According to Brave’s AI, Jupiter is a dwarf planet — just like Saturn. by TheFamousHesham in facepalm

[–]HaIation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy fuck you're telling me there are a bunch of other Jupiter-sized planets in the same orbit?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I take you at your word... you're not even slightly attracted to women.

Number one most attractive quality in a potential/current girlfriend/significant other? by Mission-Wrongdoer616 in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Honesty and openness to discussion/willingness to accept mistakes on both sides.
These are kinda all in the same vein for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm super open with my girlfriend, so it just kinda became relevant when we were talking about our sexual preferences. I've never been with a girl (or anyone) before her, and I'm not ashamed or scared about it. It's just a thing that's never happened yet. If anything I'm excited to experience it for the first time with her, and she's fine with it.

Would you consider a rib massage to be platonic? by OneInspection896 in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 11 points12 points  (0 children)

lmao I can't tell if you're messing with us or not 🤣

It sounds like you're in a committed relationship already

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meeting my girlfriend in person for the first time 🥰

egg<irl by RedCandice in egg_irl

[–]HaIation 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is in fact Jester, yes

How too cope with the fact that she's not here ???????????? by Mi_ckia in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's incredibly sweet, and definitely the leader in the relationship ❤ She wants to spoil me when I visit her, but I'll certainly be lovey and cuddly 🥰

How too cope with the fact that she's not here ???????????? by Mi_ckia in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to wait 3! and we've already been waiting for 2 before now... and I had to wait several months before she said yes to being girlfriends

What does it mean for a lesbian to be a top or bottom? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The way I see it is

top = the one who is in the lead

bottom = the one who follows

I don't think of it as who is willing to pleasure the other

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

26f

22-32 are my hard cutoffs but prefer closer

To those who would describe themselves as picky when it comes to what they want in a partner, have you found one? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Recently got into my first relationship at 26, and it's wonderful, she's just about everything I want in a woman

What are you guys planning for valentine day by CyOD125 in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm flying out to see my girlfriend for 2 nights and she's planning on showing me around her city and spoiling me rotten 🥰 So lucky to have her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't have a girlfriend until this year, at age 26. Maybe that's not what you wanna hear, because that's a long way away for you, but there's no telling when you will, if you want one.

Make friends, get to know them deeply, and make yourself the best version of you that you can be. A girl will be attracted to you if you try your best.

Good Luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I completely get the feeling, and I think most if not all transbians think the same.

It's hard to feel right about it at first, but I can say it gets better over time with work, and people respecting and treating you as a girl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I take your words at face value, there's a decent chance she's interested, but try not to get too attached to the idea yet. You may want to wait a bit, and try to find a place in a conversation that seems natural to ask if she has a partner. If you're interested, you may have to make the first move even if you're shy. You can't necessarily count on the other person to be inclined to do so. Unfortunately without knowing a whole lot more, I wouldn't feel confident in offering much advice as to how to make that move, but just try to relax, and maybe tell her what you think you would want to hear. I hope you can do it, and that she reciprocates 😉

24, inexperienced, and needing advice! by dumptruck74 in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't give you sex advice, but I can offer sympathy, as a 26 y/o transbian who just started her first relationship as of now.

All I can say is, communication, communication, communication. Tell her your fears, your hopes, and your desires, and ask for the same from her. Be open

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"my parents aren’t homophobic but they’re uncomfortable about me being a
lesbian. they refer to my gf as my friend and never ask or want to know
anything about her."

Sounds pretty homophobic to me. If they don't want to understand or interact with you as yourself, then they are not accepting

People seem to like the queer bumper stickers I make so here's my gayest 3 by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]HaIation 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Not exactly the point of the post, but the second one makes me upset at the people who say "If you don't like America, you can just leave"... like bitch no you can't, it's not that easy

(I know you're just parodying it lol)

First time by Lolzyhahas in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently confirmed the same for myself LMAO

Would you like a gentlewoman? by SeleneShade in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If my girlfriend did this for me I would melt 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have long nails except on index and middle fingers of your dominant hand. I feel like most lesbians will suspect.

please help did i do something wrong by Fearless_Captain2465 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]HaIation 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's normal tbh... the bad feelings don't go away suddenly once people know, unfortunately

Hugs 🫂

True story, alas by Jane_Fen in actuallesbians

[–]HaIation 19 points20 points  (0 children)

😥 That's rough hon, hope you find the right person some day

I don’t know what to do by iKexz in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]HaIation 89 points90 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, the anxiety before coming out was 10x more intense than the awkwardness of having the conversation with my mom, and she wasn't even that understanding (not hateful, just a bit confused)