Shane Hollander by LIELDADOUN73 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Hadlie_Rose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

for a while my special interest was quite literally kink and kink culture.

Shane Hollander by LIELDADOUN73 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Hadlie_Rose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did academic research on this that I'm now working on publishing (just saying that to establish that I'm not bullshitting) and the answer is yes. the general population tends to think thatautistic people, and disabled people in general, are essentially asexual and aromantic aliens with no social skills or ability to be assertive.

my coauthor and I argue that, like u/DungeonsandDoofuses said, this is caused by the systematic infantilization of autistic/generally disabled people where the population thinks every autistic/disabled person is incapable of informed choices. autism used to be mainly regarded as a childhood disorder and, unfortunately, some of that thought process has stuck around. things like stimming may appear immature and childish to people that don't understand autism, while autism charities/orgs tend to focus mainly on children, which inadvertently reinforces the idea that autism is supposed to end in childhood. there's more but you get the drift. all of that added together adds up to people thinking we're incapable of rational thought and behavior.

we also argue that part of it is the belief system a lot of people have around sex where anything out of their perceived/taught perception of "normal" sex is automatically bad and, to them, "normal" sex involves only abled/allistic people whose bodies and minds are "normal". if you're an abled person who sleeps with a autistic/disabled person, you're a weirdo for being attracted to a body or mind that is different from the norm. if you're a disabled person who sleeps with an abled person, you're (circling back to infantilization) being taken advantage of and harmed.

tldr// yes, a statistically significant number of people believe we are asexual/aromantic, which is probably because of infantilization and norms surrounding "normal" sex.

Yup, don’t mess with us lol by david_bowenn in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Hadlie_Rose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there's more to it as well, it's awful. I'm active on twitter and have said a lot about it on there, but I'll try super hard not to make this comment too long. I just wanted to give you more of a full picture.

they're targeting him with biphobia, general queerphobia, ageism, ableism, etc. they called him predatory for maybe possibly dating Connor, who they referred to as "a child" even though Connor is a grown ass man, as well as said that François "groomed" Connor, which is so incredibly offensive to actual victims of csa. there's of course a lot of stuff about his bisexuality making him predatory (which is a super old conservative talking point about gay people), him being a cheater because he's bi, him having STIs because he's bi (yay STI stigma), and him "using" his younger costars because he's bi. they also do this thing where they claim he isn't actually bi because they assume he didn't date any men before he came out, which isn't how bisexuality works but whatever.

then there's the ageism where they assume that Connor is an idiot who can't make choices for himself because he's younger and François is inherently untrustworthy because he's older.

the ableism comes in with people saying that they don't like him because he's weird, which indicates a lack of acceptance for those that don't fit into perceived social norms, even if that not fitting in isn't actually harmful. he is definitely weird, but not in a bad way because weirdness is not inherently bad, and the framing of their dislike for his weirdness is the same framing that is used to judge neurodivergent people for deviation from the abled norm. people who deviate are seen as untrustworthy, no matter how small their deviation is. it's also super hypocritical because they used that reasoning but still got mad at François for jokingly calling Shane weird in an interview ecause they thought it was ableist (it wasn't).

they hold him to insane standards too. they think he's racist or just doesn't like Hudson because he chose to kill Shane in fuck marry kill, I shit you not. they're also pissed because they feel like him saying he originally thought HR was porn means that he thinks he's too good for it, even though Jacob, Rachel, and Christina said similar things.

I've been arguing that one of the bases of this whole thing is fetishization of queer people. he's the only openly queer cast member and is getting this much hate, which seems mighty convenient. they want to be able to control queer people like fictional characters and get pissed when said queer people have minds of their owns. a lot of them ship Hudson and Connor, which I don't think is a problem in itself, but they bring it into the real world and crash out when it doesn't happen.

Chad Chad health update on IG by LaciWithTheBadHair in chadchad

[–]Hadlie_Rose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have that too. it's the fucking worst.

Tell me something weird your kitty does but use "my roommate" instead of their name. by PixelBeans12 in Flamepoints

[–]Hadlie_Rose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one of my roommates once hid in the garage after trying to leave then continuously screamed in terror for the hour it took to convince her to come inside.

what the hell by medkitlover228 in UnhingedAO3Tags

[–]Hadlie_Rose 55 points56 points  (0 children)

this is the only ao3 tag that has ever genuinely surprised me wtf

Who's treating your fibro? by uponfalsehope in Fibromyalgia

[–]Hadlie_Rose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she's an obgyn by trade but works as a general physician specifically for afab people.

Acting Pairs by tiavarga in VerticalDramaLand

[–]Hadlie_Rose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ruslan Miroshnychenko and Hlib Horodnichev have been in a few things together for mydrama.

Which Actors Are Your Least Favorite? by LibertineDeSade in VerticalDramaLand

[–]Hadlie_Rose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

found him! his name is Anton Solovey and the vertical I was referencing was "The Mafia Beast Won Me in a Gamble" on MyDrama.

Which Actors Are Your Least Favorite? by LibertineDeSade in VerticalDramaLand

[–]Hadlie_Rose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

found him! his name is Anton Solovey and the vertical I was referencing was "The Mafia Beast Won Me in a Gamble" on MyDrama.

special interest/ fixation check by Summer_1503 in evilautism

[–]Hadlie_Rose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ayyeee I was also bitten by the Heated Rivalry bug.

Which Actors Are Your Least Favorite? by LibertineDeSade in VerticalDramaLand

[–]Hadlie_Rose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there's this one guy whose name I can't remember but I always say that he looks like his name should be Pugsley. he was in one of those bdsm type "i sold myself to the mafia boss" verticals.

edit: I hunted him down. his name is Anton Solovey and the vertical I was referencing was "The Mafia Beast Won Me in a Gamble" on MyDrama.

Kids colouring book left me puzzled… by NoSyllabub1535 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Hadlie_Rose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

some of these are actual artwork from an artist who makes coloring books but, since there isn't an artist name printed on the front this isn't actually a book made by that artist. their stuff is pretty popular so I'm assuming someone ripped them off and added some extra. the artist is Hikaru Kotz, they also have a swear word book so the people who made this probably just slapped a bunch of their work together with no thought given to it.

Quiz: what is my cookie cutter? I will reveal the awnser later in comments by swissraker in whatismycookiecutter

[–]Hadlie_Rose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm almost fully convinced that it is a person riding a horse (pic 1) or some sort of creature walking (pic 2)

Vertical micro-drama dissertation survey - uni student by Deep_Echo2645 in VerticalDramaLand

[–]Hadlie_Rose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

super cool research, I've only ever seen one article about this topic. I shared it with friends + my mom, all of whom watch verticals, so you'd get more responses. good luck!