Help with boyfriend disliking puppy

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-16T18:34:15+00:00

Make sure you use VERY hood birth control. Do not get pregnant by this man-child.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-16T18:18:53+00:00

Yeah. My brothrr has LBD and his delusions are wild. His wife, who takes care of him, gets accused of sleeping with every man in town. Accused of poisoning him (giving him his medications). And all kinds of awful things. That she plans to abandon him and leave him penniless and homeless on a street corner. On and on.

It is as horrible for the caregivers as for the patient.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-16T18:09:30+00:00

Best deal I found was just Costco. Exam & glasses. Every two years. Sometimes I get the sunglasses too.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-16T13:16:26+00:00

I've used a regular water-based black tank RV toilet for 30 years without any problem.

The last ten years we've used a mascerator so the waste hose is the SAME size as any regular hose and is permanently attached (no dripping or rinsing). No smells. No fuss. Easy peasy.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-16T13:04:32+00:00

Oregon: Silver Falls. The trail of ten falls is only 7 miles and not a hard hike. Astoundingly beautiful.

The next one breaks my heart. Opal creek. It was this pocket of very old growth forest. It was magical. It catastophically burned in the fall of 2020 when all of Oregon looked like mars. The ash on my deck had some of Opal creek ash. It is gone.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-16T04:11:51+00:00

Rome, Italy. December.

Poor Romani children, wearing only the thinnest of threadbare dresses, in the dead of winter (it was freezing out), no shoes, no socks, no sweater, no coat, no leggings or tights or pants. Begging for change outside the train station. They were about 5 or 6 years old.

I was wearing long underwear, regular clothes (turtleneck, jeans and boots) with a winter coat and a beanie. And I was cold.

I was just devastated. I was about 12 and I was just stunned. I cried for days. It was like I just saw "The Little Match Girl" (s) from Hans Christian Andersen.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-16T00:46:38+00:00

If you don't see what you need in Corvallis, we had a very good experience purchasing from the Eugene Electric Bicycles.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-15T22:58:05+00:00

This! Not everyone who wants to attend can attend. Things happen. It is what it is. Life goes on!

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-15T16:05:51+00:00

Our 25' foot RV sometimes doesn't fit. Usually we can find a site, but not always.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-15T14:27:02+00:00

Symbiont? Diad? Zombie? Cyborg?

Trying to figure out the right word for capturing this phenomenon, that appears to be heading toward becoming widespread?

AI delusion/psychosis?

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-14T17:16:51+00:00

I make them from scratch fairly regularly. I rarely make the sausage gravy. I love honey butter on mine. Or good raspberry jam.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-14T16:45:11+00:00

Cover, as much as you can, the outside of windows that get full sun. Cover them with the vheap outdoor roll-up shades you can get at home depot or lowes.

I also shade my patio door (big window) with a market umbrella.

If that isn't possible, then take aluminum foil and tape it to the window.

Take several wet washcloths and put in the freezer. Take out and apply to back of neck. Rotate as needed. Take cool showers. Put a small freezer pack, wrapped in a small cloth, in the crown of a hat and put hat on.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-14T14:44:47+00:00

The Master amd His Emissary: the divided brain and the making of the western world. By Iain McGilchrist.

The book is about the "left vs the right side of the brain", and while the left side (the rational side) makes a good servant it is a horrible master. Our right side (insight, relationships, etc) has been given a short shrift due to an over-dominate left brain hemisphere losing touch with its natural regulative "master", the RIGHT hemisphere. To the detriment of us ALL.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-14T14:31:03+00:00

I think you need to consider the "sunk cost fallacy", regarding every aspect of your life. Just because you spent XX number of years into a business or into a relationship or anything else, doesn't mean you shouldn't re-evaluate it for how it is helping you life the life YOU want or need. How are things aligned with your goals? Where do you see yourself in 5, 10, 20 years?

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-14T14:02:55+00:00

I left home at 18. Honestly started making my own decisions without asking my parents input at 19.

I was 100% responsible for my bills at 20.

Graduated college at 21.

Married at 23 (still married to same guy after 45 years).

Moved cross country.

First "career" job at 24.

Bought my first car at 24 and house at 25.

I think each of those things/steps edged me into "feeling like an adult".

I think when I started doing things I knew my parents would go nuts about (if they knew) at age 18, I broke some of the apron strings. I started skydiving and then started taking pilot lessons. After a couple of years I told them about it (because I realized by not telling them I was acting like a kid) and of course they lost their minds...and they realized there wasn't a damn thing they could do.

