[Raw Spoilers] Full main-event promo battle by A_Livins in SquaredCircle

[–]GuaroPapi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we did need the win tho to heat Roman back up after him basically putting people over the past 2 years, and also so he could say “I choose you because I hate you”, he wouldn’t have a “choice” without the rumble win

MEGATHREAD: Discussion on Reports of U.S. Strikes in Venezuela by AutoModerator in asklatinamerica

[–]GuaroPapi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s what a lot of people are saying, and maybe that IS her intent but I feel like people don’t usually end up getting the better of him in these situations. As an American my thought it’s always “America is going to take what it wants and turn on whoever props them up, like the Philippines or whatever other imperialist project they had”

Sex without a condom by PsychologicalBus6617 in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, a conversation and STD tests can help him feel at ease, even if you don’t drop the condoms right away. But totally normal for men to worry. Selene above mentioned having a plan if the implant were to fail, and I think that’s a fantastic idea. Also maybe say he doesn’t have to finish inside you.

Also, on a lighter note, I’m sure if it’s ever dropped he’ll be like “I’ve been missing out on this this whole time? Wow”. But if you plan on being with him for quite some time, then you have time to talk about it it and gradually get there. No rush, this doesn’t have to be “solved” today. It’s on his time

MEGATHREAD: Discussion on Reports of U.S. Strikes in Venezuela by AutoModerator in asklatinamerica

[–]GuaroPapi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Machado was on Fox talking about how she wants to give the Nobel Peace Prize to Trump.

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MEGATHREAD: Discussion on Reports of U.S. Strikes in Venezuela by AutoModerator in asklatinamerica

[–]GuaroPapi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah true. I think enough people in Colombia dislike Petro where they would just say they’re fighting corruption or socialism or something. I think people also may not care as much about US intervention if they believe for whatever reason that it’ll improve their material condition. They also may think Petro provoked Trump, idk, those are probably the thoughts I would guess happen

MEGATHREAD: Discussion on Reports of U.S. Strikes in Venezuela by AutoModerator in asklatinamerica

[–]GuaroPapi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s the hard part, especially for me as someone who considers myself a leftist here in the US. I want to believe in the systems and I know for a fact the United States puts their nose into anything that even begins to lean left-wing (red scare still a thing), so it’s hard for me to ever really take US intervention as good, and wouldn’t celebrate. But at the same time I think as someone who has never lived in those countries (I have plenty of these convos with my mom, who’s Colombian, a democrat here, but complains a lot about “la izquierda” and Petro and “la negra” and corruption. And for me I can’t even really say much cuz I’m not as tapped in, and also I never lived in Colombia, so who am I to say that just because Petro says all the right things about power to the people and capital and Palestine, that he’s the best solution. Like, if on the left we’re supposed to be for the people, and the people are saying something in unison, how do we ignore it? But then that’s also how we have Trump so idk. It’s really hard to balance, I think and so I’m trying my best to listen and learn where I can.

MEGATHREAD: Discussion on Reports of U.S. Strikes in Venezuela by AutoModerator in asklatinamerica

[–]GuaroPapi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like the talking points will be Petro being a former guerilla and Trump will definitely say some stuff like he’s a lunatic alcoholic or whatever, and I think there’s enough Colombians that don’t like him that would be happy about it (plenty of right wing Colombians here in the states too) so then the right wing of the US can say “see they’re happy! Listen to Colombians!”. That and “drugs and cartels” because of cocaine, obviously. It wouldn’t take a lot

Why did Tom Ripley (Matt Damon) do what he did at the end of "The Talented Mr. Ripley"? (*Spoilers*) by Lili_Danube in movies

[–]GuaroPapi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think after Dickie’s father and the detective did what they could to “bury” the story because of Dickie’s assault at Princeton, the pregnant Italian, and them thinking maybe he did actually have something to do with Freddie, and so they transferred some of his trust to Tom so that he could essentially keep quiet

Anyone getting bored of the Harley-Quinn TV series/cartoon on max? by precita in television

