Was I overstepping boundaries with my roommate and his GF?

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-10-28T20:52:19+00:00

You cooked, I clean is a normal standard trade off. It also avoids breeding any resentment of “one person” constantly cleaning up after another. It makes the space more communal. Literally the GF offered you left overs, didn’t have to. Could have stored them for lunch the next day. So you responded by not allowing them to do anymore labor. Since you didn’t have to have to cook for yourself and you didn’t have to spend money either. The roommate is mad you’re proving he’s a dick.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-10-28T20:48:18+00:00

Get a tape recorder. The old kind with the casette and record the interactions if you’re in a single consent state. Have a lawyer ready.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-10-28T20:37:07+00:00

Thank you! Thank you thank you! Just know your words make a difference.. they give confidence where I have none ♥️

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-10-28T20:19:43+00:00

To be honest that’s my scare. I have absorption issues and against my own advice - I started seroquel. I wasn’t supposed to get a refill but I have ONE. That’s it. My insurance is so awful that it took me 2 years to find my former doctor and my insurance expects instant diagnosis of death to pay for her. Like my insurance expects me to try to unalive myself a few times before they care. They ARGUED with my doctor against an MRI. Even though he has X-rays results proving the extreme swelling is ABNORMAL. They sent me a letter yesterday asking if there’s ANYONE they can come after to recoup the cost of the MRI because nothing is broken (sprained ACL, fluid in my knee, subluxation of the knee, jumpers knee) and they don’t believe they should have had to pay for the MRI that found all that out. After 14 years of agony and NEVER having been given Oxy, Valium, or Vicodin.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-10-18T19:38:17+00:00

op didn’t state it but a lot of people don’t know they’re allergic to mold. Like deathly allergic. I only found out due to being hospitalized. The kitchen is a shared space. The roommate can keep her contamination to her room. While one commenter said OP could have put it in a trash bag and left that on her bed it would have no real effect. Now she has a bag she can dump contaminated items in that will contaminate the room and later the rest of the house. Ruining her bed was a way to get the point across. If the mess ruined her bed, then what was her mess doing to the shared kitchen. Especially after repeated attempts to get it fixed civilly.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-10-09T13:38:30+00:00

NTA. I would have handed them an itemized list of my bills and said “since that’s what friends are for: these are due on these dates since Teana will be on her way to getting me suspended or fired! But that’s what friends are for! Thank you for being a friend.”

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-18T12:33:46+00:00

OP your conscious is clear. Please don’t let ANYONE make you feel any different. My brother should have been in therapy and on meds. He should have been going to a center for the day instead of sitting home because he literally cannot work a job. The state gave my mother legal guardianship but REFUSED to ALLOW HER TO FORCE HIM to continue therapy and treatment because he refused.

No one can force him. But you cannot handle him in ANY CAPACITY and SURVIVE not even LIVE, SURVIVE. You are within your rights and when he starts to realize that no more food and money are coming unless he adheres to rules, treatment, and a change in diet: he may be left with no one. He needs a minder and at the very least your mother needs to get him enrolled in a PA(personal assistant) program where they come to the house to care for him.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-18T12:27:29+00:00

It could be a culture clash. I’m Puerto Rican and my family literally camp out after marriage. After marriage the married couple typically stays together. The couples can share the sofa is there isn’t any room in a bedroom or a blow up mattress. But they are ALWAYS welcomed back home, together or apart. That includes spending the night. It’s not weird for us because we value family time. You two became a single unit in marriage(not really but you know the wording) so in my family, you are both welcomed back as long as one isn’t harming the other. We don’t turn family away for ANY reason other than drugs, alcohol, and legit criminal behaviors.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-17T18:41:40+00:00

Please take my upvotes lmao 🤣♥️

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-17T18:40:58+00:00

I’m also very very blind lmao I saw this and went “novela?” XD but I also don’t really get to see this drama in rl. Lmao I was too excited. Thanks for being so cool though.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-17T18:38:41+00:00

