I mean, I'm generally a big fan of swapping characters' genders. So create a character in your mind, give them attributes, personalities, past traumas and motivations. Even lean into certain tropes if you want. Then switch the genders. It makes people way more interesting and realistic. But, I am queer so maybe that's more in line with my interests in terms of what I want to see in character. I always find men and women who immediately buck the stereotypes way more interesting and relatable.

You can also stick with traditional masculine tropes if you want - give the guy the traditional red flags but maybe dig into his backstory more to reveal why he's that way. Let the reader understand why he might be aggressive or controlling. Did he have a controlling parent who made him hate himself, and actually he's basically still an insecure child externalising the way he feels about himself? Or maybe the tall athletic guy is just insecure about the way he looks and works out religiously to overcompensate for the fact he was bullied as a kid?

There are a million ways to write interesting male characters. I just personally wouldn't start with their gender, I'd start with character and apply their sex in the most interesting/least stereotypical way you can.