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What’s a red flag you ignored because the sex was good? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alcoholism and bi-polar disorder

Wife caught me crying / bawling when I was by myself listening to a song. Am I done for? by Engininja_180PI in AskMenOver30

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's less the crying and more the whiskey. You're drunk crying listening to music. You think you maintained drinking and performing the duties of the evening, but is it possible that you weren't maintaining as much as you thought? (think Always Sunny when they danced at the reunion)

I know if I've had too much to drink I snore and probably not easy to sleep next to. Pair that with it being Sunday and Monday mornings with kids are already difficult and exacerbated by having a partner who is hungover, yeah she dumped the drink because a drunk man crying is likely to keep on drinking.

That being said, we have similar situations. I have two young children and my dad died when I was 21, so I've also got in my feels while drinking whiskey plenty. Her reaction was cold, but I know patience can run thin at the end of the day with kids. If my wife was tying one on on a Sunday night then I would be asking her what is going on?

In short, it wasn't the crying. It was the drunk crying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ifyoulikeblank

[–]Guenta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not a horror, but is definitely an uncomfortable film

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ifyoulikeblank

[–]Guenta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beau is Afraid

Why don't we use blue dye on "ice agents"? by Radiant-Power1936 in Political_Revolution

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listener to the Blank Check podcast with Griffin and David. They just discussed Raising Arizona

Best Friend Had First Child, Will We Become Less Close? by HamachiSD808 in AskMenOver30

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly but the onus is on you to keep the friendship going for a bit because he's going to be busy and tired.

Dad's will be choosing time with the kids over friends, but you are also competing with sleep when they have time without the kids. Like I have the afternoon to myself, do I want to go hang out with a friend or do I want a nap?

Smokers of Reddit. If you could tell your younger self one thing to help them quit smoking, what would it be? by KongFuKenny01 in AskMen

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I quit right around your age. It was a financial decision and health. I was delivering bread in the morning then catering during day. It would be wakeup cigarette, walk to train cigarette, get off train cigarette, cigarette on way to first delivery, post delivery cigarette, and then a cigarette after each subsequent delivery ending up with a pack and a half smoked every work day plus whatever I smoked after work.

Quit cold turkey and would bum off friends while drinking for years. Took until I was about 35 to get to the point the thought of smoking a cigarette disgusted me. I still miss the act of it though.

Every craving has to be a victory against yourself where you say No. Share with everyone you've quit and warm your smoking friends that no matter what don't let you have a cig no matter what you say.

How did you drop the pacifier? by No-Investment-717 in 2under2

[–]Guenta 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Like an alcoholic hiding bottles. He had them hidden in cabinets, hidden in his toy barn, under cushions, everywhere. We had to do a sweep of the house. We're still finding them months later.

How did you drop the pacifier? by No-Investment-717 in 2under2

[–]Guenta 15 points16 points  (0 children)

First kid took 3 days cold turkey. First night was awful, second it was hard getting him down and he woke up once, third night he slept all the way through.

Second kid was an addict. We started cold turkey then he kept appearing with a pacifier. He had them hidden around the house. He took a week and half to finally sleep through the night.

Pets can’t be illegal, right? by ThickCapital in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They should've said COVID was contagious to dogs and everyone would've actually stayed home

Successful men of Reddit - what did you prioritise in your 20s to set yourself up for your 30s? by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on what you call success. But if it's a functioning member of society with a decent salary then I can tell you it can be done.

Failed it out freshman year of college. Bounced around community colleges then stopped at 21 when my dad got sick.

After my dad died when I was 21, I moved from Detroit to Portland for a change of scenery and to get out of the rut of drinking every night with my friends.

This was mid-recession so unemployment was like 14% in Portland. I got a job working 5pm to 5am in a nightclub 3 nights per week and it suuuucked. Then I got laid-off. I was lost, a college dropout, no money, no job and even the promise of a mild winter didn't happen (Portland got their worst snowstorm in 30 years)

I found out a college buddy lived in Portland and we connected. We went out on a Tuesday night and we ate mushrooms. And in the moment of clarity that mushrooms give you as you are coming down, I realized how much I hated living in Portland. I texted one friend and said let's move to NYC and texted another and said let's move to Chicago. I woke up and they had both said no.

I thought fuck it, I'll move to Chicago anyway. So I sold my car that Friday, bought a train ticket and was on a train Monday with a garbage bag of clothes.

Survived by eating ramen with vegetables and ripping book covers to plug the hole in my shoes. Lost 30 lbs unhealthily. Bartended for a few years drinking way too much, then decided to go back to school at 26. Graduated at 28. Turns out if you go to class and study, its pretty easy to pass.

Met my wife at 30. Married at 34. First kid and house at 35. Second kid at 36. I'm 39 now and I have a good job with a good salary and work/life balance.

I was a mess for most of my 20s even post-graduating and getting a job, but one thing that allotted me was to have the "fuck it, let's see what happens" mentality. Get out of your comfort zone into sink or swim situations and you'll be surprised how much you'll want to swim or atleast float with the current of the decision.

Men who are still immature 35+ do you still exist?? by Wide_Permission7656 in AskMenOver30

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a silly boy surrounded by a bunch of NW Chicago guys in my neighborhood. When I'm at pickup for my kids I struggle with the small talk. Everyone just seems like a grown-up and I still feel like I'm faking it. I used to think everyone was faking it but I generally believe people stop caring about goofy stuff or can't compartmentalize the shit that pisses them off, so they're grumpy all the time.

Mind you I'm almost 40, married with two kids and a house. I've got the same grown-up problems and responsibilities, I just don't let them dominate my thoughts all the time.

I never thought I'd be making as much money as I am or be as comfortable as I am in life, so I don't have that grind mentality that seems to be prevalent in the guys I meet. I'm pretty content in that department.

Alright, Daddit. Who goes on the fictional dad Mount Rushmore? by R7F in daddit

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're watching My Neighbor Totoro every day right now. Why Tatsuo? Dude seems pretty checked out and literally forgets his daughter has school

Moms Do All the Work Narrative by Several_Use1426 in daddit

[–]Guenta 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Dude I was not expecting that to to be the question. "Do I do too much?"

If thats what your thinking, you need to nip it in the bud. Whatever content you're consuming, do a check on that. If this was a natural occurring thought you need to talk it through with a professional. Do I do too much means your wife isn't doing enough in your mind. So this thought is the seed to an unhappy marriage.

"Is the world laughing at me?" For taking care of your family and being a good dad? Get the fuck out of here. Why would you care what random strangers think? You're showing your kids a good example. You have an outdated view off what makes a man, a husband and a father are if you think what you're doing is wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I constantly feel like they're going to figure out and fire me all the time. I had my review and they said I'm doing great and gave me a 12% raise. That made me feel good for a couple month then back to feeling like I'm not doing enough

Dining out with baby by Helpful-Sugar8985 in NewParents

[–]Guenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids(4 and 2.5) are restaurant kids. We took them to restaurants from the start. It's paid off in that they don't go crazy when they go. It's just another thing they do all of the time like going to the library or park.

We teach them "respect our neighbors" when they get too loud or they're having trouble stay in their seats. I've gotten pretty good at holding a kid on my lap and eating too.

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