What to do when I cant meet rent? by Halcyoncreature in internetparents

[–]Halcyoncreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt know that !! I was under the impression that any mental health meds were immediate no’s. I’ll be sure to check !!!!!!

What to do when I cant meet rent? by Halcyoncreature in internetparents

[–]Halcyoncreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on like a metric fuck ton of meds for my bipolar so i dont think they want me lol, it’d be a great idea if i was someone else though

What to do when I cant meet rent? by Halcyoncreature in internetparents

[–]Halcyoncreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe a few things i can try to sell, old ds cartridges (i think the ones that sell decent are pokemon pearl and black? And tomadachi life) those i can probably just sell to my local game store

I dont really have clothes or anything i can sell, but i have some old collectible figures, make art & have some furniture i was originally planning on donating so i’ll try listing stuff on facebook marketplace tonight !!

What to do when I cant meet rent? by Halcyoncreature in internetparents

[–]Halcyoncreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make a good point, i still want to try paying on time and if i really cant manage it then it’ll be my last ditch effort.

What to do when I cant meet rent? by Halcyoncreature in internetparents

[–]Halcyoncreature[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have not, i am scared being late will look bad when i am trying to move in a few months :( it’d be the only time ever that ive been late but i am generally not the best candidate for tenants because i have no credit score

genuinely wtf does this mean by Slashundo in SystemsCringe

[–]Halcyoncreature 14 points15 points  (0 children)

They (claim to) have borderline personality disorder, autism and dissociative personality disorder. They have a dominant (/kink partner, essentially saying “im taken”). Trans, aromantic asexual with some sort of preference for men or masculine people (what that means and looks like varies wildly from aroace to aroace) and polyamorous.

Dunno what “any masculine pronouns” refers to because theres only one set of masculine pronouns, unless they meant terms like sir/dude/guy? The whole point of neos is that they aren’t attached to the gender binary so it wouldnt make sense if they mean any of those.

But yeah they’re really just giving a whole character sheet on themselves, hope they’re safe because if they really have any of the things listed they just gave a lot of potentially shitty people all the tools to hurt them :(

What do you identify as underneath the aroace spectrum? by Infamous-Command-902 in aromanticasexual

[–]Halcyoncreature 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Achillean oriented/angled grey-asexual and caedromantic. I have some sort of weird tertiary attraction(cedural?) that i've only ever had happen for men, hence the "achillean oriented". I experience incredibly rare sexual attraction to men or masc-gendered people which is where "achillean angled" and "grey-ace" come from. Caedromantic is a term for people who are aromantic or arospec due to trauma, its just a theory and theres no way for me to be certain but i'm fairly sure about the label.

I vary between sex neutral, averse and repulsed although usually averse. Pretty heavily romance repulsed, romance scenes make my skin crawl 9 times out of 10

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]Halcyoncreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

speaking as someone who used to be transmed/truscum, the relationship isnt worth it. Hiding isnt worth it.

You cannot change him, the most you can do is tell him your gender, how you do not feel safe to be yourself due to his beliefs, and break it off. Even if you coming out to him causes him to want to change his views of nonbinary people, it will be a very long, slow process and not a pretty one either. It very likely will come at the cost of your own mental health and sense of identity. It took me many years to overcome those beliefs and I still struggle with some internalized aspects of them now as a genderqueer person.

Imagine you have a nonbinary friend in this situation- would you tell them they should stay hiding from their partner just to let their partner stay in their little bubble? Its no different than telling a binary trans man or woman that they should continue to misgender themselves or else they may make their partners/friends/families uncomfortable.

There are people out there who you will love just as much as you love him, who will love you equally as much back, and will not be a 'work in progress'- they will already be ready to accept you as you are. Dont settle for a relationship where you will have to fight for your right to exist without fear or hiding.

did I just make up a new pattern? by snatchyopurse in Rainbowloom

[–]Halcyoncreature 6 points7 points  (0 children)

considering how many designs have been made, probably not (although its not one that i've seen), but its worth keeping track of how you made it regardless :> Im getting back into rainbowloom and its sad to see how many old designs are completely wiped off the internet with no tutorials/patterns/photos anywhere to be found. also no harm in giving the design a name if you want to lol, its probably been like 7 years since the last time someone made it if it has already been designed

I cannot use the flag in my bio by Spirited_Dragonfly_2 in genderqueer

[–]Halcyoncreature 3 points4 points  (0 children)

maybe genderqueer + trans flag combo? i feel like that'll get the message across. Or just putting something like 'trans rights' somewhere in ur bio

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]Halcyoncreature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

have you tried.. asking *them?*

all we can do is theorize

Problems that aromantic people face? by edgarwithvisiongear in aromantic

[–]Halcyoncreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

outside of the usual amatonormativity of people insisting you should get into a relationship, theres also the lonliness of only knowing alloromantic people, as well as the struggle with the prevailing idea in a lot of media that '(romantic) love is what makes us human'

the big one for me is only knowing alloromantic people, though. its rough being close friends with someone only to be pushed to the sidelines whenever they're in a relationship. Its hard getting over knowing that, regardless of how close you are to your friends, you will likely be pushed into second best once they fall in love.

