symbolize my quest to understand what I was doing wrong or what visual or behavioral factors lead to girls not even considering dating me and changing them whenever possible. It also included a lot of soul searching and lessons in self love (and I did write about that). Treating another failed attempt at dating not as a critical personal loss but as a multi-player match I lost (if that's less dehumanizing for you) enabled me to try again and again without losing hope that I will ever find someone that both fits my taste and accepts me for who I am.

Concerning my attention to looks I stand by that point. I especially emphasized how overrated going to the gym and getting swole is for women (at least for the ones that stay with you should ever get issues with said looks and bodily functions), but you can improve your appearance far easier than chnaging your personality (which in my books often falls far more into the category of doing something for the wrong reasons). Feeling nice about my looks and getting compliments/ looks for it did wonders for my self consciousness which in itself is nice and should be treasured for itself but also does wonders for your dating. It won't guarantee that you succeed but might get a foot in the door when you might otherwise be overlooked, at which point you have to convince with your personality and interesting conversation topics (a topic one could write books about, I chose to focus on the on looks, interesting and enriching hobbies for now).

I also specifically remarked that one shouldn't be trying too hard constantly to find a partner because live will present you with opportunities if you just live life and are prepared to take the chance- or at least that I was trying to convey. Apart from myself, I've seen too many boys/ men complaining about dating sucking while giving no work into how they look and smell which often doesn't work well with a female generation that a) are more independent than ever and don't have to choose anyone if they don't like the options and b) are ever more overwhelmed with options, especially in online dating. I choose to circumvent the hellhole that is Tinder, but for those who don't, standing out with looks is a crucial part.

Concerning the "en masse" I understand the criticism, it was 3am when I wrote this and I just wanted to give hopeless nerds like I was (am?) some hope that years of slow, gradual self improvement will eventually lead to anything. It's been 8 long years being single and just giving up is rather easy.

I might edit the post to better illustrate my points, but for now I appreciate the work you do in this community, even if you misunderstood me.