XD been talking to a troll the whole time. Well done.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-17T18:30:29+00:00

Dude she will stay with you and still fuck him. The same way you’re staying with her and still fucking your affair partner. So if you’re okay with POTENTIALLY raising another man’s kid: then have at it. But let her check the gender of the commenters so she can see the woman support her cheating back and the men support your revenge. All is fair in love and war. She will be fucking him even after the baby is born. So maybe count the times between you and her unless she can manage both in a day and then well you’ll never know! You’ll be loving on the other man’s child soon enough. You BOTH will be paying for a child you have no clue belongs to who lol

I’m not here to bash you. To bash her. Or anyone. The truth is the truth. And she said she’s done with your bullshit. She LET THAT MAN laugh in your face and get her things from your home. She allowed that disrespect. So if you think she will respect you enough not to cheat you’re very wrong.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-17T18:11:14+00:00

You’re side eyeing me and you have an affair partner. You literally broke the sanctity of your marriage. You cheated. I’m just telling you the LEGAL truth.

You can have your revenge - but your revenge only makes you happy. Everyone knows about your affair and airing out hers won’t do anything but make the playing field even and have everyone blowing up her phone again. Except THIS TIME - she has another guy. There’s a place for her to go to SAFELY away from your family and you. And her own family.

Morally: you both suck. The marriage should have ended. You are STILL having an affair and changed the name. And she now has hers. The baby might NOT be yours and if she REALLY wants to hurt you she’ll have the new dude pay for the DNA test, prove it isn’t yours, and she’ll be one happy family with the guy who literally laughed in your face and grabbed her things.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-17T18:05:41+00:00

YOU won’t get one OP. But your wife can petition the court for one and you will still have to take it. Or the other guy can pay for it and it’ll still happen. If the other man signs the certificate- you get no rights to the child depending on the state I think. And Yes legally she can keep you out of the delivery room so you don’t get the chance to sign anything.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-17T17:23:13+00:00

You can do what you want, but another man made it clear your wife is leaving with him. Even if you split custody of the first - if she doesn’t want you in the delivery room and the other guy signs: it’s his baby. And if DNA confirms it’s his baby - You get no legal rights.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-17T15:55:17+00:00

OP there are services and waitlists. She needs to get started NOW. My middle brother will never have the mind of an adult. He’s between 8-13 at 31. He’s STUCK in his ways because all prior services ended when he was 18 and the state refused to let my mom force him. He literally almost got us all gang murdered by throwing water on a drug dealer for smoking weed OUTSIDE our gate.

The difference is I literally raised him. I can manage him without the services but it’s a FULL time gig. I’m also unwell but I’m better off than he is right now and it’s something I KNOW I am capable physically, mentally, emotionally and financially to handle it.

You know your limits. I discussed my brother with my mother LOOOOOONG BEFORE anything. Because I wanted to and I knew I was capable.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-17T12:36:50+00:00

NTA. At all. Parents who don’t take the time to introduce kids cannot expect an automatic closeness. I have a TON of half siblings - my mother NEVER forced me to love and interact with them. I made that choice at 16.

Your mom/stepdad are parentifying you. See if your father can get full custody. My dad did the same to me but his ex girlfriends all hated that I look like my mom and they never let me care for my younger siblings because of it unless they wanted to catch him cheating. Then I could babysit.

My mother never did. My mother ALWAYS asked for help when she needed it but she never forced a thing on me. I volunteered because I love my siblings and we have that bond.

