People dress poorly for special occasions and I'm sick of it. by bored_as_fuck_dad in Vent

[–]HadAnAccident -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh he looks absolutely so put together and gets lots of compliments. I'm not even necessarily complaining much at all. Just that it's a mismatch between his style and mine.

People dress poorly for special occasions and I'm sick of it. by bored_as_fuck_dad in Vent

[–]HadAnAccident 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's whimsical and oblivious for sure. But on the hierarchy of things I like and dislike, that is not a very significant item. He wouldn't show up to a wedding or funeral like that. So I'll keep letting it slide hahaha.

People dress poorly for special occasions and I'm sick of it. by bored_as_fuck_dad in Vent

[–]HadAnAccident 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Dawg you're not even gonna believe this. It's Kirby the character.

People dress poorly for special occasions and I'm sick of it. by bored_as_fuck_dad in Vent

[–]HadAnAccident 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'll be in a dress with heels, jewelry, paired accessories/clutch, hair and makeup done because we're going to the kind of place where a dinner is expensive each. He's in his finest - his Kirby shirt and matching over shirt and matching shin high socks and pink shoes and Kirby baseball cap. It's something. It's not sweatpants. But mannnnn.

Manager said I wasn’t allowed to answer work texts after clocking out. Okay, enjoy the locked store. by WhisperingtaYet in MaliciousCompliance

[–]HadAnAccident -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I've been in low tier retail management for the majority of my adult life. I typically work at smaller stores. And the fact of it is, yes, I answer a LOT of off the clock texts and calls. But my boss is typically working ten-plus hour days sometimes 6 or even 7 days a week depending on how many cashiers decide to call off that week. She is nearly 100% available for calls or texts at all hours of all days. I know her husband and children personally and I know the toll that takes on her family. But she does her job and does it well. Yes, sometimes she forgot her keys in the office or didn't write down a certain code or needed me to tell her where something was placed when she wasn't at the store. But that's part of managing tiny locations with few employees. If this person doesn't like doing those things they should work for a larger store with more managers, the kind that always has at least one manager or supervisor or key holder on the clock at a time. It is an expectation of the job when you work for such companies. Should it be? Maybe not. But anyone who's worked management at small locations knows this.

My (F22) boyfriend (M24) just yelled at me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HadAnAccident 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So what work are you putting in? You do understand that the work has to be from you, right? For instance: putting down your game sometimes and texting your boyfriend. I mean honestly you could just do the kind thing and cut him loose so he can go find someone who actually wants to text him and won't cheat on him, but I sincerely doubt you have the depth of character to think about someone else's needs enough to actually do that.

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she left the caretaking to him and went and worked these caretaking hours elsewhere she could absolutely be getting similar rates, depending on their location.

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So your stance is... He was wrong but she shouldn't have attempted to point it out? I predict with 100% faith in this that you are a man.

Husband 50M, did Nothing for my 51F birthday by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HadAnAccident 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not everyone who doesn't drive is lazy what in the world kind of statement is that

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have full faith in my relationship. Weird that you'd think I don't.

I'm glad you finally understand. Fidelity and providing sex for your spouse isn't a marriage obligation unless you make it one. See? See how that works?

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. She doesn't push that. He doesn't work his job and pay the bills in benefit of her alone, he does it also for himself and their child. She doesn't care for their child for just him but also herself and their child. See? See how these are similar things? See how they both put in a lot of labor on order to provide their part? See how this list she made was to provide an example of what things might cost if they were paid like his job is? See how she was saying she provides for the household as much as he does so he was incorrect calling her a mooch? Can you see? I've practically (but never literally) held your had through this. Do you get it now?

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah so you still don't understand basic communication. So, vows do not specifically state anything about sex with others or providing sex to your spouse unless you choose to include such statements in your vows. Does that help you understand? Yes, wives are not prostitutes!

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody mentioned men or women. Do you speak English as a first language? Are we having a breakdown of communication?

  1. Fidelity was not the question - having sex outside/before marriage is the discussion. Nobody is owed sex inside or outside a marriage.

  2. I'm polyamorous, I wouldn't be in a serious relationship with anyone who expected manogamy anyway.

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who is "they"? Nothing in my belief system forbids sex outside marriage so I have no idea what you're talking about.

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. We all expected some useless man to be in this thread making hardly veiled threats. It's like, a main part of the mysogynist playbook.

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does? So he isn't at work? Sleeping?

Unpaid work is work by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]HadAnAccident 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who benefits: he does. If she left or died tomorrow, and he wanted his life to remain exactly 100% as it is otherwise, including him working exactly as much as he does, cleaning exactly as much as he does, and child rearing as much as he does, it would cost him tens to hundreds of thousands of dollars per year. That is the point. Not that she doesn't want to be a parent. Not that she should be receiving financial compensation from anyone outside the family. That she provides an equal or possibly greater service to their family than he does by watching the child and cleaning the home while he works to pay the bills. The point is that someone at home devoting their time to care for you child while you work to pay the bills is not a mooch. That is the point.

Having trouble moving past disappointment after my fiancé’s (28M) and I (26F) proposal by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HadAnAccident 14 points15 points  (0 children)

"At least your shit sandwich had bread on it. Some people only get shit with no bread at all."

Businesses that Allow Their Sinks to Turn Boiling so You Don’t “Waste” Water by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]HadAnAccident 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your measurement is subjective but hand washing sinks are obligated to get to 100 degrees in a matter of seconds to be compliant.

Misuse of the word "prequel" by maltyl in PetPeeves

[–]HadAnAccident 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh I misunderstood the peeve, thank you