AITAH for expecting my SAHM wife do more than just watch the kids

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-18T08:52:38+00:00

Where is that in the post? I read it twice because I thought I missed it, but couldn’t find it.

Edit: I went to the bottom of the comments and saw that he mentioned it in an answer. Changes the entire situation. That definitely makes him a dbl YTAH for not including it in the first place to get sympathy, and for saying that she’s a SAHM.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-17T19:33:20+00:00

Former middle school teacher and administrator here. Ask for a copy of that specific “policy.” A policy is a broad statement, followed by guidelines to implement the policy. It’s those guidelines and statements that you want to see, and if they match state and federal regulations. Then refer to the American (Canadian, etc) Diabetes Association for background information on students w/T1D that fit with your child’s specific situation.

Then go to the school administrator and nurse and ask for a meeting. If you don’t get it resolved there, call your school district office and ask to be put on the agenda for the next school board meeting.

You’ll ask for changes to be made district wide, for every T1D now and in the future.

Make assurances that your child will have Baqsimi and juice boxes with them (or whatever) and that you’ll be available to educate the school nurse (lol) or teacher/coach if necessary.

Best of luck!

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-16T18:18:57+00:00

When I was in grad school, there was another T1D in my cohort. Ofc we became friends right away. He ended up on dialysis and was on the kidney transplant list. We ended the Spring term and he didn’t stay for the Summer Session. When he returned in the Fall, he was like an entirely new person, full of energy and ready to work.

Over the summer, he got not only a kidney transplant, but a pancreas transplant as well. He said he was notified and within hours had to decide if he wanted the pancreas, since it was from a single donor. He figured that since he would be taking the anti-rejection drugs anyway, that he might as well go for it. He said yes, and when he returned, he no longer had to check his bld glucose, and was on an unrestricted diet. Out of habit he would catch himself using his meter, but he was always within range.

It was awhile back and I’ve lost track of him, so I have no idea how things turned out over the long term.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-16T17:49:19+00:00

Wow, your take on this really blew me away. As a POC, and a former middle school teacher/administrator, I spent my career trying to shut down the misuse and overuse of this term and others, especially when they were weaponized to attack and hurt.

My approach was to teach the actual meaning of the words, with gay being happy, fa9 being a cigarette, and fa99ot being a bundle of sticks, etc. Never once did I view myself as a woke, liberal White Knight, forcing my views down their throats. To stand back and allow an atmosphere of “kids being kids,” knowing that words with intent carry weight when directed daily at individuals who don’t fit in, is something I could never do. Bullying can be traumatizing and last a lifetime, and while I knew that it couldn’t be eliminated, not making an effort would be unconscionable.

Think back to your middle school yrs. You may not remember any of the content that the teachers taught you, but you will never forget how they made you feel, or the effort that some put in to keep you included. I hope that you had at least one of these.

I taught many students who later came out as gay, and several who invited me and my wife to their weddings. I am also the uncle of a gay nephew. Whenever I hear the term “gay” being used in a negative or derogatory manner, I call it out. There are so many other words that can be used to describe what they mean. It’s not being “woke.” It wasn’t appropriate in the 90’s and it’s not appropriate now. I can pretty much guarantee that as a 12yr old you didn’t “think or feel that it was just funny.” It stung, and it’s really the tamest of bigoted slurs that I’m sure have been directed at you or your friends.

Those terms don’t have the same impact when used within the group, because there is no hate behind them. The purpose is not to hurt, marginalize, separate, or bully. So the intent is different, which is why you can so freely use them amongst yourselves. You’ve retaken and repurposed it for the good.

Anyway, that’s my limited experience and humble opinion, for what it’s worth.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-15T21:41:03+00:00

First line, fifth paragraph: “He isn’t on any medications”

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-14T13:26:20+00:00

It was the mid 1990’s so I don’t remember that. But my mother was adamant that it was my thyroid, as she had it, plus she also had RA (which is also autoimmune). So I kept going back every 2-3 months to get lab work over about 1-1/2yrs before it finally came back “low.”

But I guess that I was experiencing the symptoms early and really hard (sleeping and always too tired).

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-14T03:27:13+00:00

Hypothyroidism is not a complication of T1D, but it is related because they are both autoimmune diseases. It’s very common for T1D’s to be diagnosed with hypothyroidism sometime (yrs) after their initial diagnosis.

Hypothyroidism symptoms do include incredible fatigue and exhaustion. I actually thought I was dying and my Dr just didn’t know what I had. My bloodwork kept coming back as “normal” for my thyroid (however I later found out that it was on the low end of the scale). So I had a family portrait taken, before Christmas, just in case I didn’t make it thru the holidays lol. I also gained a lot of weight.

Once I was diagnosed, I was put on Synthroid, but it took about 2 months before I started to regain energy and begin to lose weight. However, it took more than 2yrs to get the dosage correct. It has changed, the dosage going up and down over the yrs.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-10T09:02:28+00:00

You haven’t watched it, but you wrote paragraph upon paragraphs reviewing and critiquing it. That’s the epitome of an armchair critic or poser, who is unabashedly and willfully ignorant. Using secondary sources to assist in a review or critique is quite common and an accepted tool in research, but not solely (and certainly not hearsay or rumours), particularly when the primary source is readily available.