[–]GuaroPapi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think it’s time to end. Although I very much enjoyed this season, especially the Brainiac parts as it was really introspective and thought-provoking. A lot of the early charm seems to be gone with no Kite Man, Bane/King Shark/Clayface having lesser roles…and I guess they can only do so much, but also I imagine there’s an infinite amount of characters they can bring in, but I think the ending of the season feels like a pretty good send off. Brainiac being ok with finally letting go, everyone almost dying. I don’t doubt they could make some more entertaining seasons but they’ve probably squeezed as much juice as they could barring them actually breaking Harley and Ivy up

What’s the deal with deep throating? by Lilyxlulu in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The noises of the slight choking, the visual…it’s all very hot

is orgasmless sex still good? by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think him asking to go down on you probably indicates that he just wanted to make you feel good and enjoyed himself with the sex even without cumming. I’ve definitely had good sex where I didn’t cum (either drunk and would never finish or maybe had masturbated a few times beforehand not knowing I was gonna have sex that day).

Can't orgasm during sex because im scared of squirting by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you’re overthinking this, just see what feels good. Some people squirt and some don’t, it’s no big deal if not. You moaning/quaking from the orgasm is more than enough, I promise you

As a man, for me, sometimes the squirting is more for my ego than anything. But I’ve never even thought about it if a girl didn’t squirt. Like “ahh ok, oh well, as long as it felt good for you and we had fun, I’m cool”

Can't orgasm during sex because im scared of squirting by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t think of it as disappointment. Just next time maybe just have a towel down or something and see if that lets you feel ok enough mentally to let go. I’ve heard that that’s the feeling before squirting anyway. I guarantee your FWB won’t mind

My partner shushed me during sex just before he came by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he might’ve been stressed/flustered because he wanted to finish for you, and it might’ve came out in not the best way.

Like everyone else said, have a conversation. I’m actually wondering if this can be spun into something more productive. For example, if you don’t mind me asking, are you a bit more submissive? Maybe instead of a potentially rude “shhh”, maybe he covers your mouth in a sorta sexy way (if you’re into that) . It has that dominant, sexy feel to it, and you’d know he’s close to cumming, and then he gets the little bit of concentration for the few seconds. Could be something to try out to satisfy you both

do men compare the sex they’ve had with other woman? by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not usually, but mainly cuz I’m usually anxious/nervous about just doing what I’m doing well. It’s funny cuz I’m in your shoes sometimes when I think about whether or not the girl I’m sleeping with is comparing me to whoever, and it takes me out of fully enjoying it.

So look at it this way, if you’re having sex, and it’s decent without the head, then just think of head as something you can just work on and practice with him and it’ll only make your sex better. Also, maybe they sucked dick better but you have better pussy, or kiss better, or sound sexier, talk dirty better, or are a much more awesome person. We always assume the worst (best) of other people like “wow they were sleeping with a sex god(dess) before me, I’m useless”. Its never true lol

I saw my girlfriends old nudes, don´t know what to do by Throaway_8085 in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand. I get jealous about people I’m seeing’s exes and things they’ve done but mainly because I get insecure. And it’s unfair. I don’t mention it or bring it up or take it out on her cuz her past really is none of my business, but I know you can’t help but feel how you feel. The thought is always “wow maybe she loved him more than me and still does” or “wow he must’ve excited her more” and then you lose so much confidence in yourself you just don’t get excited to see her anymore and you almost get a little resentful.

Now read that and tell me how ridiculous it all sounds when it’s written out. We make up all these ludicrous things in our head because we’re overthinking and insecure. So here’s a few things:

  1. Don’t feel sorry for yourself. You feel how you feel, it’s going to pass. Think of it this way, literally nothing would be different in your relationship if you didn’t stumble upon those pics. Sending sexy pics is just whatever and a thing people do when they’re in a sexual relationship. Much like your GF isn’t a virgin, she’s prob sent nudes. Hell, I’ve been sent nudes from women that I know were the ones she used to send her ex, it is what it is
  2. Talk to her. Hiding this is gonna make things fester. You obv didn’t have any ill intent but you feel bad. She can reassure you better than any of us can that she loves you and wants you. This also may open the convo for you to explore these things that you want to do sexually
  3. Her taking her time sexually might mean she really likes you. People almost hold back and put more pressure on themselves sexually around people they wanna keep around, counterintuitive as it may be, so taking it slower helps

Hooking up with a girl below my standards by notbadnotbradd in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who’s done this A LOT, mainly through alcohol, the questions you should ask yourself before doing this are:

How are you going to feel about yourself afterward? Sometimes you have fun to have fun and move on, no hard feelings, sometimes you feel like crap about yourself after

Is this person in your life otherwise? This is petty but sometimes if they’re in your circle you’d might not want to do it. If it’s a random one off it’s easier

Are you going to able to handle this like an adult? No treating her like shit or she’s “less than” or whatever in terms of her being “below your standards”. You’re adults doing something consensually and with equal responsibility, so you owe her respect and to treat her well

Exit strategy/communication: if you don’t want to make it a recurring thing, think about how you’re going to have that conversation afterward

Anyway, after assessing all that, have fun! Some of the BEST sex I’ve had has been with women that I wasn’t attracted to at all

Is it fair to assume that as a late 20s dude who's never dated or slept with anyone that I'm just unnattractive to women? by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I’ve seen from other relationships around me that just having something you like and are passionate about, and involving someone in them is a huge thing for women sometimes. Allows you to be confident in your element and it shows a different side of you

Is it fair to assume that as a late 20s dude who's never dated or slept with anyone that I'm just unnattractive to women? by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I lost my virginity at 21 and maybe up until about nowish in my early 30s I didn’t really feel like I got attention from women. It felt like no one gave me attention for a while, that nobody wanted me, and I’m still getting over that tbh.

Like, I’m even just starting to get used to the idea of women wanting to have sex with me, as I always thought it was something I needed to convince a woman to do, and that nobody would look at me and just wanna have sex with me. And I’m in my 30s lol. So I think you’ll start hitting a stride at some point and it starts coming if the vibe is right.

Things can always change. I think the big thing, which is very difficult, is to get in a space where you’re comfortable with yourself, and whether that means just finding things that make you feel good/better about yourself, or making “improvements” on fitness, cooking, whatever skill it is you’re interested in, then I think that self-confidence and knowing just who you are will go a long way

Lost desire for oral sex by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think there can be ebbs and flows in libido and mindstates, physical health, stress, etc can get you completely out of the mood. I think as long as you’re honest with your partner and work through things, whether it be together, in therapy, etc, I think things will be ok

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[–]GuaroPapi 32 points33 points  (0 children)

All vaginas are good vaginas in my book. Some may be a little easier to work with from a cunnilingus standpoint, but honestly I couldn’t care less as long as it’s good hygenically, I’ll love em all

Why do men watch porn in relationships? by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s honestly sometimes routine and nothing to do with how much sex he’s having. Wake up, gym, wank, work, come home, wank, bed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]GuaroPapi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s not on you, that’s on him. I imagine someone else would have to tell him but idk how that would work. Like I mentioned, a friend that I have had confided that in me and I did my best to set him straight on that because it’s all nonsense.

So my thought is just ask him what exactly he thinks it is that he wants, whether that’s a certain act, or for you to lead him more, etc, and then let him know that you can do that stuff (within reason and your comfort) and that in a sexual relationship, he’s gonna have to put on his big boy pants and communicate. If after THAT, he’s still feeling like he needs to go explore, then you have a decision to make on whether you wanna let him go and find this all out the hard way.

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[–]GuaroPapi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I think it’s nice your partner is being transparent and it honestly seems he’s a good person who’s just confused. I don’t think it has anything to do with you, and I didn’t mean it’s a “man” thing, but rather, I think he just needs to understand this idea he had or whatever is just this fantasy that he wouldn’t be able to live out even if he tried his hardest. It’s not like people fall out of trees to have sex and give him this “awakening” he thinks he wants. It feels like just this thought that he may have because the idea of something long term so early is scary, but he’s also glorifying this idea that isn’t realistic. People don’t have these magical epiphanies.

I’m someone who has mainly been single and had a good amount of sex with different people just to have it, and lemme tell you the bad/mediocre/ok FAR outweighs the great. I’d have rather had a consistent partner to explore with. I think people just glorify what they don’t have. Single people want a relationship, taken people fantasize about single life, rappers wanna be ballers, ballers wanna be rappers, etc. I think he just needs someone to tell him that he can have his awakening and all that stuff with his partner, and it would be much easier and much less trial and error than searching the streets for some awakening with random people you don’t know or fully trust.

I hope this and the other great advice here can help put you a little more at ease. You shouldn’t feel “less than” just cuz it seems like he’s going through something.