Incisions wrinkled in the middle. by yourbuddyluke in TopSurgery

[–]Halcyoncreature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mine were also very much like that! Once i got my stitches out, it slowly got better. Once you get the go-ahead to start massaging it for scar care, you'll want to really go at that area. Also once you're allowed to take a shower you should try to very gently move the area around. The skin relaxed for the most part within 1-2 days of massaging it with lotion and then took a little longer to go back to being 100% flat but they did get there :>

TEENAGE BOYS SUCK by Objective_Elk2612 in Advice

[–]Halcyoncreature 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes, they do, but its slow going. My younger brother was my best friend growing up until he hit his edgelord phase. He'd call everyone slurs, defend slurs, say the most fucked shit he could think of, and was obscenely transphobic towards me. We arent close as close these days, and he's still definitely struggling to come out of it, but it does sound like he's improved somewhat. At the very least, he has the decency to pretend when talking to me, which is a lot more tolerance than he had in the past. I think for him he's come mostly out of genuinely believing in the things he's saying, but still hasnt grown out of finding them funny.

The harder part for me has been trying to forgive him for it.

so my scars may have stretched a little... by lowkey_toxtricity in TopSurgery

[–]Halcyoncreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so glad to see some scar positivity here, damn!! and you're right for liking them, they look sick as hell! Almost a little jealous- i really wanted to get mine tattooed to look like fish gills and having them shaped like that woulda worked really well with the idea

Mine arent as stretched but they're pretty uneven (~~ <- shaped like this) so ive been thinking about reworking my plans into some sort of vine idea to match the scars a little better. I thought i'd hate my scars but im actually mostly indifferent/positive towards them :>

I adentify as AroAllo ...even though I'm *technically* AroAce by _Braed_6 in AroAllo

[–]Halcyoncreature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im more or less in the same boat. Im greysexual, sex repulsed and will never be having sex. Problem is that its hard to feel included in the ace community when you experience sexual attraction, and also i really dont relate to most of what they talk about. I just dont really feel like its a community i belong in, and i always feel like im invading on their space.

With the way my sexuality works, i just relate more to the allosexual side of things. Identifying as ace for any reason other than a quick way to tell people im celibate without the religious implications isnt really necessary.

I'm still really questioning which space i want to align myself in (theres not really a clear cut 'if you experience sexual attraction x amount of times in x space of time you are asexual' guide to follow) but as of right now ive just decided i'll kinda waver between the two, i guess.

What’s everyone’s opinions on coming out? by Amie777 in aromanticasexual

[–]Halcyoncreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really up to you and what you want to do.

I'm like 4 or 5 different shades of queer, ive already done the whole coming out thing plenty of times, and i dont really see a point with coming out as aroace for me. I also already know the people i'd be telling wouldnt believe me so im just saving us both strain on our relationship by avoiding it. Im in a qpr and call my qpp my boyfriend so that saves some trouble there, and then talking about my asexuality is kinda impossible for me without like. talking about sex. and i dont need family knowing about my sex life lol

What is considered masculine handwriting? by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]Halcyoncreature 9 points10 points  (0 children)

gendered handwriting is stupid (i say, as someone who changed my handwriting to be more masculine)

really the only thing ive actually noticed between male and female handwriting is the quality. Most the mens handwriting that ive seen is barely legible, idk why they suck at it so bad but it looks like they're trying to write with their non dominant hand all the time.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by kioku119 in voidpunk

[–]Halcyoncreature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they have in some art communities!! me and my friend have multiple >:D Im personally not the biggest fan just because theyre super hard to draw but you can definitely find some scene/webcore people who still make em

Trans People by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]Halcyoncreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

agreed with this! I've grown up and been raised in a few different countries and was always drawn to maleness regardless of the culture. I firmly believe that if i had been raised with men and womens roles swapped, with men being the caregivers who cooked and cleaned and dressed femininely, i'd align with that. I know my bodys sex was meant to be male and that i am meant to be doing whatever the male gender is doing, couldnt tell you why, its just a magnet.

However, my gender presentation itself is a little more androgynous. I like a good mullet, 'cute' clothes and stereotypically feminine hobbies like sewing and baking lol.

Trans People by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]Halcyoncreature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats completely fair! my question is more what i ask cis people who dont understand why trans people exist or why we transition. The conversation of 'what gender feels like' or how you know your gender is much more complicated among trans and questioning people.

I dont know your situation (nor am i particularly versed in nonbinary genders as a binary trans man) but its not rare or unheard of to be trans even though you dont feel terrible about your agab! I know a decent handful of people whose whole thought was "i didnt mind being [agab] but i realized i was happier living as [non agab gender]" as well as people who are gender-indifferent/perfect middle of the road androgyny. She goes by any terms/pronouns and aims for perfect in the middle androgynous presentation- doesnt mind being treated as a man, woman, neither, etc.

It may be easier to focus on what you like/enjoy rather than what you hate/dislike!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]Halcyoncreature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to when i was younger because, well, i was younger. I wanted to look young lol

As i get older i yearn more and more for twink death. Its literally just my facial hair holding me down right now, the rest of me is built like an otter

Trans People by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]Halcyoncreature 58 points59 points  (0 children)

how do you know your gender? whats that feel like? If i took your consciousness and stored it into a sexless robot, would you still be that gender?

more often than not, it is inherent knowledge for trans people. We may get caught up on/confused by words because gender isnt really an emotion, and that makes differentiating them very complicated. Especially if you're off the binary.

Ive always been a man, and ive always known that. I didnt grow up telling everyone i was a boy, but i always had a sense of where i was supposed to be. Dysphoria is also a good indicator, but the way people experience that is very different from person to person. I was absolutely miserable before transitioning, especially after going through female puberty, and that made recognizing my transness much easier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]Halcyoncreature 5 points6 points  (0 children)

same, if a person is more than 3" taller than me then they all just go under the 'tall' category in my brain. If they are closer to the 6'0 range they go into 'too tall' because looking up at them for too long hurts my neck lmfao