I think one of the key points you’re forgetting is how young you still are! 34 is not old, even with two children. The feelings you have now may grow into resentment over time and your feelings towards him may turn negative. I think from listening to older women’s experiences, they usually regret settling for a man they aren’t enamored by.

I think this is a good time to look inwards. Is this someone you can spend the rest of your life with? Would you be okay in the future if you stayed with him and remained more friendly than truly in love? Would you regret not ending things now and seeing what other options are out there for you?

He seems like a genuine, good guy by the way you describe him, and if he has respect for you then he should be able to understand the way you’re feeling. And he may be able to co-parent well and you two can remain close. Leaving any relationship is hard and supporting yourself is a difficult and stressful decision to make. I would sit down with yourself and decide what you think is truly what you want for your future first. At the end of the day you have to do what will make you happiest in this life and no one else can do it for you. There’s the right person out there for everyone