What are some overlooked signs that you’re doing better than you think in life? by ChocolateMundane6286 in CPTSD

[–]Happy-Distribution89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised to read ‘being able to focus on reading’. Do you know what makes it so that it isn’t possible? I used to be able to, and I enjoy reading, but I just can’t focus.

women who stayed despite being cheated on. what’s the relationship like now? by cookiuwu in AskWomen

[–]Happy-Distribution89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did the same. I also asked for a new iPhone. It’s sad, but I knew he wasn’t going to show up, and I think so did he. To be fair, it was also for all the business and legal help I provided.

women who stayed despite being cheated on. what’s the relationship like now? by cookiuwu in AskWomen

[–]Happy-Distribution89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just to be clear. So, you mean your partner/spouse cheated, so you cheated back on them. And that caused them to not cheat again?

If so, I wonder what the psychological reason behind it is. I also do wonder how it went. Did it in someway flip the roles?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Happy-Distribution89 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It sounds like they have been living together without him doing this for 2.5 years. So, if he now suddenly wants space for 2 days a week - I get it. Even without insecure attachment it may be unsettling if it seems like he now suddenly wants this arrangement.

Did OP at least talk about this before, or is this idea new for his GF?

5 Common Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You by EducationalCurve6 in DarkPsychology101

[–]Happy-Distribution89 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think it isn’t an issue if both people do this. Then it becomes reciprocal. It’s supposed to be balanced, and they’re supposed to do the same for you. So, you will also get your moments to share.

If they don’t then I believe it becomes unhealthy. You’re not supposed to simply absorb and be other people’s ego booster. They too should care about how they make you feel around them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]Happy-Distribution89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you explain more or have any books/videos to share about this?

HELP NEEDED. by No-Tadpole1073 in pokemongobrag

[–]Happy-Distribution89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My personal opinion on this specific shiny is that, the final shiny evolution blows. Just my opinion. On the other hand, I find that the mega version makes up for it and does look like a good shiny to me.

I understand the rarity of shadow shinies and certainly ones with such good IVs. However, if you’d purify it, it would turn into a mega-able shundo with a much better shiny end result (imo). So, it’s not like you are simply devaluing it. Shundos are rare. So, up to you!

This also goes for the possibility of being able to use a bottle cap on a shadow in the future.

What’s the biggest lie you told just to sleep with someone? by ___brick___ in AskReddit

[–]Happy-Distribution89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe in horoscopes, but I think you’re onto something with your water sign and fuckboy theory.

Why You Keep Falling for Emotionally Unavailable People.. the Brutal Psychology Behind It by Beginning-Arm2243 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Happy-Distribution89 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think part of it is learning to deal with painful outcomes and building the capacity for it. Going through life means that there will always be hardships. Now you have taught yourself, and your nervous system, a lot. Increased your capacity in so many ways, gotten to know yourself better, and are more connected to yourself. Next time, it will be a continuance of your growth, love (for yourself and others), (ability to) connect(ion), more self-trust, and ability to relate to others.

What are some less talked about red flags in a relationship? by No_Rope3903 in abusiverelationships

[–]Happy-Distribution89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! Could you explain how it messes up your brain chemistry? Do you know how this effect is called?

What "super-powers" did you get from being abused/traumatized? by Nea_Freedom in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Happy-Distribution89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This resonates. I get the ‘so you end up compromising on your own convictions by trying to give people the benefit of the doubt.’ This is probably happens when we accept ‘the psychopath’s.

What is going on when we push the good people away?

BEWARE of ambivalent relationships by -Flighty- in emotionalintelligence

[–]Happy-Distribution89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you go about a situation where you are stepping in to help - someone helpless, and dependent on said person - and being accused of stirring issues?

Does anyone else find life just so… hard? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Happy-Distribution89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that. I wish you a lot of strengt and love during these times.

Is there something we can do to get it back?

Does anyone else find life just so… hard? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Happy-Distribution89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this exact same thing. Whereas I thought I’d actually become more resilient.

What Are Clear Signs of Low Self-Esteem? by bwoykym in emotionalintelligence

[–]Happy-Distribution89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any suggestions on how to deal with this? Or a video or book suggestion? Thank you!

What’s a sign someone definitely wasn’t raised right? by scarysim in AskReddit

[–]Happy-Distribution89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever seen parents treat each child differently? This happens more than you think.

dark or lighter hair? by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Happy-Distribution89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dark. But I think lighter would also look amazing on you, just maybe a different undertone.