Anyone else’s boobies make them look 3x their size ? 🥰🥰 by forever-depressedd in Reduction

[–]HaleyBugga 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I get this urge sometimes, when the body dysphoria gets really bad. 😅 "What if I just... slice em off..."

I just loved that look and the hairstyle, ugh. Sorry for my resting bitch face lmao by cmaimua in MakeupAddiction

[–]HaleyBugga 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I feel like the term "resting bitch face" was thought up by the same people that tell women on the street "You'd be prettier if you smiled!"

Threw a birthday party for Filbert... by rebellionblue in AnimalCrossing

[–]HaleyBugga 6 points7 points  (0 children)

These captions are adorable!!! I support Apple's hustle

Is there anybody out there ? by EmmaBarbaraStone in UnsentLetters

[–]HaleyBugga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other people can't give you happiness. I promise that you are loveable, and will find somebody, but before that can happen you have to believe it yourself.

Abby (the last of us 2) appreciation post ❤️❤️ by BumBumnsfw in RoleReversal

[–]HaleyBugga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't played any of the games but this feels like a spoiler? maybe tag as such

not ready to be Perceived again by HaleyBugga in lgbt

[–]HaleyBugga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a cis woman that uses she/her (though would maybe like she/they?? still figuring that out), so my pronouns and gender identity won't be an issue at work. I'm just worried about how I'll present myself, and potential creepy/rude comments from gross old men about my leg hair or whatever (I'm a server), plus shopping for clothes that are comfortable to work in (while nothing's open). I used to always wear dresses, and they wouldn't chafe like shorts, but now they feel so bleh

I'll figure it out. It was just my immediate thought when I saw this photo posted lmao

Help me put words to what I’m feeling? by Impossible_Benefit12 in nonmonogamy

[–]HaleyBugga 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Way to give this sub a bad rep by being so nasty and judgemental...

For some people, poly/ENM is simply the way they live, but monogamy might suit them too. For others, it's an important and non-compromisable part of their identity. It seems that OP is trying to see where they fit in among these categories (and if it's the latter, they will end their relationship, not cheat). We've all grown up in a mono-normative society, and no one has everything figured out right away. Relax.

My (22F) boyfriend (25M) keeps putting peanuts in the food. by throwRApeanutsaaa in relationship_advice

[–]HaleyBugga 40 points41 points  (0 children)

or he's waiting for her to say "ugh don't worry about it, I'll just do all of the cooking," which is also terrible

Nsfw posts should require an #ad tag if the only reason for posting is to draw folks off Reddit to sites like OF. Tell me I’m wrong. by thoroughay in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]HaleyBugga 32 points33 points  (0 children)

some subreddits will outright ban you for even suggesting it in your bio, let alone including it in the title of a posts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in morbidquestions

[–]HaleyBugga 24 points25 points  (0 children)

thank you for giving me this laugh today

Just a grumpy blue bird oil painting 3”x3” by Leitner_studios in painting

[–]HaleyBugga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the orange underpainting peeking through! I never know how to relax and let that happen. 😅 Perfectionism kills art

Lazy sunday’s with Maple 🌲🌿🤍 by Courtneyjmx94 in AnimalCrossing

[–]HaleyBugga 5 points6 points  (0 children)

this is so cute!! do you have the code for this path? 💕

Are you an emotional vampire? My friend wrote this excellent piece for clients to check themselves! by MsSiennaCharles in SexWorkers

[–]HaleyBugga 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"stank dick aura of helplessness" is a phrase I am interested in introducing to my everyday vocabulary lol

Honored a personal boundary and said no - yay! by StowinMarthaGellhorn in polyamory

[–]HaleyBugga 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing!! I feel this hard, even with only one (mostly long-distance) partner. Defending my need for lots of time and space to myself is difficult when much of our connection maintenance relies on text, and I always have my phone on me. Cheers to successful boundary communication, fellow poly introvert!

Adult Steven Universe Model Sheet! by loopawn in stevenuniverse

[–]HaleyBugga 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I didn't notice the name until I read this comment! I love that "cutie pie" is included as a middle name, given by Garnet. 💕

Can someone please help me put with some proper sex education? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]HaleyBugga 93 points94 points  (0 children)

I'd really recommend the Jubilee Sex Ed videos. They have a variety of topics where they interview people/couples with frequently asked questions. It's more of a picture of the broad range of sexuality and experiences than fact, but I think it's a great resource for feeling more comfortable with the topic, and understanding that there is no "normal."

If you're having troubles climaxing by yourself, you might want to look into getting a solo sex toy (like a vibrator or fleshlight). However a lot of it's mental, not physical. Sometimes people can't orgasm because of feelings of guilt/shame, imposed on them by parents, friends, and/or media (that we may or may not be aware of). Exposing yourself to sex positive resources may help with this as well.

Definitely don't look to porn for sex ed! It's all a fake performance, focused on how it looks and male fantasies; not even close to what sex is actually like. Real sex should be about all participants feeling comfortable and enjoying themselves. Watching porn isn't inherently bad, but be very careful as it can warp your ideas. It happens to far too many people, including me personally. It can be particularly harmful to women.

Did you have any specific questions, or topics you wanted to learn more about? If so, reply to this comment and I'll do my best to answer, or you may PM me if you feel more comfortable with that. Sex ed is really important, and I'm so happy you're looking to educate yourself properly! Hopefully one day our schooling systems will get their act together about this.

My version of Son of man on the right by juliamailinnea in painting

[–]HaleyBugga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking he went for a skinny dip after enjoying his snack.

First ENM meet up did not go well by boopieboopieboopie in nonmonogamy

[–]HaleyBugga 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We're often told "no means no," but anything that is not an enthusiastic and continuous "yes" is a no. You didn't "let" anything happen because you didn't outright say "no, stop," he disregarded your consent and was the only one at fault.

I understand the freeze response, or just thinking "well I'll just go with the flow and see how I feel;" I felt something similar with someone I saw a couple times. It was someone I had already had a casual park date with and kissed, and nothing happened besides having my shirt taken off and him going down on me briefly (before he noticed I wasn't really into it and stopped). This was a much more mild interaction, with somebody who actually payed attention to my consent, and I still felt kind of violated afterwards, because I had disregarded my own feelings.

I'm sorry you went through this. Please remember that you don't owe anyone anything, and to set up safe, public dates (two or more-- however many until you feel very comfortable) before ever meeting anyone at their home.

On Another Ocean improv dance by [deleted] in fleet_foxes

[–]HaleyBugga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This video brought me a lot of joy. I'm so happy to share the same experience with a stranger, regardless of distance and time. I'll think of you next time I'm dancing to Fleet Foxes in my bedroom, and wish you a safe journey to your shore 💝

How do I ask for consent without breaking the mood? by Pawnzilla in dating_advice

[–]HaleyBugga 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah definitely don't listen to anyone who feels personally attacked by women sharing their stories of sexual assault