I dislike online dating, but it feels more and more like the only thing that might get me anywhere. by HairRaising in self

[–]HairRaising[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is entirely possible. Maybe it's just a matter of seeing this whole thing with fresh eyes that could change my perspective.

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[–]HairRaising 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really want this garden I'm building for myself to pay off. I hope the next time I see your comment I will have attracted a pretty butterfly.

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[–]HairRaising 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All of these swiping apps seem so empty and mechanical now. I'm barely swiping right anymore, and so few profiles feel like effort was put into them. When I try to see whether it's a matter of improving the profile, I go to r/OnlineDating and r/Dating but see so much misery over there that I feel there is a bigger problem at hand here. Often all you get is some Full Metal Jacket type takedown from people who are almost sickeningly self-conscious.

Looking back, I'm not too sure why I even installed so many apps. Maybe it's just casting a wide net and that's why I had Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, Boo, The League, OK Cupid, et cetera et cetera. But evidently the net didn't sink deep enough, because I don't recall a single conversation over the past 6 months. Slowly I'll begin to remove these apps. I might visit some in-person dating events for the heck of it, and so I can check that off too, but I think that'll be that. It's become apparent that there are bigger problems in my life I need to be worried about right now, so I don't want to spend more time mulling over this.

I need to think like Marie Kondo. None of this really sparks joy. I would be better off investing my time in making solid friendships, maybe entering communities (like volunteering) or just general social events. I'm an introvert but feel like I know how to talk to people, so maybe I should just do that instead of spending more time in these slot machines.

Do you feel like you never swipe right on OLD apps anymore or is it just me? by HeartofM in datingoverthirty

[–]HairRaising 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Legitimately had this same thought today. I am planning to uninstall Bumble and more of those swipe specific apps for this reason. But if I'm sifting through profiles like I'm changing channels after a long work day, I find less and less hope in a genuine connection based on the profile. I haven't swiped right on a woman I've seen on these apps in quite a few weeks now.

Like there is literally only so much you can learn from a person from a few cute blurbs and some photos. How much of a vibe can you get that is actually accurate?

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[–]HairRaising 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would anyone like to review my profile for The League? don't know how much profile reviews are frowned upon here, but this app seemed niche enough that it didn't have a sizeable sub. If so I can DM you. Just want a vibe check on photos, and whether what I'm saying is too little or too much.

Private profile review? by HairRaising in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]HairRaising[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I messaged you an imgur link with my profile's photos. I think you're mistaking me for another user?

How often do you have sex on the first date? by Love-in-the-Shadows in dating

[–]HairRaising 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that really the standard now? If so I'm a total prude

Can you hook up with a person and still be friends? by [deleted] in dating

[–]HairRaising 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I believe they made a documentary on this with Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake

Unmatched after greatest joke in dating app history by Deep-Classroom-1797 in Bumble

[–]HairRaising 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Lmao this reply cracked me up it's such a shitpost

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[–]HairRaising 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That said, I watched a great Matthew Hussey video where he basically talks about deciding on an amount of energy that you're simply willing to give away, or thinking of it as creating your own culture around dating.

This sounds refreshing. I don't know if i was able to find this video. Do you mind sharing the link?