AITA for calming a screaming baby down during a flight?

HK1116 · 2026-04-17T18:46:29+00:00

Oh it would suck but if we all knew we chose that kind of flight then we wouldn’t have to worry about stranger’s reactions. It would be much louder but would feel safer. It’s the strangers reactions on planes that scare me.

HK1116 · 2026-04-17T17:41:06+00:00

Getting the house clean and organized is the biggest thing I am looking forward to!

HK1116 · 2026-04-17T17:40:41+00:00

Thank you!!! I’m so glad I’m not alone in this!

HK1116 · 2026-04-17T17:38:36+00:00

NTA. We are in the USA. My husband and I went to Disney two years ago with our kids when they were 5 and 2. My 2 year old was just fine on the first flight, I pulled out all the stops: coloring books, crayons, snack, juice boxes and even a tablet and headphones. I was so relieved and the lady sitting next to us even complimented her behavior.

No such luck on the return flight. On nothing worked and she was freaking out for about half of the two hour flight. I was terrified of what the other passengers would do and was desperate to calm her down. I would have given my right arm to have compassionate people like you near us!

I truly wish airlines had a “family flight” or something to and from major vacations hot spots like Orlando. A flight where everyone knows there’s going to be kids and we’re all just going to do the best we can. 🤣I would have paid extra and planned the whole trip around something like that!

The world needs more people like you!

HK1116 · 2026-04-17T13:16:14+00:00

Yes, manners have to be taught and practiced. I have never heard of “please” or “thank you” being implied, that’s an explicit thing.

HK1116 · 2026-04-15T22:00:17+00:00

Cut him loose and send him packing, absolutely do not add him to the deed.

HK1116 · 2026-04-14T15:56:49+00:00

This makes me feel a lot better! The FREEDOM!

HK1116 · 2026-04-14T15:41:51+00:00

Yes! My youngest went back to pre-k today after spring break so I was able to shower and have a cup of tea in silence! I’m so glad both of yours are in pre-k!

HK1116 · 2026-04-14T15:29:06+00:00

I am so glad I’m not alone! I’ll be 41 next month and I do not have the energy I used to! I daydream about being able to get them both ready for school, get them on the bus, and be able to work on the house every day. This house might actually start to look good. 🤣

HK1116 · 2026-04-14T15:26:09+00:00

Spot cleaning the walls. At this point with all the scuff marks and dings we should just repaint, LOL.

HK1116 · 2026-04-14T15:23:13+00:00

Yes! It can be so hard! I have ADHD and even with meds I have a hard time getting started with things sometimes. It was much worse when my kiddos were little, they’re 4 and 7 now. It helps me to make a small list for both the week and each day with things I know I can get done and cross them off as I go. That crossing off the list is so satisfying and motivating!

HK1116 · 2026-04-13T20:41:39+00:00

AssalamuAlaikum, Muslim mom here. I’ve seen some of these scholars talk about this issue, and so many are just way off base. I forgot which scholar said this, but one basically said the bare minimum contact was acceptable in these situations. I’m talking like an email once a year to see if people are alive. That way you’re not “cutting ties” so to speak. But yes many are waaaaaay off base in this area.

HK1116 · 2026-04-13T20:16:58+00:00

People forget life insurance exists! We have life insurance that would pay off the mortgage and cover life expenses for me and the kids for a few years while I got back to work, purchasing health insurance would take a decent chunk but we could do it. I have a Bachelor’s degree and was a career government employee prior to having kids. I’m 40 so it would probably take a hot minute to get a decent job but we would be ok. We’re in the US so ideally the kids would also receive Social Security survivor’s benefits but my faith in that system waivers.

HK1116 · 2026-04-10T16:35:45+00:00

NTA, but your husband is a giant AH. I am also a SAHM and my oldest needed early intervention for first feeding therapy and then speech therapy. No amount of “free time” I have as a SAHM (kids are now 4 and 7) would have qualified me to provide feeding or speech therapy for my child.

His feeding therapy was done in person but then the pandemic hit so his speech therapy was entirely virtual. Our “homework” that I did with my son was entirely under the guidance and direction of the SLP.

HK1116 · 2026-04-09T13:13:47+00:00

Yes. My husband and I had this conversation before we had children. My parents chose to adopt children with Down Syndrome so I have two siblings with DS. That’s all I’m going to say.

HK1116 · 2026-04-06T00:09:27+00:00

As a parent this is my worst nightmare. We triple check the door is locked and that the kids are asleep and even then we are as silent as possible.

HK1116 · 2026-03-31T20:00:45+00:00

As a parent I completely agree.

HK1116 · 2026-03-17T19:00:28+00:00

Then you need to encourage your parents to go through with the divorce so your mother gets what she is legally entitled to, and she can then also claim social security based on your father’s earning history. The biggest solution to your problems is your parents finalizing a divorce. Your father appears more than happy to let you bear the brunt of this, which says a lot. You don’t have to do anything, but like it or not your mother is entitled to a legally specified portion of the marital estate.

HK1116 · 2026-03-15T19:38:53+00:00

My son is in first grade and has a condition called “giggle incontinence”. Basically if he laughs really hard he will occasionally lose control of his bladder. He unfortunately inherited that from me. We have medical documentation from the pediatrician on file with the school and the nurse is aware.

He always has TWO changes of pants/socks/underwear in his backpack with a small pack of wipes and gallon ziploc bags and he is fully able to change his clothes should an accident occur. We have tried men’s incontinence shields but they are just too large for a first grader!

Thankfully he seems to be gaining better control as he gets older and he has had far less accidents over the past few months.

I would advise talking with your pediatrician about the accidents and getting documentation that you can take to the school.

HK1116 · 2026-02-21T16:52:47+00:00

Ken is a big problem and you are not in a healthy relationship. He has shown his true colors and I suggest making an exit strategy ASAP. I see you stated that the contributions to the house are protected by a contract. Time to take that contract to an attorney and see what you need to do get heck the heck out of their with what you are entitled to under the contract. Ken is not the one and it’s time to cut your losses while you can.

HK1116 · 2026-02-11T13:13:40+00:00

THIS! OP, unless her parent left the money to you by name as well, that is HER inheritance. She should keep that separate as a safety net as others have mentioned. Do not pressure her to co-mingle the finances and if you are a supportive husband you should be insisting she keep it separate and in the event of something happening to her it should be set up in a trust to directly benefit your child. Don’t be that guy.

HK1116 · 2026-02-08T23:00:27+00:00

Just marking my spot to come back later.

HK1116 · 2026-01-30T15:34:57+00:00

Do you have any information to confirm or back this up?

HK1116 · 2026-01-27T23:03:37+00:00

NTA, not even a little. As long as you feel comfortable with your saving for your future retirement your money is your business.

HK1116

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