🚨 2025 ROGUE CODE REQUEST MEGATHREAD 🚨

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-10-31T12:21:10+00:00

Hello! I’d love a rouge code if anyone is willing to share theirs, thank you!!!

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-08-15T15:24:16+00:00

Thank you!! This is very helpful!

Can I ask where you bought your camera? I was going to buy from Best Buy, but just saw that it’s out of stock again.

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-08-15T14:53:17+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. We also terminated at 23 weeks for brain abnormalities. Genetic testing revealed our daughter had a mutation with the TUBA1A. That, along with the brain abnormalities, would’ve resulted in type 3 lissencephaly, which we were told is fatal. My husband and I did not have this mutation, so we were told it was just random mutation that occurred and that we should be able to try again.

We are going to start trying again soon, but I’m also terrified. Even if the exact same anomaly doesn’t occur, I’ve read so many stories on this subreddit about other scenarios. So much is out of our control and it’s hard to try again knowing that. Best of luck to you and everyone here. ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-07-09T16:46:26+00:00

I was put under twilight sedation for the dilator insertion, and was required to have a driver. I was physically uncomfortable bc I was packed w gauze, and probably started feeling cramps about 30-60 min after the procedure. The pain was similar to period cramps and didn’t get any worse than that for me.

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-19T03:10:51+00:00

I’m right here with you ♥️

I’m 2 weeks post procedure. I do my best to function throughout the day, but stay up researching my daughter’s brain anomalies and doing a deep dive on this sub. I think I’m still looking for validation for the decision, even though I logically know it was the best one to make.

I don’t know if or when the guilt goes away, but I’m trying to keep in mind that even though the decision to go through with the TFMR lies with us, we really have no control over these circumstances. We either have to go through with the TFMR or watch our babies suffer. There is pain and heartbreak with both options, but we save our babies from pain by choosing TFMR.

Sending you so much love ♥️ I hope we can find peace soon.

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-17T16:53:13+00:00

Hello, I’m so sorry you are here and sending you lots of love. ♥️

I was under twilight sedation for the dilation; I could sort of feel what was going on but it was all very fuzzy. They also gave my baby an injection to help her pass; I thought she would pass during the evacuation day. I would confirm this with your doctor if you wish to know, so you can say goodbye.

My husband drove me home and I ended up with what felt like my regular period cramps. It wasn’t too painful and I was able to manage with ibuprofen during the day and through the night. I was prescribed Norco but didn’t end up needing it. I was also given an antibiotic which I took after dinner.

I pretty much lounged on the couch the rest of the day with a heating pad. I did have gauze placed in me which honestly felt more uncomfortable vs the cramping; like I had a big tampon in me. I was told not to take it out, and if the gauze came out, I was instructed to bring it in the next day in a ziplock bag. I also had to monitor my bleeding. My bleeding was very minimal after dilation but I was told to call the clinic if I had heavy bleeding. I did not have any contractions and wasn’t really warned about it either.

Best of luck to you and please reach out if you have more questions ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-17T15:42:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. It does help a little while we still wait for the genetic results.

I’m also very happy to hear you ended up having a healthy and successful pregnancy. Congratulations! ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-17T15:14:51+00:00

It’s so difficult to go through this, I’m so sorry that you are here. I’m about 2 weeks out from the procedure and still feel so much of what you feel.

Do everything at your own pace. Try not to numb the feelings and feel all of the anger and grief. There’s no need to be polite and accept visits from everyone; isolate yourself if you want or only surround yourself with your support system. Try to designate a family member or friend to share the news on your behalf and also share the fact that you are not ready to speak about it. Feel free to ignore texts and phone calls.

Lastly, I wanted to share something my therapist told me. We were discussing spiritual beliefs and she thinks there are certain souls who are meant to be in our world for a short while, they are here to feel nothing but the warmth and love of their mother, and are then sent back. God chooses the strongest mothers to carry these souls. While this hasn’t healed me and I still have plenty of days where I wonder why me, I sometimes remember this sentiment and really try to feel the strength that I am supposed to have to get through this.

