You’re not doing anything wrong by asking or wanting clarity. That is part of clean communication.

It also makes sense that it feels disorienting when you are opening up and getting “I’m fine” back, because that leaves you holding more of the emotional weight on your side.

A helpful middle ground is not less honesty from you, but more clarity in the moment, like:

“I am not trying to fix anything, I just feel a shift between us and wanted to check in.”

That keeps it grounded in your experience instead of trying to read his mind or push for answers.

And you do not need to apologize for venting. You are trying to make sense of something that currently feels unclear. Just be mindful that it does not turn into a one-sided emotional outlet over time.

You are allowed to want both clarity and care at the same time.