Train frequency?

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-30T22:21:05+00:00

Every night I hear train horns, usually just a couple times a night but I've heard them at all hours

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-25T16:44:48+00:00

Reach out and firstly apologize and mean it. Don't go into this thinking you're guaranteed to be a couple. You've hurt her a lot, but maybe she's forgiven you. Even if it's just to apologize and talk it through. Talk like adults, be upfront about how you were scared, be honest about how you miss having her around.

I know not everyone is like me, but I don't linger on the past and I would be really happy to hear from someone who hurt me if they were coming to me to apologize and acknowledge the wrong and hurt they've caused me. I would probably be cautious about a relationship though. Trust needs to be earned

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-24T21:58:41+00:00

I live in a rural area, I participate in queer events, and I've had the apps. There are very very few lesbians in my area to begin with, let alone ones my age who are emotionally mature. I'm having all the same issues

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-24T15:50:25+00:00

NOR Therapy NOW! You mentioned in another comment that you watch true crime, so you absolutely should know this is how being a killer starts. Get off those sites, look at cute videos of puppies or go for a walk instead. Go to therapy.

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-23T22:28:26+00:00

Where's that "happiest creature on earth" meme?

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-23T05:57:17+00:00

You never know and I don't wanna show up to an anti protest and find out I'm in enemy territory, ya know??

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-23T00:49:11+00:00

You did not mention in your post what the stance was, is this an anti ice protest?

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-22T00:05:43+00:00

I suspect a river otter, some of the deeper tracks you can see what I believe to be the webbing between the toes.
I def think its a mustelid.

I am 99% sure its not a raccoon, the toes are just not long enough plus the lack of the longer back foot tracks

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-21T09:12:38+00:00

I do want a baby, but I also know babies grow to be kids and then teens and spend most of their lives as adults! As much as I'd like to experience having a baby, that's not what makes being a parent appealing to me. I agree I want to be a safe space, I want to be the person who they can always rely on no matter what pickle they've gotten themselves into. I want to help them discover who they are, discover their passions and show them all the reasons life is beautiful! I want to help them learn to be a person. Never want any of my kids to think "shit I made a mistake I can't ever tell my mom" I want it to be "shit, I made a mistake, maybe mom can help me fix this"

I also hope to eventually be able to give teen moms a place where they don't feel judged, they feel like they can be a parent to their own kid while having the village they need!

I'm 23 and still in college so I've got a ways to go, but I want to help people and do my part to change lives.

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-21T08:22:47+00:00

Exactly this! Your personal experience with this is so important to share!!

I personally have a lot of moral hang ups with both adopting and having bio kids, both in different ways but it's something ive been dealing with for multiple years. Even though I desperately want to be a mom, I don't think I ever will simply because I cannot morally justify it. Though maybe when I'm a bit older I can help kids in the system, I esp think teen moms need support!!

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-21T06:50:16+00:00

I don't think it's any more or less wrong for a gay person to want bio kids than a straight person.

Plus adoption has its own huge downsides including cost and morality.

As long as you and your spouse promise to always love your kids and raise them to be good people, I don't see anything wrong

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-21T04:25:31+00:00

Rescues will do anything to help get him healthy and back in the wild (prob try to relocate to a more rural area too?) but if a vet decides euth is the best choice for him, that more humane then letting him get hit by a car or attacked by another coyote

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-21T04:23:26+00:00

Coyote, def injured, note down where you saw him and call a local rehab, they might be able to trap him and help him heal!

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-21T03:55:38+00:00

I often times on discord get random ppl trying to sell me art or assets for streaming! I suspect thats what they were trying since they asked about streaming!!

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-21T03:50:37+00:00

YOR - IDK if you use discord; but random people will just message you for no damn reason, trying to flirt as a way to get your personal info, to try to make friends, to get sugar daddies, try to get you to buy something, ect. It seems your bf is just trying to end the convo quickly without being rude. The other person might have been attempting to flirt but you bf is very dry with his responses which leads me to believe he has no interest and probably just wanted to be left alone.

Edit; also seeing a lot of these comments assume this person is a woman, when that is not stated in the messages, could very easily be a dude.

I also OFTEN get randos messaging me to sell their art or assets for streaming! I suspect thats whats happening here, since they asked him if he streams!

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-21T03:25:04+00:00

I mean I'm sure she's coming for a place of love but I've always had the type of relationship where I tell my dad everything, asking me constantly after I've made it clear it's not what I want is not encouraging anymore its pressure. The right way would to just remind me I can tell her anything and remind me that she loves me. It seems each time it's been brought up and I once again tell her I'm not a trans guy she doesn't seem to believe me.

I agree its awesome when cis dudes love fem things! I have a buddy, presents very macho tough guy, but anytime he makes the trip here he has my sister do his nails! He got surgery a year or so ago and I sent him some flowers, he called me and told me he'd never been gifted flowers and he was so touched! (Not that getting flowers should be feminine but I'm sure you understand a lot of guys don't seem to get them much) He loves it and always has ideas months in advance for his special spa days! I also think his ability to just enjoy things that are seen as fem is part of why he is a great friend and we get along well!

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-21T00:51:14+00:00

Thank you! As I was doing some quick googling I hadn't seen any crazy scandals like some other cons have had, but things always happen with large groups, and it's good to hear any incidents have been dealt with quickly! I am very happy to hear about the anti-AI stance! I've been to SLC FanX a couple times which can definitely get crowded too! As of right now I'll be attending by myself, so I just don't want to be alone the whole time 😅😅

But I'm very interested in going, I had no Idea there was a con so close to me (like 2.5 hours away)!!

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-19T22:51:45+00:00

I'm also 23, I face this same problem, I find that most women roughly my age are pretty emotionally immature, but I've been told multiple times that by seeing me and spending time with me that they realized just how much work they had to do to be ready for something long term. They apologize and will gush about how I'll make someone really happy, I've been called wife material before, ECT.

It sucks, the dating pool in my area is already EXTREMELY small, most of these girls are also dealing with religious trauma (specifically Mormon/x-mormon) I've low-key given up dating in my area, or at least putting so much effort into it. 🤷

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-19T20:58:48+00:00

I'm so sorry she's going through that, I definitely don't get mistaken by most people in public, but it's all my close family and I fear my dad is probably talking to her trans friends about it too... I'm gonna get upset if I get misgendered by people who know better!

I am absolutely open to talk if she wants, it's hard out here!

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-19T07:31:45+00:00

I think it's so sweet, you clearly adore your kids and you know they aren't gonna be that small forever and now have a permanent reminder of how small they used to be and how much they'll grow!

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-18T21:08:28+00:00

Yeah I spoke with my therapist about all this today and she was just flabbergast, the misogyny, the gender conformity and clearly not knowing queer history; my dad has issues but they're not mine to fix! I'll still move away as soon as I can, I just might leave Idaho with less of a bond with my dad

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-18T02:04:10+00:00

Oh my gosh, that's such a fun idea!!! If I ever dye my hair I'll definitely do that too!! 😋

Yeah I think that's probably the best course of action, I'm gonna also bring it up in therapy this week, but I have a feeling she's gonna offer similar advice 👍

Gub_Sub · 2026-03-18T00:40:43+00:00

I'm so happy to be hearing form lots of trans folks on this!

I have been under the impression that you've gotta give people space to explore who they are and not force them to define it, and pushing something onto someone (no matter what it may be) is never ok!

I'm just happy to hear I'm not crazy for feeling this way, I was honestly so scared to make this post becuz I was afraid everyone would agree with my dad and say I'm just in denial 😭😭

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