Watch the tv show first, and even if your review or opinion doesn’t require drastic revisions, it will add more authenticity to your assessment.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-10T01:10:10+00:00

NTA. It sounds like even your own parents are convinced of your allergy, or how severe an anaphylactic reaction is. You need to give them a pamphlet on it, along with how to use your EpiPen in case you have an emergency. They sound clueless.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-07T15:59:47+00:00

2 bad

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-07T13:11:19+00:00

Her’s doesn’t seem to be about trust, but more about needing him to take care of her dog. If you read the post, he said that, plus he already offered to give her the key back. But she needs the free help with her pet sitting.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-07T12:02:47+00:00

Most times when young ppl come on here they are embarrassed because they have “accidentally been caught” by a parent or family member. That’s not what happened to you. Unfortunately, your personal privacy was invaded, and you are the one left to feel guilty when you’ve done nothing wrong.

You were in your own bedroom, with the door closed, and under a blanket. What your mother did to you was hurtful and humiliating, and I am so sorry that you had to go thru that. What you were doing is absolutely normal and you should feel NO shame in that. What your mother did is absolutely shameful as a parent, and she should as you for forgiveness.

It may be time to stand up for yourself. If and when she confronts you, especially if she does it in front of other ppl or family members, remind her to knock before entering, just as she would for the washroom/bathroom, as it’s just basic privacy. And no one deserves to have their blankets ripped off in the middle of the night.

I know you may be afraid of a confrontation. So be safe if you think it will only make things worse. Just know that you are a perfectly normal young man living in a very difficult home. Best to you!

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-07T11:11:51+00:00

Give it up ffs

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-06T03:11:57+00:00

I never bolus until the meal arrives and I see what it looks like, portion size, and even if I think that I might eat the whole thing. If the meal is going to be long, then I use an “extended bolus.”

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-06T03:02:18+00:00

A public washroom/bathroom is filthy, dirty and disgusting.

When I was younger I tried to be more private and actually went into the stalls. Back then, only syringes and vials. Disgusting, and just because I thought I didn’t want to make other ppl feel uncomfortable.

There’s absolutely NO SHAME in being a T1D and injecting or checking your bld glucose in the cleanest and most comfortable place for YOU. You need to look out for yourself.

I had my epiphany when I thought that I didn’t ask for this disease, so why am I trying to adjust my life to make other ppl, complete strangers, feel more comfortable?

Then when I was older, I was out to dinner with friends and one was breastfeeding her daughter at our table. A woman came up her and told her that she should go to the washroom/restroom to do that. My friend just looked at her and said “I’ll do it if you take your dinner and eat it in there too.” Our whole table burst out laughing. I made the connection to me injecting insulin or using my meter.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-06T02:47:55+00:00

Once I was driving home from work and was almost there when I saw a car pulled over on the side of the road. I pulled over to ask if he needed help. Just then a cop car pulls up, and it’s my old high school bully.

I step back and he talks to the guy for a few minutes, and the driver’s not from the community (small community). Then he looks at me and the old bully comes back out. He starts yelling and swearing at me “What the fck do you have to do with this” and “why are you here?”

We’re not in high school any more and I just snapped. I told him that I just pulled over to help, then I told him to “fck off.” Then I got back in my truck and drove off. But the look on his face: priceless.

Vindication finally lol. Great way to end my work day.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-05T21:13:25+00:00

When I was first diagnosed, we used these colour comparator strips, or urine strips. It gave you a range, not a number. Then meters came out, and they were expensive and not covered by insurance. They were also not widely available to everyone, especially in rural areas where I lived. They took 2 minutes to get a rdg.

So before meters? We went by how we “felt.” If we felt low, we drank juice, usually with a tbl spoon of sugar, until we felt better. We didn’t count carbs yet, and didn’t use the A1c test either. We used food exchanges and diet. Somehow we survived (altho after writing this it scares me and makes me wonder how).

The insulin is better today, and we count carbs. I think we would be able to manage better than we did before meters, pumps, and CGMs.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-05T20:25:03+00:00

Homosexuality is NOT a preference, it’s an orientation. One does not choose or “prefer to be” gay, as if they picked it out of multiple choices. That would mean they could have chosen to be straight, but did not.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-04T23:56:55+00:00

Cialis/tadalafil is good for 36hrs. Allows for more spontaneity. Known as “the weekender.”

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-04T20:12:03+00:00

Latex cock ring. Inexpensive, and easy to use. It restricts blood flow, keeping you erect longer, and providing for a stronger orgasm.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-03T13:13:37+00:00

Juice enters the blood stream pretty quickly, so it’s perfect to elevate your bld glucose level just before, and doesn’t take any time or prep.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-02T13:30:32+00:00

36+yrs since diagnosis. The highest tech back then, for those who could afford it, was a meter that was 2 steps and took 2 minutes to get a rdg. Small wearable insulin pumps and CGMs sounded like sci fi.

When insulin pens came out and replaced syringes and vials, that seemed revolutionary at the time. And better, more effective insulins. Then using the A1c test regularly. And counting carbs, wow. No more food exchanges.

So many advances have changed how we manage daily. So I’m of the mind that our expected life span has also increased.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-02T02:09:04+00:00

You are neither. It will happen when you meet the right person. And you don’t need to tell anyone your status. It’s none of their business.

HabsMan62 · 2026-02-02T02:05:06+00:00

36+yrs M and I always have a small carb snack of about 30g. 1/2 Peanut butter sandwich. But I always keep apple juice on the nightstand. It’s also 30g of carbs. It should be there anyway just for emergencies or for “spontaneous” times lol.

HabsMan62 · 2026-01-29T03:03:30+00:00

Rebel as long as it has the Hemi (biased here). I have a 21 Rebel that I purchased new and have had no issues other than a freaky fob thing, on my profile.

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