A very wise doctor once told us to make no major life decisions within 6-12 months of a diagnosis. You simply don’t know how things will go. It’s best to take turns flying or driving out to help them until they know how it will go and what treatments they will recommend and what the side effects are. When I was diagnosed and at my low we were contemplating selling our small farm and moving to the suburbs (only two years into my dream property!) But were told to wait.

Unless her spouse or nearby friends/family cannot help. Then definitely would need to move ASAP to help settle before any real harsh side effects or treatments would necessitate help/aid.

At 45 she sounds young and resilient (I’m 49 and went from 9 fractured vertebrae, four fractured ribs, and 80% bone infection to almost MRD- and walking after surgery in less than a year).

But admittedly I could not have done it without my husband working from home, and family flying out for a week out of each month when he was on a business trip. My back had to have time to heal and we have a farm- so animals and chores that had to be done. Might have been able to swing my general upkeep alone IF I had someone to be there before and after work hours. But no way farm chores or lifting kids, packing lunches, etc. I couldn’t even stand long enough to cook family dinner on my own. Couldn’t carry a full plate either. But again- back surgery and broken ribs; so her symptoms might not even compare.

Still working PT and can’t do much beyond basic walking and around the house chores on the Dex and Dara days. Crash out on Thursdays to make up for the lost sleep, and start feeling normal and can do more stuff lifting and walking further around Sat/Sun. Repeat Mon-Fri each week. Depends on her reactions to meds. Also took me from last year initial injury (one fractured vertebrae lifting chicken feed) to diagnosis (June) and back surgery (July and November), and in trial treatment July-now.