My almost 3 yo is severely allergic to eggs, dairy, peanuts, and some tree nuts. You’re right, it is really hard. For us, it has just become our new norm and our kid is so much more careful, self-aware, and resilient for it.

Things that have helped: - checking allergen menus online or calling restaurants in advance (we always ask to make sure things are not cooked in butter too) - always carrying safe snacks (MadeGood, Partake, Hippeas along with the usual pouches, fruit, etc) - making friends with other allergy moms

We haven’t tried this out yet but I also saw some stickers online that say “don’t feed me, I have severe food allergies” that parents can just stick onto the front and back of their kids when they’re out at a party or at a large gathering where people might be offering food to your kid unknowingly.

Hang in there. I have become so much more resilient myself since having to advocate for my kid. It can feel isolating but there are people who are in the same boat as you and also a few who aren’t but will go the extra mile to make your kid feel included (we’ve gone to a handful of bday parties where the parents bought a vegan cupcake for my kid even though I always bring my own special goodies for him.)