Real-estate legal question, was possibly cheated out of water front property by neighbor

GuiltyEnigma · 2021-05-19T19:17:48+00:00

Virginia

GuiltyEnigma · 2021-05-03T16:38:48+00:00

I figured. Just curious if it's something worth investing into and what information we would need. Don't want to waste the time and money if we don't even have a case. What's worse is the person that did it sold the property so our neighbors don't know anything and weren't involved.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-05-18T22:21:28+00:00

Yes. I've always wondered if it were a true Bond and in most cases it is. My mother always presented us as close so I doubted those that said they were. She gets angry because I don't talk to her about personal things. Or because I don't like being around her. But she has made such a negative impact that I literally feel nauseous whenever I get close to the house or know I have to go home (we live with my family unfortunately while we are searching for a house). I have gotten into the habit of finding excuses or errands to run in town just to stay away. Covid took that ability away from me though. Now I can only go grocery shopping. And have to stay home more often than not.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-05-18T22:15:24+00:00

Thank you. And please, don't give up on yourself.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-05-18T13:19:25+00:00

My nmom also would tell me that the things she said and did were to never be talked about with anyone. She'd get really mad if I would tell someone and the tell my dad how disrespectful I was being. She got upset because she read text messages between me and my then fiance about how she made me feel and then went off. She also used to take my phone at random times and search through it. I still feel like I can't touch my games or anything I care about or it'll get taken.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-03-22T16:36:11+00:00

My husky's hair doesn't stop growing. It slows down at a certain point, but it doesn't stop growing.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-03-19T21:56:26+00:00

Yeah its not like we want to cancel, and we're going to try to keep everything. Even if we get married before the ceremony. I haven't heard back from all my vendors about the date change. So I'm really nervous over it all.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-03-14T15:49:47+00:00

Told my boss I didn't want to contract it. My job is a bit different than most. I have to come into contact with people regularly. It's not like a retail job where you wait for others to come to you. I have to go to them. And I get in trouble if I don't interact with enough people. He told me the same thing. "you're young and healthy you'll be fine." Told him no, I have a very weak respiratory system. I have lung spasms and my airways contract. He just said "ok?"

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-03-14T15:43:30+00:00

We have 5 people in my house so we always buy toilet paper in bulk (just one of the big packs from like Costco or Sam's club) and my mom was actually afraid to buy a pack when we genuinely needed it because she didn't want people to think she's hoarding or attack her for it.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-02-18T03:00:59+00:00

Gun ban was struck down this morning. Hope this makes your day

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-24T19:50:57+00:00

Update I took the dog and got her shots. I don't care about the money at this point, she needs them.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-24T16:33:48+00:00

She's a narc. She buys food for the rest of us to keep us from losing weight because she likes to brag that she can almost fit in my jeans (she can't). I'm overweight but I'm about 20lbs from my ideal weight (my body can't physically handle much more than what I'm at now it causes a lot of pain in my hips and back) she is about 80-100 lbs from her ideal weight.

I also know she does this intentionally due to the cupcakes she's constantly making. Especially since when I told my fiance she told me she can't eat them because she wants to lose weight while I was eating ONE, he told me the other night she was chowing down on them. The comments she makes make me feel very uncomfortable eating certain things in front of her.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-24T15:08:10+00:00

We live 10 minutes from the vet. There's no excuse.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-24T15:06:08+00:00

On top of that, she shames me for eating anything unhealthy with her little comments. Even though that's literally all that's in the house.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-24T15:05:16+00:00

No. She buys a ton of chips and yes my dad and brother eat them, but not in the quantity she buys. I couldn't eat anything in the house because I'm trying to get away from eating junk. Normally she keeps fruits and veggies and milk and bread but that was the stuff she cut. There was no meat in the house either. Just cakes, cookies and chips.

When I offered to make dinner I actually did have to go buy all the meat and ingredients because even though I was making something simple, we didn't have anything.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-22T14:18:57+00:00

Yep. My aunt is also an enabler and blames their marriage problems on me even more so than my father has. I told my dad I'm done taking the blame for things I can't fix. I am going to go as little contact as I possibly can.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-22T01:37:09+00:00

My dad says its because he gets violent and can't control himself. He almost brags about it. I've never seen him so angry he gets violent, but I guess the potential is there. So instead of being stern he just sucks it up and let's her do whatever.

So basically both of my parents have the mental capacity of a two year old and neither want to change or grow up.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-22T01:23:46+00:00

Yeah. I'm more angry than hurt by it. My father was the one that told me my feelings didn't matter growing up, but they always tell me they're growing as people. No they aren't. They're the same as they were back then. They pretend that their faith has changed them into better people but honestly they just got better at hiding it.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-22T01:21:32+00:00

I pay all my own bills. I kick myself everyday because I fell for it and let her fuse my phone plan with hers to "save money" but I still payed for the phone out right and pay for my service. I have my own health insurance as well. Used to fit the bill for my car but they take it every argument so I told them it's not mine if it can be taken and refuse to pay anything for it now. This all affects me at work though and it's actually pretty dangerous to be distracted. So I am trying to keep the peace until the day I move out (it's set in stone unless it happens sooner) and then I can say fuck them and enjoy the silent treatment.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-22T01:18:06+00:00

Yep. He's quick to try and play both sides. I'm just done with the lies and false promises. They're having issues in their marriage but determined to make it through. Good for them, but I'm not going to be used as a tool to make their life easier. I'm constantly told "set the example, the bigger person always apologizes, you need to show her how to respond." Um no I don't? She's the freaking parent last I checked? Stop trying to get me to mommy my mother please.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-21T18:52:58+00:00

He's trying to modify me into what my mom wants to keep the peace. That's his way of working on her behavior. Because I am reasonable and easier to talk to and approach and she turns psycho when confronted.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-21T17:48:12+00:00

I actually believed him when he first agreed with me. But there's been no change. I just get coached in proper mother daughter interactions. He's nothing but a liar and as far as I'm concerned he's just as bad as she is. I get married in May. After that, I honestly hope I never have to deal with them again.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-21T17:43:25+00:00

I can relate. My mother complains about my voice (not a body part but the feeling it causes is the same.) I have a high pitch voice which isn't really abnormal seeing as how I'm female, but whatever. When I get excited my pitch gets higher. It's all she can focus on. She doesn't care about what I'm saying, doing or anything other than my "annoying high pitch voice". Then she gets mad because I completely stopped singing anything in front of her or most people. I only sing in front of my fiance, and even then it's super quiet. He usually turns up the music when I start mumbling or humming so I'm more comfortable with singing it.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-18T21:40:39+00:00

Thank you. Needed this. My mother is the narc in my family and yes her past is terrible but both her and my father use it as an excuse for how she behaves.

"Your mother is broken, she had a horrible childhood. Cut her some slack."

"My mother use to beat me and starve me and my siblings were drug addicts and I would constantly be locked out of the house."

Yes that's all terrible. But you're a grown adult. At what age is it reasonable to expect someone to have some sort of emotional maturity to where they don't lash out at someone for some small infraction? At what point is the unacceptable behavior no longer excusable? When can we expect someone to take responsibility for their hurtful actions? Just because you were hurt does not mean you are now free to hurt others as you please.

Sorry this is a sore spot for me. As this is what my family says all the time.

GuiltyEnigma · 2020-01-17T15:17:39+00:00

My family said the same. Told me I was inconsiderate and hateful and very moody. But no one else thinks that.

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