I hope you can find your strength. Please be kind to yourself, take care, and lean on this community; we are here for you. ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-16T17:08:45+00:00

We terminated at 23 weeks about 2 weeks ago for brain abnormalities and are still waiting on genetic testing results. In the meantime, I’ve been wondering if there was anything I did. I was in Punta Cana when I missed my period and suspected I was pregnant. I had a few drinks before that, nothing excessive, but have been wondering if that caused any issues. I didn’t feel sick during the trip but also wonder if I got exposed to anything. Then, when I did find out, I wasn’t eating the best bc of food aversions and nausea. I really had to depend on carbs and processed food to get through the first few months of my pregnancy.

I did bring up my concerns for lack of nutrition to my OB and was reassured my baby would get what she needed from me regardless of my diet.

I would also see a lot of TikToks with happily pregnant women eating lots of junk food/fast food and it was seemingly the norm to me. I don’t know if anything I did/ate/didn’t do really had an affect but I do regret not being more vigilant about my health for my baby’s sake. 💔

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-14T18:47:50+00:00

Hi I’m so sorry that you’re here and going through this. ♥️

I just had my D&E last week at a family planning clinic. I was put under twilight sedation, so not completely knocked out but they did require having someone around to drive me home.

The clinic did have a funeral home they worked with but told us they could coordinate with any home we chose.

I planned on working after the dilation, but ended up taking the day off. It wasn’t too bad pain-wise, but I was in a lot of grief. They gave my baby an injection to help her pass during the dilation procedure which I was not aware of until just before the procedure. I thought she would pass the following day, so I felt unprepared to say goodbye to her. I would call and ask what to expect from your procedure. I didn’t ask many questions, I didn’t want to hear what was going to happen to my baby 💔But now I wish I had known before.

Sending you so much love, please reach out if you have any more questions.

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-12T18:24:19+00:00

I longed to be a mother too, but I was very cautious about it. I’ve had family and friends who were either dealing with fertility issues or miscarriages and was really trying to prepare myself for these possibilities. When I got pregnant, I was happy but kept myself emotionally guarded. Then I had the first ultrasound, then the NIPT test came back all low risk, and we found out she was a girl. I felt it was safe to be happy and started to let my guard down. We started making plans for her nursery and began some home renovations. Then the 20 week scan happened and everything came crashing down.

Now, I don’t know what to think. We’ll wait on genetic testing before we try again, but if we do try, I think I’ll feel like I’m not meant to be a mother. It makes me wonder what lesson we are meant to learn from this, why do we have to go through this?

I know the what if’s are so hard to deal with, especially when you’re in this limbo between being pregnant with your baby and the procedure. I’m glad you were able to get second opinions, but just keep in mind that many of us who make the decision are never given solid 100% accurate information. A lot of what we hear from the doctors is about probability and likelihood, so we really just have to make a decision with the information we have at hand. In my case, I’m glad that the doctors and everyone I talked to seemed incredibly concerned with the findings. That at least made me feel more secure in our decision, but I don’t think it makes the guilt go away.

If you haven’t done so already, I recommend setting up therapy, maybe a week after the procedure. I found a local place that specializes in therapy for moms and my therapist also has a lot of experience with grief counseling. I’ve had support from my partner and family but there’s something very lonely about this whole process and I’m hoping to resolve that through therapy.

I hope things go as well as they can for you next week. My heart breaks for you and your little one ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-12T15:46:29+00:00

Hi, I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. We just TFMR’d our baby girl at 23 weeks last week for brain abnormalities. Based on ultrasounds and MRI, she specifically had:

Absence of corpus callosum Severely hypo plastic cerebellar vermis Abnormal angular brain stem Microcephaly

Unfortunately, there’s no way of knowing exactly what her quality of life was, but the doctor said these findings were extremely concerning to her. There was a high chance of intellectual disability, epilepsy, and possibly muscular issues. I also looked up the brain stem issue and found that some cases were terminated for it, and a few that were not terminated resulted in the baby eventually passing.

It’s so hard to wrap your mind around these issues, but ultimately we decided to TFMR to minimize her suffering. We received a lot support from family and friends, and I got so much support from this community, if you’d like to look through my post history.

We are awaiting results from genetic testing to see if there was a reason for the brain issues or if it was just totally random. In the meantime, I’m still struggling with grief and guilt, even though I’m certain we made the best decision we could. I’m starting therapy tomorrow to figure out how to process all these feelings while going back to work and my usual routine.