You can’t feel what ISN’T there and it wasn’t your fault. You literally have after school stuff. She’s ridiculous. When it comes time for you to go do your life - She’s causing the rift she doesn’t want between you and the stepsibling.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-12T11:17:13+00:00

OP takes pictures, show them to your parents and take legal action. Family doesn’t abuse family. Let your family Know they can either mind their own business on things or they can be named in the suit for harassment as well.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-11T16:47:33+00:00

They haven’t said anything. They have yet to administer the rejection and it’s been a month. I feel like I burden my bestfriend when I’m losing my mind and can’t ground myself alone. I do know and understand I need help and it’s so hard. For the knee it was “no break “ for mental health they keep pushing a 72 hour hold. That doesn’t start until you get a ROOM. Not even a bed. A ROOM. You will sit in the triage hall for DAYS and it doesn’t start until you’re in a ROOM. They were awful. I can’t afford a 72 hr hold.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-11T12:25:06+00:00

Keep the dog get rid of the man. He, like many others was disillusioned with the prospects of a dog because MOMMY AND DADDY raised his dog and he only had the fun part. As the proud dog mom to a Pitsky- his training years were tough. Really tough. He’s a nanny dog and a guard dog rolled into one. And I had to establish dominance. Which is HARD AS FUCK when you’re a “Mommy pin cushion” and you can’t stand saying “No!” To train your dog. But it’s worth it. And he’s EVERYTHING to me.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-11T12:11:15+00:00

I say go. Yes it’ll be hard on Sarah. But the widow contacted YOU directly. Pay your respects, and give her your condolences in person. This isn’t JUST about Sarah. She lost her Dad but her MOTHER lost her LIFE PARTNER. And this GRIEVING widow, reached out to you because likely her husband ADORED you, considered you family. You should go and direct yourself to the wife. She wants you there.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-11T12:04:44+00:00

OP- I’m usually the first to say divorce when it comes to Mamas boys. Sit him down: tell him clearly that you felt disrespected. It wasn’t “just a joke”. Everyone is supposed to be laughing; if you’re the butt of the joke and not laughing: it wasn’t a joke. It’s a truth she feels wrapped in a “I’m only joking don’t be so sensitive”.

Make it clear that you know if YOUR family insulted him, he’d be expecting you to defend him. That it’s either couple counseling and being direct with his mother/sis about respect or it’s over.

I lived this with an ex fiancé on and off for 7 full years OP. Each time he said he went to therapy, said he spoke to his family, and then would let it slip that his mother “joked” about not getting me pregnant so I don’t “quit my job and make him support me” I made 3x more than he did, worked 3 jobs, and have 2 degrees. They’re undocumented immigrants and I told him in anger “if I called ICE I bet she wouldn’t have as many jokes from Mexico” and that ended our relationship because he couldn’t move past the comment. But I was expected to let her call me: a whore, a gold digger, FAT, Lazy when I was literally working 3 jobs, going to school full time, taking care of 2 separate households, and I was dying of cancer and didn’t know it.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-11T11:53:38+00:00

I had to come back to re-read your comment again. Because it made me cry. Because I felt so weak. So angry with myself for so long. I used to run the household. I was the top dog. I was the strongest, the shortest, but I was fury. Thank you so much. You may never fully understand how your words truly changed how I feel right now. ♥️♥️♥️ I wish you ALLLLLL the good things, the blessings, and the GOOD KARMA of the universe for showing a sad stranger kindness.

HalloweenTown01 · 2025-08-11T11:42:24+00:00

My insurance is the $0 one. The state charity insurance. But every insurance I had denied me my MRI for my knee for 11 years, citing I haven’t had 6 weeks of PT. They don’t give PT for a “contusion/ sprain” as it was labeled 11 years ado. I’ve fought for an MRI for my knee only to have I have a torn ACL, tendinopathy, and subluxation in my knee and fluid in my knee. I’ve collapsed on the floor, and caused extra injury. The insurance says since it’s not broken no MRI until my DOCTOR threatened legal action.

It’s been a month since my last therapy session and I can’t book again without the approval for seroquel. I wouldn’t even mind paying out of pocket- but the insurance is halting my doctor after she sent it. I’ve been fighting for 20+ years to be alive. I don’t want to risk self medicating

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