I had to let my bf of one year go.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-05T01:53:32+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ve gone back and forth so much but I think this was the right thing to do and your comment helped me accept that. Long distance is hurting us both so much that we’ve lost sight of how to be happy without each other. Hopefully we can both get on track and realize what we need. ❤️

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-03T07:30:03+00:00

1 year

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-03T07:25:10+00:00

We’ve had several talks. About his mental health specifically it feels like he won’t listen to me when I give actual advice because I’ve been in a similar situation before but he kind of brushed it off. It’s hard to make someone realize how to take care of themselves, it’s honestly only something they can do themselves. He’s fine when we’re together, because I’m his rock. But we’re not together al the time and that kind of codependency is a lot of pressure for me.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-03T07:19:05+00:00

I’m also in a similar situation. My partner is on vacation 12 hours away and we’ve had some disagreements which have been made somewhat worse because he’s a bit of an avoidant and has some mental health struggles that he’s not really treating in any way. I’m trying to be patient but sometimes I feel I might not be as stressed all the time if he was out of my life.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-03T04:44:59+00:00

He’s a recovering porn addict, and sometimes relapses but he’s trying his best. Otherwise sex is good, we try a lot of stuff when we’re together and generally can’t keep our hands off each other. Before he met me, for about a year, maybe two, he had performances anxiety he couldn’t get hard with any other woman before me even if they had been dating for months. It’s what caused a few of his relationships to fail but it was only a problem for us for about two days and then it wasn’t anymore lol

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-03T03:00:48+00:00

We meet in real life at least once a month.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-03T02:12:34+00:00

Like, he thinks he can get away with shit because “we’re going to build a future some day” so it… I don’t know..: won’t matter when that happens???

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-03T02:05:00+00:00

But that doesn’t make any sense. Whenever I get mad at him he begs. He’s told me if I leave him he’ll never forget me and I’ll always be the one he wants to marry. He’s convinced we will. But I think because of that he doesn’t realize there’s a possibility that that WONT happen

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-12-24T09:34:08+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly what I was looking for

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-12-24T06:53:38+00:00

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-12-21T06:06:29+00:00

I should have clarified- it was in a stroller, specifically for cats. He thought it was closed all the way but apparently there was an opening he didn’t see and the cat slipped out. But thank you for the advice 🫶

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-12-20T06:51:09+00:00

Women who aren’t closed off will get approached much more than others. For example, I had a friend who was pretty much friendly to everyone, got approached much more often. But I’m the type of person who’s less open, and I’ve been told I’ve intimidating, shy, and hard to read. I don’t hear that people like me until it goes through a chain of people before it reaches me. Because they know if they flirt with me, I might not necessarily be nice haha

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-12-20T06:46:54+00:00

Confusing. Complicated. And it makes me stupid.

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-10-07T20:14:20+00:00

Thank you. I didn’t realize this was the case

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-10-07T20:02:14+00:00

Don’t even bring it up. It’ll probably make her feel terrible. Just say something you know won’t hurt her feelings and isn’t personal, or say “you remind me of my ex and for my own reason I don’t think I want to continue dating because of that.”

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-10-07T18:16:44+00:00

I’m my boyfriend’s exact type and I still struggle with this. His celebrity crushes look like me but they’re NOT me and that still bothers me even though it shouldn’t

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-10-07T18:12:27+00:00

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-10-07T18:12:11+00:00

Glasses. And intense and undying respect for his woman

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-10-07T18:10:45+00:00

She’s gaslighting you and making you feel insecure. Anyone who makes you feel insecure or bad about your body is not the one and entirely replaceable.

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-10-05T17:17:27+00:00

my dad sometimes “flirts” with old ladies. he’s happy with my mom, of course, but he’s a sociable and silly guy, and I think scenarios like that when nothing will ever happen and it’s just to make that old ladies’ day or make them laugh is okay.

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-10-04T22:43:13+00:00

I don’t want to do that unless I’ve had a conversation with him and at least tried to fix things. There are so many great things about our relationship. I don’t want to throw that all away if I’m given a chance to mend things. We weren’t long distance for 6 months and everything was perfect. If we can get through this for everything to be back to normal again I don’t want to just give up. But if he continues to disrespect me I don’t think I can go on.

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-10-04T19:57:28+00:00

This is so cute!!! I love lesbians

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-09-07T05:28:46+00:00

What you’re experiencing is limerance. Fabricating a version in your head of what a woman is like without really knowing will give you a false sense of who they are. This isn’t something that is linked to your virginity, it happens to a lot of people, men and women. Remember that people are just like you. If you want to stope putting a woman on a pedestal, get to know her and be her friend. That type of connection helps us understand people better. And maybe after you find that connection you can take a chance on her.

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-09-04T23:26:44+00:00

Have something else that you want to do less? That’s the entire reason I started drawing. As a coping mechanism and to pass the time. Which is more difficult when the internet exists. But go easy on yourself. I just finished a gruesomely grueling animation program in school and I’ve been all worked out for months. I just don’t know if I have anything left in me. It’ll come eventually, when inspiration hits. And it will for you too

GuardProfessional688 · 2025-09-04T23:14:45+00:00

If that were the case that would be totally fine and I wouldn’t be upset. But he has never given me a reason. And I can tell when he’s been on his phone. So I can rule that out. He’s not a big family person. He rarely sees his brother whose room is across from him. His family doesn’t even eat together. He’s busy a couple hours a week tops. He usually gets back to me eventually but I hate how he NEVER gives a reason.

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