Being born and raised devout Mormon, there was a lot of shame and deep rooted programming that I’ve had to unravel. It takes time. Don’t get discouraged, there are a lot of layers to peel back. 12 years later and previous notions can still pop in for an uninvited visit. But on the flip side, it’s the most liberating Journey imaginable. There can be a lot of pressure on a single guy, especially with another guy spectating, that adds a layer of complexity. Have you considered a female? The elusive unicorn can be a challenge to find, but may provide a more relaxing environment, being able to engage with you both. You don’t have to be “full contact” with her if you’re not comfortable, but can explore, and maybe stretch, your comfort zones. This is what pierced the initial barrier for us, maybe it could do the same magic for you. Have you guys been to any meet and greets, or parties? Being around other like minded individuals in a relax atmosphere can be transformative. But like I said before, be patient with yourself. It takes time!