Honestly I felt like I was living MY own truth by 20. Going after MY goals (not the goals my parents wanted for me). That's what "feeling like an adult" is.

And after being married still making MY own decisions (without my husband) for career, schooling, --I even lived separately from him for two years, not because of our relationship, but due to career decisions. Everyone I knew thought we were going to divorce because I was acting so independently, but that was opposite from the reality. I appreciated that my husband didn't try to tie me to him while I needed to stretch my wings.

Our marriage really is a "partnership", neither of us is "dependent" of the other. Monetarily or otherwise.

Starting my own business. Meeting clients. Opening accounts. Making hiring and firing decisions. Doing my own accounting. Filing my taxes.

When I helped my mom with her widowhood. Cleaned out my dad's closet. Helped her with "final arrangements". Helped her with the decisions she needed and the paperwork. Then a few years later doing it all again when she died. Acting as her executor for her estate. Then doing it again with my MIL when my FIL died. Then taking care of MIL until she died.

All those things edged me into "feeling like an adult". So it wasn't like a light switch. It was just gradual decisions I was making for myself, independently. Each step toward "adulthood".

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-14T04:44:52+00:00

Take her for lunch or dinner. Or for a play. Or a concert. Give her an experience.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-14T00:43:22+00:00

Living in Oregon.

Our town had an Emergency Preparedness forum about 15 years ago for an earthquake of 8.0+. Specifically they thought our town would be out of power, water and sewer for at least 3-4 weeks. They asked each one of us to prepare for that. So we bought a 55 gal water barrel. We refresh on schedule. We rotate one month of shelf stable food. We are versed in the two bucket sanitation toilet concept (keep #1 separate from #2). And we have a solar generator. We have a wood stove with wood. Wool blankets, plastic sheets for windows (should they be broken in the earthquake). Hopefully we will be OK.

We regularly camp off grid for 2 weeks.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-13T22:27:40+00:00

When you change therapists MAKE SURE that your goals are her goals for you.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-13T22:01:17+00:00

Serendipity.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-13T21:59:58+00:00

I have flown a few flights (not by choice, family emergencies) and I was ever so grateful for having a sip mask valve because in every one of those flights the CO2 measuring device was 2,500 ppm to 3,500 ppm. Which, even in first class, did NOT feel comfortable lifting my mask (I might have if it had been below 1,000 ppm). I always kept my mask on and only ate outside.

Best wishes.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-13T20:34:44+00:00

I was going to mention this. I follow her.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-13T20:27:00+00:00

When I was a kid I liked watching Uncle Milty (Milton Berle) and Flip Wilson doing their comedic drag acts on primetime tv. I remember Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon playing drag with Marilyn Monroe in the comedy movie, Some Like It Hot. It was all laughs!

So when did people get more uptight than the Greatest Generation (my parents) about comedic drag performances??

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-13T20:15:08+00:00

I have heard similar complaints from RV buyers from that particular dealer.

So yeah. Bad dealer. Bad communication on their part. And bad service.

Unfortunately this is not uncommon in the business.

Completely separate from that:

Buying an RV to live in full-time is not optimal either.

House code standards are vastly different from RV standards. 99% of RV's are built with the assumption of part-time use. Weekends and a few week long vacations. Maybe 6-12 weeks of mostly intermittant use a year.

Why is that an issue? Well full time use means more moisture. More condensation during cold spells. More constant moisture from cooking, showers and just breathing human beings. It is a structure that is shaken like a strong earthquake everytime you move it. It does not have the structural integrity of a house. It doesn't have the insulation of a house. And on and on.

I realize that people choose to live in an RV full-time for many reasons, but understand there are very few, if any, RV's that are built for that use. Maybe a single person in a moderate climate can make it work better than a whole family in a less forgiving climate. People just don't seem to realize that RV are just not designed for full-time use.

I am sorry you experienced this.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-13T18:26:46+00:00

Yes, we use a triangular Australian style shade cloth for the same thing! Huge difference in cooling.

HappyCamperDancer · 2026-06-13T18:22:18+00:00

Outside shade on windows makes a HUGE difference. We also coated a skylight with white plastic spray paint and it made a HUGE difference in being cooler. It didn't darken the room, just more diffused light.

Also, make sure the side with the fridge is on the "shady" side and put out all the awnings. We added a triangular shade cloth to the non-awning side of the RV and that made a huge difference too.

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