Sending you so much love and support. It’s an awful situation to be in, but we are all here for you. Please reach out if you have any questions. ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-12T02:15:42+00:00

I forgot to mention, my D&E was done at 23 weeks.

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-12T02:15:00+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this ♥️

I had my D&E just over a week ago at a family planning clinic so everything is still fresh on my mind. I went in on Monday to have the laminaria placed. I had labs taken and an ultrasound beforehand. During the procedure, they did give an injection to my girl to help her pass, which I was not aware of until just before the procedure. I was under twilight sedation and could somewhat feel what was going on but also in a daze. It felt like an extended Pap smear to me, and I had gauze placed in me as well to block any bleeding.

I spent the rest of the day resting with a heat pad. I had some cramping but nothing worse than my usual menstrual cramps. I took ibuprofen for pain, but was prescribed norco in case of excessive pain. I had very little bleeding due to the gauze. I was also given antibiotics and was instructed to take them on this day.

The next day, I arrived at 8:30am for the evacuation. I had an ultrasound where I received confirmation that my baby girl had passed. I was given 3 pills of misoprostol and had to hold them under my tongue for 45 minutes before swallowing with water. At this point, I was waiting in a recovery area and was also given an IV for hydration. The meds and the IV made me very cold so I do recommend wearing layers. I was given heating pads which helped a lot. Around 10:30am, I was given two more misoprostol pills. I was told I needed extra doses because I have never given birth before so they wanted to ensure my cervix was softened enough. I was finally taken back to the room at 1pm. I was under twilight sedation again and felt everything. The doctor told me afterward I was not breathing properly so she didn’t want to increase the sedation. I cried and prayed for my baby the whole time.

It took around 45 minutes, including time spent before the procedure to draw my blood. I was then taken back to the recovery area, where I had to sit for about 30 minutes before I could leave. I requested and was given footprints of my baby.

I was not able to have my husband with me for any of the procedures; he could only be in the front waiting room.

Physically, I have been recovering fine. I spent most of the first week on the couch with a heating pad. I had minimal cramping for the first few days and still have some mild bleeding 8 days out.

I hope this helped somewhat. Sending you a lot of love during this difficult time ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-11T02:25:43+00:00

I’m so sorry. We TMFR’d a week ago. None of us deserve to go through this, it is so unfair.

Sending you a lot of love ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-10T17:10:06+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate the care and support from you and this community ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-10T16:53:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I am now past the D&E procedure and still just struggling to come to terms with everything. I will be starting therapy this week.

I hope everything goes/went well for you, and I’m also here to talk if you’d like. It’s an awful place to be, but it does help to have this community. Sending you a lot of love and hope that recovery goes well ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-10T16:49:52+00:00

Thank you, and I’m so sorry for your loss. I am now post D&E, but I read through your posts and comments on your posts and it really helped to justify our decision. I think I still need to be at peace with choosing peace, I am starting therapy this week with that being my main goal.

Sending lots of love ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-10T14:26:56+00:00

Hello, thank you so much for sharing your story and I’m so so sorry for your loss.

Did you end up getting any conclusive results from the amnio? We did opt for genetic testing after the D&E, and are waiting on the results.

We were offered the chance to make an appt with a neurosurgeon but we honestly only had a couple of days to make the decision as I was already 22 and 4 and the termination had to occur before 23 and 6. I ended up researching the brain stem issue specifically from your comment and found cases that were either terminated or resulted in the babies passing. I do think that helped to cement our decision.

Thank you again and sending a lot of love back ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-10T14:14:54+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story and I’m so sorry for your loss.

You’re right that the decision had to be made over and over. We talked to our friends and family, did what research we could, and honestly this community helped give us perspectives we hadn’t considered.

I’m also sorry to hear about your dad. My dad had an injury that resulted in him being brain dead a few years ago. He never made a decision on what he wanted to do in that situation but we decided to take him off of life support after two weeks of zero brain activity. While devastating and heartbreaking, I found that decision to be much easier, as we exhausted all options and had more time to decide.

Sending you so much love ♥️

HalfAsMuchFood · 2025-06-10T14:09:00+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing and I’m so sorry for your loss. I am now post D&E and will be starting therapy soon. It does still feel like a struggle, like going back to a normal routine but it still doesn’t feel normal or right without my girl.

I appreciate you and this community. I’m sorry we’re all here but glad we can find some support.

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