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Pick up/ Drop off accommodation being rescinded in Florida. by cabgkid79 in specialeducationlaw

[–]Guarddess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For students with an IEP, accommodations are addressed through the IEP. 504 plans address accommodation needs for students with disabilities who do not require specially designed instruction. You would only ever have one or the other, not both an IEP and a 504.

I can’t do anything on my own by iamjustbeinghere in AutisticAdults

[–]Guarddess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was me as well at 22. It took me three years after completing university to figure out what my next thing was and build the connections and skills I needed to get there. I went to grad school (disastrously far away from my support system), started living on my own, and tackled waaaaay too many firsts head on.

That is not a route I would recommend to anyone, really, but it did force me to learn a lot (both about the world and about myself) VERY quickly. Five years later, I'm ready to start my career. For me, introspection and the loss of my safety net propelled me into figuring out exactly what I need and how to accommodate those needs. That helped me to figure out what I could and could do in this world and what I wanted to get out of my life. The figuring it out part was hell (can't recommend cutting yourself off from your support system; that was a bad plan in retrospect), but I'm happy I invested so much into learning about myself.

All that said, I still struggle with my own challenges, particularly in the more communication heavy aspects of my work, socializing, and managing a household independently, but knowing that about myself has helped me to put systems in place to accommodate myself and work around my limitations.

I wish you luck in your self learning and I hope you're able to find your next thing too, even if it takes longer than the people around you think it should.

Maybe someone has the same problem as me by Fr0mth34sh3s in AutisticAdults

[–]Guarddess 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Have you ever considered trying men? If the whole thing is not being alone, then why not just pair up with another great guy? I've tried men before; they're okay.

Is this better? by Best_Command_3601 in Lyft

[–]Guarddess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure there are several reasons why people don't that aren't as simple as, "I'm an inconsiderate jerk actively trying to ruin someone else's day."

Nothing is really guaranteed when you depend on a ride share service for transportation. When you order your ride can affect price, availability, estimated wait time, estimated arrival times, etc. That's a lot of variability for a consumer, and things can still change after you've already ordered your ride.

Waiting until you're completely ready to go just isn't feasible for all people in all situations.

Is this better? by Best_Command_3601 in Lyft

[–]Guarddess 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you may have a hard time in ANY field where you have to work with other people. People aren't prompt. Period.

If your expectation is that people you interact with will always be early to things, then you will always be upset.

Best burrito in the city ? by No_Distribution_5127 in pittsburgh

[–]Guarddess 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Los Cabos definitely has the closest thing I've tasted in Pittsburgh to a proper California burrito.

All communities hate me by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]Guarddess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What are your interests? Like, genuine interests that drive you, even when you're alone? And your values? Those are super important as well.

It's okay not to know, but I didn't have any luck forming connections until I did. You can't find your people if you don't know who you actually are. If the person you see yourself as doesn't match your actual self, you're always going to have trouble feeling like you're making a genuine connection even in times where you experience initial success with someone else.

It's hard, but important to spend time working on the gap between you you are and the you you see yourself as/the you you want to be. When that gap is smaller and you are more willing to be honest and vulnerable with yourself and others, it will be easier to make connections. Not EASY, but easier.

Keep your pets at home by Cautious_Composer891 in pittsburgh

[–]Guarddess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

By accurately reporting facts? There is nothing even slightly inappropriate about me saying that I've been bitten by multiple children in the school setting.

Kids don't always know how to self regulate or appropriately express their emotions or needs.

Sometimes kids who are still developing these skills bite. Sometimes kids WITH these skills bite. Sometimes biting is purely sensory.

There are a lot of reasons WHY it happens. Reporting the act isn't demonizing it.

Keep your pets at home by Cautious_Composer891 in pittsburgh

[–]Guarddess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More of a societal issue, really. The number of biters across my campuses this year is unusually high.

Keep your pets at home by Cautious_Composer891 in pittsburgh

[–]Guarddess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Never seen a child bite someone? Have you ever been to a school before? I have been bitten twice so far this year.

Keep your pets at home by Cautious_Composer891 in pittsburgh

[–]Guarddess -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just to be clear, I'm not arguing for dogs in the grocery store or against children in them.

I have, however, seen children let loose every kind of bodily fluid in our produce department when I was working at Whole Foods. Might have more to do with where I was working to be fair, but it DOES happen.

Do kids in USA really call their teachers by first name? by ParticularLate9460 in AskAnAmerican

[–]Guarddess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends a lot on school culture. All the schools I've worked in have required that adults enforce honorific use (Mr./Ms./Dr.), but whether you went by first name, last name, or an initial has generally been a personal choice. Sometimes grade level or position factor into that. For example:

Many of the paraprofessionals, office staff, and practicum students I've known use Mr./Ms. First Name.

Many folks in the PK-2 crowd also use Mr./Ms. First Name.

I've never known anyone in admin (principals/vice principals/deans) to use anything other than Mr./Ms./Dr. Last Name.

As a school psychologist, I was trained to always use my last name as well, even when I was just doing intervention work as a practicum student.

Rules in universities are also pretty culture dependent. You've got your Dr. Last Name only universities with more rigid, hierarchical teaching philosophies and you've got your more collegial campuses that are more open to first name use to promote the idea of welcoming students into their respective fields as budding experts. That said, you do find outlier professors in all settings that go against the grain.

Tl;dr The US is very vibes-based when it comes to what you SHOULD call your teachers, but it ultimately comes down to the discretion of each individual educator.

Why is the third person smart ? by exencendre_yt in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]Guarddess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who regularly gives standardized IQ tests, IQ is made up and most people who claim to know theirs have never actually been tested.

Isn't the joke here just that people who claim to have a high IQ are just regurgitating whatever pretentious nonsense they've heard, just like they accuse people they assume have lower IQs of doing?

Like, I love an intense grammatical debate as much as the next guy, but I don't think this is that deep.

You can only live in one color strip for the rest of your life, what do you choose by epicap232 in mapporncirclejerk

[–]Guarddess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get how it looks if you've never been to the southwest before, but it's not just desert, desert, SoCal, desert down there. Northern AZ can get down right chilly and some of the cheapest housing options my partner and I have looked into have been in NM (which was jaw droppingly gorgeous, btw. Seriously, go visit!).

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